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"You've restored my faith": Community shows up for lonely birthday boy

<p>One dad's desperate plea has "restored" his faith after his local community showed up for his son's third birthday party. </p> <p>Pre-schooler William Buck and his dad Steven sat patiently on a beach in Wellington, waiting for his friends to arrive and begin the celebrations for his third birthday party. </p> <p>As time passed, William and his dad grew more hopeless, and they worried about the fate of the celebrations. </p> <p>"He kept asking where everyone was, and we were like 'they’re coming soon'," Steven Buck told <em><a href="https://www.stuff.co.nz/life-style/wellbeing/parenting/133203054/familys-plea-after-nobody-shows-at-3yearolds-birthday-brings-community-to-beach" target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener" data-i13n="cpos:2;pos:1" data-ylk="slk:Stuff;cpos:2;pos:1;elm:context_link;itc:0" data-rapid_p="9" data-v9y="1">Stuff</a></em>.</p> <p>Steven felt "guilty" that none of his son's mates had come to the party, especially given how excited his son had been for this birthday, as he had been talking about the celebration for weeks. </p> <p>In a last ditch effort to make William's day special, Steven turned to social media for help. </p> <p>Steven posted an image of the pair online and invited any locals wanting "some sun and sand" to join them.</p> <p>"William would love some friends to play with. He has Hot Wheels, sand toys, dinos, and we have some snacks and drinks. Any and all welcome," he wrote.</p> <p>Amazingly, locals responded in their thousands, wishing William a 'Happy Birthday' while many others joined the three-year-old and his parents.</p> <p>"Going there. See you soon," one local wrote, before arriving with her family.</p> <p>The partygoers arrived with bubbles and inflatables, parking themselves down on beach chairs ready to celebrate the sunny day with William.</p> <p>"Thank you so much everyone for the birthday wishes and support," Steven wrote online after the day. "Wellington you always restore my faith in humanity!"</p> <p><em>Image credits: Facebook</em></p>

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Five spiritual tourism destinations and how to experience them

