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“Don’t marry him”: Bride-to-be shares wild altercation with her future in-laws over her wedding dress

<p dir="ltr">A woman has been told to “run” from her fiancé after sharing a wild conversation she had with her future in-laws about her wedding dress. </p> <p dir="ltr">The bride-to-be shared that ever since she was a child, she wanted to wear her mother’s wedding dress on her own big day. </p> <p dir="ltr">However, the woman was then confronted by her soon-to-be in-laws, with drama ensuing over her wedding dress.</p> <p dir="ltr">Taking to Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page, the woman explained, "My mother's wedding dress has been passed down for generations and I remember being a little girl dreaming of walking down the aisle in it."</p> <p dir="ltr">Despite her wishes to wear the family heirloom on her big day, she said things went south at a dinner at her sister-in-law’s (SIL) house when she  "tapped her spoon against the glass and said that she had to make a toast."</p> <p dir="ltr">"She then said she would be right back before going into another room and returning with a large plastic bag," the bride continues.</p> <p dir="ltr">"Everyone seemed to be excited but I just felt confused."</p> <p dir="ltr">As she "awkwardly smiled", her SIL opened the bag to reveal her wedding dress from her wedding two years earlier as her in-laws began clapping, as her future sister-in-law announced she wanted the bride to wear her dress at her upcoming nuptials.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I tried to smile but I guess I didn't do a good job of hiding my disappointment and everyone began asking me what was wrong," the bride-to-be continues, adding that she tried to explain that she wanted to wear her mother's wedding dress.</p> <p dir="ltr">At this point, her SIL began to cry and her in-laws began berating her, causing the bride to burst into tears and run outside.</p> <p dir="ltr">"My fiancé didn't even come after me and after crying my eyes out on the steps for what felt like hours, he finally came outside and yelled at me to get into the car," she says.</p> <p dir="ltr">Confused, she got into the car only for her fiancé to berate her for making "such a big scene" leaving him feeling "embarrassed in front of his family."</p> <p dir="ltr">"He sounds so mad and he even said he couldn't believe he chose to marry such a 'bitchy c--t' (his exact words)."</p> <p dir="ltr">The woman tried to explain how important it was to her to wear her mother's dress and that she had already promised her mother she would be wearing it on her big day.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I felt like my fiancé's family planned this and put me on the spot thinking I wouldn't stand up for myself and just agree to wear SIL's dress," she continues.</p> <p dir="ltr">"I don't think I did anything wrong but a part of me thinks I should have just gone along with it and then told SIL in private that I wouldn't be wearing the dress."</p> <p dir="ltr">Hundreds of people were quick to comment on her post, suggesting that she “run” not only from her in-laws, but from her partner as well. </p> <p dir="ltr">"Ma'am you need to leave that whole family behind including your fiancé," one said. "You just had a peek into your future if you carry on with this relationship."</p> <p dir="ltr">"Don't you dare marry that man!!!" another said.</p> <p dir="ltr">"The problem doesn't exist as the wedding shouldn't be happening anymore," another added.</p> <p dir="ltr">One Redditor suggested she "be thankful that he is showing you who he really is before you marry him."</p> <p dir="ltr">"You have just had a glimpse of what your future is going to look like if you go through with your wedding."</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Shutterstock </em></p>

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Should you be recording inflight altercations?

<p>Chicago aviation police drag a bloodied man down the aisle of a United plane. A mother clutching her baby weeps after a scuffle with an American Airlines flight attendant.</p> <p>A Transportation Safety Administration officer prods a teenage boy during a security patdown in Texas. Fists fly at Fort Lauderdale-Hollywood after Spirit cancels dozens of flights.</p> <p>Since the start of the year, the collection of videos documenting altercations between airline personnel and customers has surpassed the number of movies in the Rocky franchise. The most recent addition: Navang Oza's 13-minute reel of his spat with a United ticketing agent in New Orleans.</p> <p>"We're in the midst of a social revolution driven by the fact that everyone has a camera phone in their pocket," said Jay Stanley, senior policy analyst at the American Civil Liberties Union. "People are challenging authority in new ways."</p> <p>Not so long ago, only immediate bystanders would have witnessed these alarming events. Today, millions of eyes are watching the incidents up close and on repeat. The critical question: Should you press the record button or duck behind the in-flight magazine? Many experts say "press."</p> <p>Amitai Etzioni, a sociology professor at George Washington University, says the public has a moral obligation to document injustices.</p> <p>"You cannot look away or ignore," he said. "At least record it and share it."</p> <p>Several recent passenger videos have spurred change. After the bumping incident, United and other carriers added consumer-friendly provisions to their overbooking policies. American suspended its belligerent crew member. The TSA worked with the mother of the teenager to update its online materials on travelling with children.</p> <p>"Technology is the new checks and balances against authority," Stanley said. "It can improve the situation."</p> <p>If you are worried about breaking the law by filming without permission, don't worry: If you are on public property.</p> <p>On its website, the ACLU explains the right to record: "Taking photographs and video of things that are plainly visible in public spaces is a constitutional right - and that includes transportation facilities."</p> <p>Publicly owned airports fall under this purview, though Stanley added that the courts have not fully tested the constitutionality of this rule, especially in relation to airports operated by public-private partnerships. On private property, the proprietor can prohibit photography and ask you to leave. The owner can also call the cops to escort you, the trespasser, off the premises.</p> <p>Planes are trickier beasts. The airlines own the aircraft, but Stanley explains that planes are "common carrier conveyances and otherwise highly regulated spaces." He said that he can't imagine the airlines prohibiting passengers from using their cellphones; administering such a ban, he said, would be a fruitless exercise.</p> <p>The carriers publish their guidelines on personal electronics in their in-flight magazines or on their websites.</p> <p>Since the recent spate of high-profile videos, the airlines have started to reexamine their guidelines. An American spokesman, for instance, said that the airline could loosen its stance on video. In addition, he said that the carrier expects passengers will share their experiences on social media, even ones that may ding the company's armor.</p> <p>"The rules are being reviewed in light of the fact that everyone has a camera," he said, "and they really can't be enforced."</p> <p>Stanley reminds would-be documentarians that neither an employee nor a law-enforcement officer can confiscate your device. An officer can only take your gadget with a warrant. And no one for any reason can delete your images. To safeguard your material, the ACLU created the free Mobile Justice app, which streams the footage from your phone to the nonprofit organisation's servers.</p> <p>If you happen to find yourself in the vicinity of a troubling situation, proceed with caution, experts advise: You do not want to escalate the situation or jeopardise your safety or the well-being of others.</p> <p>"Use the tool after careful consideration of the circumstances," said Jameel Jaffer, executive director of the Knight First Amendment Institute at Columbia University. "You could become a target of the violence."</p> <p>Witness.org, which trains citizens to use video to ignite change, offers an array of pointers and downloadable guides on its website, such as a blog post about obscuring identifiable features and the tip sheet, "Using Video for Human Rights Documentation."</p> <p>"Filming an incident of violence can put both the victim and the filmer at risk by exposing their location, identities and sensitive personal information," said Jackie Zammuto, US program manager at the site.</p> <p>"Put yourself in their shoes and think about what it might feel like to have this incident witnessed not only by people on the plane but by millions more online."</p> <p>In short, think before you share.</p> <p>"We're all publishers now and we have ethical responsibilities," Jaffer said, "even on social media."</p> <p>What’s your view?</p> <p><em>Written by Andrea Sachs. First appeared on <a href="http://www.stuff.co.nz/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz</span></strong></a>. </em></p>

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