Why spoiling your grandchildren isn’t always a bad thing
Bratty, demanding, impatient, rude – it is a truth universally acknowledged that no one likes a spoiled child. So why do so many grandparents gleefully admit to “spoiling” their grandchildren? Surely they remember the difficulties of parenting a young child. At this point, it’s important to remember that there’s a difference between surprising children with gifts and treats, and indulging bad behaviour with rewards – though the former can evolve into the latter over time.
Let’s take a look at ways you can “spoil” your grandchildren without spoiling them.
Spoil with gifts
We get such joy from being able to buy things that will make our grandchildren happy. While it’s not something you should do all the time, buying surprise gifts for your grandkids will bring a smile to their face. If you’re worried about the kinds of toys they might be playing with, or what their parents will say about that, visit an educational toy shop or a games store. The salespeople there are usually full of excellent suggestions of out-of-the-box gift ideas for young children. If it’s a gift they have never seen before, it will make it more special and memorable.
Spoil with time
Not all gifts have to be physical. Spending quality time with your grandchildren can be a treat for everyone involved. Not only will their parents appreciate a little time to themselves, your grandchildren will love having the undivided attention of another grown-up. Next time you’re babysitting, or out to lunch with the family, make a point of having a conversation just with your grandchild. Or help them write a story. Have them help you bake cupcakes or biscuits. Teach them a game of cards. Make the moment special and unique and your grandchild will feel truly spoiled.
Spoil with experiences
Do you remember those times when an adult in your life took you somewhere amazing for a morning, an afternoon, or even an entire day? Get creative and think of fun experiences your grandchildren might love. Research the best local parks and take them to one they’ve never visited. Or take them to a nearby town for a picnic lunch. Making your grandchild the star of the day will help them feel appreciated and loved.
Spoil with treats
If you’re spending an afternoon with your grandchild, and you want to treat them because they’ve been so good, consider spoiling them with an over-the-top sweet treat. In this case, it’s about buying them something they’ll remember for years to come – that fancy-looking dessert, perhaps? This is something you should only do with complete awareness of your grandchild’s dietary requirements.
Spoil with permission
When you want to spoil your grandchildren, you should try to do so in keeping with the wishes of their parents. If you’re told that a child has been naughty at home for a while, then buying them a special treat may not be the best idea – that’s when legitimate spoiling happens.
Are you a grandparent who spoils? What are your favourite treats to share with your grandchildren?