<p>The pandemic has led some people to take a greater interest in <a href="https://www.pewforum.org/2021/01/27/more-americans-than-people-in-other-advanced-economies-say-covid-19-has-strengthened-religious-faith/">religion</a> and <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-55419894">spirituality</a>. One of the many definitions of the “spirit” is that it is our inner, <a href="https://www.dictionary.com/browse/spirit">nonphysical world</a>, including both our conscious and subconscious minds. Our spiritual self <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S105381001830521X">interprets sensory inputs from our outer world</a> and <a href="https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2018/10/hallucinations-hearing-voices-reality-debate/571819/">creates our experience of reality</a>. </p> <p>We usually associate spirituality with practices such as worship, meditation and yoga. But for many, travelling can be highly spiritual, as it involves being immersed in an experience different from our normal existence. It is also a <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14616688.2020.1725618">“liminal experience”</a> – we are suspended in an unknown setting which opens us to new possibilities.</p> <p><a href="https://www.mdpi.com/2077-1444/11/4/177">Spiritual tourism</a>, including <a href="https://medium.com/tourism-geographic/three-ways-to-ensure-wellness-tourism-provides-a-post-pandemic-opportunity-for-the-travel-c997d7b842f7">wellness tourism</a>, was a rising global trend before the pandemic. The book and Hollywood film <a href="http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2011931,00.html">Eat Pray Love</a>, for example, drew tourists to India and Bali in Indonesia, seeking spiritual solutions to the challenges of modern life.</p> <p>As the pandemic eases and the world gradually returns to international travel, we expect places known for their spiritual energy and significance will become popular destinations. Spiritual tourism is <a href="https://medium.com/new-earth-consciousness/explore-your-world-explore-your-mind-b955665b17f8?sk=ae0b2423a08c57279f8391d7baaa90a4">as much about inner, self-reflexive experiences</a> as outer destination experiences. Here are five places you can visit with great spiritual significance.</p> <h2>1. The Old City of Jerusalem, Israel</h2> <p>The <a href="https://whc.unesco.org/en/list/148">Old City of Jerusalem</a> is often listed among the top spiritual places in the world. It contains some of the holiest sites for the Abrahamic religions, including the Western Wall for Judaism, the Church of the Holy Sepulchre for Christianity, and the Dome of the Rock for Islam. </p> <p>But even if you’re not a follower of these religions, the sounds, smells, narrow cobblestone footpaths, ancient architecture, and multicultural people, shops and foods open your mind. Some even succumb to <a href="https://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/the-jerusalem-syndrome">Jerusalem syndrome</a>, perhaps remembering a spiritual connection to the city from a past life.</p> <p>But while we can go to the most religious places in the world, they will not be spiritual until we turn inward. For tourists, there are several non-intrusive ways to turn inwards while maintaining respect for the destination. These include setting aside time for contemplation, maintaining a sense of <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/epub/10.1080/14616688.2021.2021978?needAccess=true">mindfulness</a> and openness to new experiences, and <a href="https://theconversation.com/what-is-walking-meditation-175989">silent walking</a> and <a href="https://medium.com/new-earth-consciousness/meditation-explainer-the-what-why-how-of-meditating-6bf6e934a982?sk=888fb69504e401a14495fe8717b5bb87">other forms of quiet meditation</a> and prayer. </p> <h2>2. The Ghats of Varanasi, India</h2> <p>Varanasi is the oldest and holiest city in India. It was already over 1,400 years old when the Buddha gave his first sermon near here in <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gautama_Buddha#cite_note-dating-12">around 400BC</a>. The city has more than 3,000 Hindu and over 1,300 Muslim holy sites, along with Buddhist, Jain, Sikh and Christian spiritual places.</p> <p>But Varanasi is most famous for <a href="https://whc.unesco.org/en/tentativelists/6526/">the “ghats” along the Ganges River</a>. Ghats are the over 80 sets of steps leading into the river from Hindu temples, shrines, and palaces. Bathing ghats are where devotees cleanse themselves of karma to be free of the cycle of incarnations. There are also cremation ghats. Spirituality permeates the narrow streets of temples, bazaars and artisans.</p> <h2>3. Luang Prabang, Laos</h2> <p><a href="https://d.docs.live.net/2f918da4f5876012/Desktop/A%20Trip%20to%20Laos%20for%20Spiritual%20Healing%20and%20Food%20Like%20No%20Other%20Place%20-%20Bloomberg">Luang Prabang</a> is the peaceful, laid-back, former capital of the historic kingdom of the same name. With <a href="https://whc.unesco.org/en/list/479/multiple=1&amp;unique_number=1954">33 Buddhist temples and shrines</a>, it embodies the Buddha’s teaching that our true essence is the silence within. </p> <p>The city is quiet, relaxing, and surrounded by the Mekong River with mountains and waterfalls nearby. Spirituality is everywhere, from exploring and contemplating temples and appreciating the daily rituals of monks and nuns, to taking long walks along the river and in the surrounding hills, and interacting with the people and culture. </p> <h2>4. The Hopi Mesas, Arizona, USA</h2> <p><a href="https://www.legendsofamerica.com/na-hopi/">The Hopi Native Americans</a> are among the most traditional cultures in the US today, with Old Oraibi village being the country’s oldest continuously occupied settlement. They are “settled agriculturalists”, living in villages atop mesas (flat-topped hills) and farming the lands below. <a href="https://hopitribeblog.weebly.com/religion--tradition.html">Their religion is secret</a>, but they announce <a href="https://www.kachinahouse.com/hopi-calendar">traditional social and spiritual dances</a> to the public about a week before they are held.</p> <p>Visitors are always welcome to watch the dances or wander the villages to see and buy from artisans. Photography or sketching are not allowed for spiritual reasons. The Hopi believe their religion maintains the spiritual stability of the entire planet. You get a sense of this as you step back into an infinite time of quiet solitude and meditate on the open vistas of the Hopi Mesas. Many are so taken that they become “<a href="https://leowbanks.com/journalism/bahana-humor-on-the-hopi-reservation/">wannabe Hopis</a>”, though outsiders are discouraged as permanent residents.</p> <h2>5. The Camino de Santiago, Spain</h2> <p><a href="https://whc.unesco.org/en/list/669">The Camino de Santiago</a> is an ancient pilgrimage route to the cathedral in Santiago, to worship the remains of St James, who brought Christianity to Spain. The journey can be long (several weeks) or short (several days) and can start in Spain, Portugal, or France. The most popular path is 780km long, starting from Saint Jean Pied de Port, France, to Santiago de Compostela, Spain.</p> <p>Although a religious tradition within Spain, the pilgrimage route attracts many spiritual tourists from elsewhere. As with most <a href="https://medium.com/tourism-geographic/why-you-might-want-to-consider-a-pilgrimage-for-your-next-holiday-or-day-trip-73911715222d">pilgrimage treks</a>, the journey is more important than the destination. </p> <p>For some it is meditative, bringing psychological <a href="https://brill.com/view/book/edcoll/9789004381223/BP000009.xml">wellbeing</a>. For others, it offers space to reflect on <a href="https://arrow.tudublin.ie/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1388&amp;context=ijrtp">personal challenges</a> (such as a relationship breakup or job loss). You can enjoy walking alone, but there is also a strong sense of community among like-minded pilgrims from around the world sharing hostel accommodations and meals.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/five-spiritual-tourism-destinations-and-how-to-experience-them-178372" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>. </em></p>

