Grandmother refuses to meet newborn grandson because she wasn’t at birth
A first-time mum has opened up on an online parenting forum to share how her mother is refusing to meet her newborn grandchild because she wasn’t present at the birth.
The unknown mum explained her story on Mumsnet, revealing that her mother has described her as “evil” for not allowing her to be in the delivery room during labour.
The mum wrote: “Mum hates me because she wasn't at the birth.”
She said she tried to be “polite” about not inviting her mum to the hospital as it was a sensitive topic.
However, shortly after her son’s birth, her mum bombarded her with angry messages and is refusing to see her grandchild.
"So I had my little boy in August. In the run up my mum kept demanding she was at the birth because 'I won't cope' and I need her there (I'm 24 and married)," she explained.
"I tried to tell her politely that if I need her I'll send my husband to pick her up straight away and that I'd be fine. I was fine and I felt I coped really well with the birth.
"The same day my son was born I text her that he'd arrived and that I can't wait to introduce them and when I was home probably the next day she can come and visit," she added.
"She didn't ask me how I was or say congratulations just bombarded me with questions like why didn't I get my husband to pick her up, telling me I'm evil and not normal for depriving a grandmother of the experience ... Should I feel guilty?
"The experience of the birth was amazing and I'm glad it was only myself and my husband there."
The offended new grandmother has since called her daughter “mentally unstable” and said her family can “go to hell”.
Users on the forum quickly jumped to the young mum's defence, saying she should not feel guilty about her decision.
One mum wrote: "Your mum sounds really controlling and I have to agree with your husband that she sounds unstable. I would leave her to it, unless she comes to you with a very good reason for her behaviour. Concentrate on your baby and husband, but please don't waste any guilt on your mum. Congratulations by the way!"
Another said that she made the same decision when her child was born.
"I love my mum to bits but no way did I want her there when I gave birth!" she wrote.
But some disagreed, saying that the grandmother had every right to feel upset.
"I kind of feel sorry for your mum," one wrote.
"No disrespect to you but she sounds so disappointed and upset. I can’t blame her to be honest, receiving a text after her grandchild was born is so impersonal."
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