The right time for elderly loved ones to stop driving
We’ve all experience ageism to some degree, but without a doubt one of the worst examples is when it comes to driving. Let’s face it, there are some negative stereotypes surrounding older drivers, and while the vast majority are unwarranted and many seniors are capable drivers for the rest of their lives, the fact is that certain aspects of ageing will impact our ability to drive.
So, how do we know when it’s the right time for an elderly loved one to give up the keys? Let’s take a look at some of the signs.
Physical signs:
- Decreased strength in the arms, making steering difficult
- Neck pain or stiffness, which can make it hard to turn the head
- Leg and knee problems, which inhibit the ability to manage speed and braking
- Any physical injury that appears to be impairing their driving ability
Mental signs:
- Delayed reaction times
- Failure to notice road signs or speed indicators
- Frequent minor accidents or near-misses
- Getting lost
Illnesses like dementia, stroke, Parkinson’s and diabetes and the medications that treat them can severely impair the ability to drive, as do hearing and sight issues.
If you’re starting to suspect it may be time for your loved one to give up driving, it’s important to keep in mind that this is a sensitive issue. For many elderly people, loss of mobility means the loss of their independence.
Instead of harshly telling them to stop, suggest ways in which they might ease off driving:
- Public transport – if they’ll no longer be able to get from A to B on their own, show your loved one the easiest routes to the places they frequently visit. Perhaps even print out bus and train timetables or, if they’re particularly technologically savvy, download a local public transport app for real-time updates.
- Curfews – for many seniors, difficulty driving at night due to sight issues is a serious concern. If they experience trouble driving in the dark, suggest they only drive during the day and see how this goes.
- Be a chauffeur – while not ideal if you lead a busy life, be prepared that by suggesting your loved one gives up driving, you may be expected to help out. If you can, organise ‘shifts’ with family and friends –this way, everyone’s doing their part.
- Delivery – remind them that it’s easier than ever to get your groceries and other items online and delivered to your door, often at no extra cost. Show them how to shop online or set aside some time each week to do it for them.
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