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"My little hatchling!" Nicole Kidman shares first look at daughter's Hollywood debut

<p>Nicole Kidman’s youngest children are choosing to follow in her footsteps. </p> <p>The 52-year-old actress and mother of four celebrated her eight-year-old daughter’s voice role in the new kids movie <em>Angry Birds 2</em>. </p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B0mjbsXgPP0/" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B0mjbsXgPP0/" target="_blank">My little hatchling Faith in the #AngryBirds2Movie 💕</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/nicolekidman/" target="_blank"> Nicole Kidman</a> (@nicolekidman) on Jul 31, 2019 at 6:09pm PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>"My little hatchling Faith in the #AngryBirds2Movie," the <em>Big Little Lies</em> star wrote on Instagram, with a short clip from the animated movie attached alongside.</p> <p>The movie features both Faith Margaret and her big sister, Sunday Rose, 11. </p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7829198/nicole-kidman.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/5bd049cb97944986921ef4d52507ba5e" /></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><em>Left to right: Faith Margaret, 8, Sunday Rose, 11, Nicole Kidman</em></p> <p>The two girls whose father is Keith Urban will play young hatchlings in the film alongside <em>Wonder Woman’s</em> Gal Gadot’s daughter.</p> <p>The celebrity children appearances do not end there though as Viola Davis’ seven-year-old daughter, Genesis will play a role in the film as well. </p> <p>This also isn’t the first time Faith Margaret and Sunday Rose have gotten a taste of what it's like to be on set as they intially made their acting debut earlier this year in two episodes of <em>Big Little Lies</em>. </p> <p>"They're not coddled on the set. And that's good for them,” Nicole told <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.you.co.uk/nicole-kidman-interview-2019/" target="_blank"><em>You</em> </a>magazine earlier this year. </p> <p>“It's given them a stronger understanding of what I do. It's made us all closer.”</p> <p><em>Angry Birds 2</em> is Nicole’s little girls first major roles. </p> <p>Kidman met musician Keith Urban in 2005 and they married the following year. In 2008, she gave birth to Sunday Rose and later in 2010 welcomed Faith Margaret via surrogacy. </p>

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So grown up! Nicole Kidman's daughters just landed major Hollywood roles

<p>They’re so much like their mother already! Nicole Kidman’s daughters with husband Keith Urban, Sunday, 11, and Faith, eight, have just landed their very own major movie roles for an upcoming film. </p> <p>Their very first role is one in a film likely to be seen by many excited children in September – <em>Angry Birds 2</em>.</p> <p>Sunday will be playing a bird called Lily, while her little sister Faith is voicing a bird named Beatrice.</p> <p>The young girls are sure to be knockouts considering their talented bloodline. It's not their first time in front of the camera either, after they joined their mother in playing extras on a TV series she was shooting in New York.</p> <p>Pictures of Kidman in her character for the HBO series <em>The Undoing</em> were captured of her on set, with her two young daughters standing alongside her.</p> <p>Both Sunday and Faith were wearing school uniforms in a street in Manhattan’s Upper West Side.</p> <p>It’s quite clear Nicole likes to keep her two youngest children by her side – and that includes in-between shoots or even when she is working.</p> <p>Nicole told <em>E! News</em> last year that her eldest daughter Sunday had gotten her own small role at school – hinting she might want to take after her talented mother.</p> <p>“My daughter just got cast in her school, so that's been the main priority, learning lines with her,” Kidman said.</p> <p>The Golden Globe winner has opened up in the past about her unconventional parenting methods – admitting she doesn’t let either of them have a phone.</p> <p>Next to that, neither of her girls are allowed to use social media, including Instagram.</p> <p>Even despite being “unpopular” in her daughter’s eyes, she still tries to “keep some sort of boundaries".</p> <p>Nicole told<span> </span><em>E! News</em><span> </span>last year that her eldest daughter Sunday had gotten her own small role at school – hinting she might want to take after her talented mother.</p> <p>“My daughter just got cast in her school, so that's been the main priority, learning lines with her,” Kidman said.</p> <p>Scroll through the gallery above to see Nicole and her two daughter's spending a day on set together in New York – and how much Sunday and Faith have grown!</p>

