Top 5 myths about relationships
We’re all guilty of assuming certain things when it comes to relationships… but do find your thoughts don’t quite match up to the reality? Well, all sorts of frustration and disappointment can ensue. So let’s dispel five of the biggest misconceptions about relationships people have.
1. Myth: A good relationship means you don’t have to work at it
Fact: A strong and happy relationship takes effort, hard work and dedication. Think of it like a garden – it’s beautiful but you wouldn’t expect it to flourish without the labour of love.
2. Myth: If you really love each other, you should just know what the other person wants
Fact: You can’t expect anybody, even your partner, to be able to read your mind. The expectation that someone will instinctively know what you need will only be met with disappointment. In a healthy relationship, you communicate your feelings and needs to your partner.
3. Myth: If you’re truly in love, the romance and passion will never fade
Fact: Thanks to rom-com movies, there’s a persistent idea that true love means everlasting passion, romance and butterflies in the stomach. However, passion in relationships naturally fades mostly due to the humdrum of daily routines and other responsibilities. It doesn’t mean passion and romance aren’t important in relationships, it just means it’s impossible for passion and romance to be never-ending – or something that exists without working at it.
4. Myth: Happy couples don’t fight
Fact: A lack of conflict in relationships actually signals that you are not resolving your problems and issues. Arguing, as long as it’s not destructive, is not inherently a negative thing and can be an important form of communication to expressing your feelings, releasing tension and clearing the air.
5. Myth: A relationship will make me happy
Fact: A relationship isn’t an instant cure to unhappiness or loneliness. If you’re not happy with yourself and your life, a new relationship is likely to magnify your unhappiness. Don’t depend on someone else for your happiness; instead look to find happiness within and bring that to your relationships.
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