7 practical ways to support a friend through illness
As we age, it gets more and more common to hear that a friend has taken ill. It can feel awkward knowing what to say or do, especially when the prognosis is bad. But it’s always better to say or do something rather than ignore it. Today we have seven ideas for how you can offer help to someone who really needs it (even if they say they are fine).
1. Make a catch-up phone call
Even when you are ill, it’s nice to have people call and see how you are. They may not want to talk for long, but that’s OK. At least they will know you have them in mind. If they’re up to it, make a plan to come and visit them or to phone them again soon.
2. Drop off freezable meals or cakes
When you’re not well, cooking is the last thing you feel like doing. Yet good food can be a simple way to feel better. Help your friend out by bringing something they can either have that day, or freeze for another time.
3. Don’t stay too long
If you do visit your sick friend, always make a point of not staying too long. They may find visitors nice but tiring, so 15-20 minutes is about right.
4. Send something thoughtful
It’s always nice to receive a package in the post or on the doorstep. A well thought out gift can really brighten someone’s day. For instance, you might send a pair of woolly socks, a heat pack with a cute cover, a hamper full of nice treats, or the latest novel from their favourite author.
5. Put it in writing
It’s not often we receive a hand-written note or card these days, and that makes them extra special. Putting pen to paper also gives you a chance to think about what you would like to say to the sick person. Even a simple ‘I’m thinking of you’ is a kind gesture.
6. Offer to take care of some jobs
It can be as simple as texting them to say ‘I’m heading to the shops later, is there anything I can pick up for you?’ Or if you know that their dog needs walking, or their lawn might need mowing…you get the drift. Be helpful in practical ways.
7. Talk about something else
Some people want to talk about their illness, but many would rather hear about other (more positive) things. So tell them about your new neighbour, a recipe you’re trying, or about a holiday you’re planning. Keep their mind on happy thoughts can only be a positive. If they want to talk about something else, no doubt they’ll let you know.
How did your friends support you during a period of illness? We would love to hear your stories in the comments.