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How this woman found her diamond ring will restore your faith that miracles do happen

<p>Once you lose a diamond ring in a busy car park, there’s no going back.</p> <p>And that’s exactly what happened to Shelley Wells, who dropped her prized possession in a Louisiana car park in the US on December 5.</p> <p>Despite the item of jewellery being small, Shirley Ross, who was also in the same car park on the same day, stumbled across the ring.</p> <p>She discovered the diamond ring as she was getting out of her car, and luckily for Wells, Ross was adamant on returning it to its rightful owner.</p> <p>It was an innocent blunder, as Wells took off her ring to apply hand cream as she sat in her car.</p> <p>She placed the ring on her lap, and forgetting that it was there, she got out of the car and dropped it.</p> <p>The ring was a 20th-anniversary present from her husband.</p> <p>She soon realised the sentimental item was missing and went back to the car park to look for it, but unfortunately, had no luck.</p> <p>Speaking to local news station <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.myarklamiss.com/news/local-news/shreveport-women-say-divine-intervention-led-to-lost-ring-s-return/1654182401" target="_blank"><em>KTAL</em></a>, Wells said: “That night I got into bed and I said, ‘OK, I’m going to post it on Facebook’.”</p> <p>She took to social media to ask about her ring at 10:19pm, hoping desperately for a response.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FShelley.Jenkins.Wells%2Fposts%2F10216463357632406&amp;width=500" width="500" height="528" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>With Ross having the ring in her possession, she thought to hand it to the store staff, so they could take care of it, but then a voice inside her told her to track down the owner herself.</p> <p>“As I looked at the ring, I said, ‘No, I can’t, I must pursue this,” she said.</p> <p>“I must find the owner of this ring.”</p> <p>Coincidentally, Ross was in this exact position before, as she had also taken off her wedding ring in a parked car and lost it.</p> <p>Unfortunately, Ross never found her ring, but that made her more determined to help deliver this one back to the woman who lost it.</p> <p>Ross’s daughter posted on Facebook exactly one minute after Wells at 10:20 pm about the found ring as she tried her best to find the owner.</p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fsherri.collier%2Fposts%2F10156886430339324&amp;width=500" width="500" height="480" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FShelley.Jenkins.Wells%2Fposts%2F10216467575217843&amp;width=500" width="500" height="573" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p style="text-align: center;"><iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FShelley.Jenkins.Wells%2Fposts%2F10216468368037663&amp;width=500" width="500" height="242" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe></p> <p>Wells, who’s post was shared over 3200 times, reached out to Ross by December 6.</p> <p>And a few short hours later, the ring was back in her hands.</p> <p>“Thank you to the most wonderful lady who saw it in the parking lot and was honest enough [to] turn it in!” she wrote on Facebook.</p> <p>“I truly have been gifted a Christmas miracle!!”</p>

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13 steps to recover from betrayal

