Best way to communicate with teenage grandchildren
Teenagers are typically seen as poor communicators, especially with their parents. A few grunts or a slammed door seem to be the way they let their feelings be known.
As grandparents, we hope that our relationship with our grandchildren will continue to be as loving as it is when they are young. But in reality grandparents might need a few tips for communicating with teens. Read on for our advice.
Speak in a way they understand
If you are asked for your advice or opinion, use real stories from your own teenage years (rather than generalised clichés) to help your grandchildren know that you can relate to them. The world may have changed but morals and manners remain the same from generation to generation.
Leave their appearance out of the conversation
Try not to comment on or judge the way your grandchildren dress or wear their hair. This will only cause them to put their barriers up and avoid coming to you for a chat. When someone feels judged, they can feel that their opinion is not valued, so always leave the discussion of lip rings or tattoos off the table. They probably get enough flack from their parents already.
Use activities to get them to open up
Asking a teen to sit down for a face to face talk can feel daunting, but there is a way around it. Find something to do together, such as cooking a meal or washing the car, and use this time to ask them what’s going on in their life. Often when focused on a task, and not having to make eye contact, a teenager can open up about what’s on their mind. Remember they are not little anymore, so ensure the activity is age appropriate.
Have you got any tips for communicating with teens that you would like to share with other Over60 readers? We would love to hear from you in the comments below.
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