<p><strong><em>Dr Carmen Harra is a best-selling author, clinical psychologist, and relationship expert.</em></strong></p> <p>Khalil Gibran said, “Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that faith is his twin brother.” Reminiscent of his words is the truth that we can sway between unshakable faith and extreme doubt in mere seconds. Under certain circumstances we can’t even tell doubt and faith apart, or we may feel consumed by both at the same time.</p> <p>Betrayal is one of these circumstances. We suffer quietly through disloyalty from a partner, friend, or family member, but this embeds harmful emotions deeply into our being. Our trust in others erodes if we don’t process the reality of betrayal and work through its painful impressions. And who hasn’t been betrayed? After one partner is unfaithful, we just can’t imagine our next love interest remaining loyal. If our best friend deceives us, we begin to think all friends are capable of this sinister act. In this way, we set ourselves up for a vicious cycle and program our minds to believe that betrayal is something we’ll just have to learn to live with. But infidelity of any kind can bring about wisdom and invaluable lessons to be learned. And we can take action to cleanse our spirit of the grim past and, in a sense, betray our own betrayal.</p> <p>Betrayal leaves us at a fork in the road. We can choose to act in ways that either favour or impede personal growth: we can become stuck in a bad moment forever or we can put it behind us for good. We decide our path. Act on my 13 steps to recover faith after betrayal:</p> <p><strong>1. Erase the imprints of betrayal.</strong> The wounds of betrayal can be so submerged in our subconscious mind that they might be difficult to extract. Meditation can help to reach the root of former deception and jumpstart the healing process. I recommend quietly meditating for a few minutes each day, digging into the contents of your brain and wiping out old memories or thought patterns that keep you stagnant.</p> <p><strong>2. Forgive.</strong> Forgiving does not mean accepting the wrong behaviour of others; it means detaching from the pain, frustration, and bitterness buried within. Forgiveness breaks us free like a ship dislodging from a dock; life is our open sea when we pardon the past. But as long as we harbor hatred or anger against others, personal progress is stifled. Strive to forgive one person a day.</p> <p><strong>3. Throw betrayal away.</strong> I mean, literally throw it away! Try this exercise: write down on a piece of paper your worst case of betrayal. Capture the emotions, describe the terrible moment, and highlight the magnitude of the event. Get it out of your system, no matter how long ago it occurred. Then, fold this paper and get rid of it in a dramatic way. You can toss it in a dumpster, throw it into the ocean, even flush it down the toilet. I’m not encouraging you to litter the streets with letters of betrayal (or clog your bathroom), but I do want you to eliminate any traumatic traces by disposing of an object that holds your darkest emotions.</p> <p><strong>4. Start faith slow.</strong> Your faith wasn’t damaged in one day, so it can’t be rebuilt in such a short time. Like a puzzle, you have to start piecing your faith back slowly. At first, you might find it hard to trust anyone, but slowly and surely you’ll redevelop a sense of confidence in the good will of others. All you have to do is be willing to rediscover faith.</p> <p><strong>5. Find others who have faith.</strong> You’re not the only one who’s been betrayed, and you’re certainly not the only one who wants to regain faith in others. There are many wonderful, honest people who want to earn your trust. Surround yourself with a positive group of people on the same faithful path as you.</p> <p><strong>6. Regain faith in yourself.</strong> The first person you have to trust is yourself. Develop a deep, unbreakable bond with your outstanding abilities and your own self-vows. Make a new promise to yourself each month. Keep that promise and take small, daily steps until it becomes habit. Because if you can’t trust yourself, who can you trust?</p> <p><strong>7. Detach from people you don’t trust.</strong> There’s no reason to put up with people who act in bad faith. If you feel someone is not trustworthy, you don’t need them in your life. Be selective about the people you bring in for your own well-being. Choosing to cling to people who don’t inspire faith will only lead you to distrust everyone as a whole. Walk away from those you know are not right for you.</p> <p><strong>8. Don’t betray.</strong> Remember the phrase, do unto others as you would have them do unto you? Never forget it! Whether you’ve been betrayed or not, don’t resort to betraying another. If you’re unhappy in your relationship, simply move on. But do not knowingly deceive or mislead to satisfy your ego. Revenge only perpetuates bad karma and traps you in a cycle of recurring action.</p> <p><strong>9. Envision a future free of betrayal.</strong> It’s okay to daydream. Being able to visualize an ideal future despite current drawbacks is one of the most beautiful elements of life. Imagine each day that no one will ever hurt you again. The images you create in your mind become projections of reality in the future, so be careful of the thoughts you send out into the universe. What you fear most, you most attract, and if you quiet your fears, you can control what you draw in. Instead, the peaceful, harmonious thoughts you choose to portray in your mind will manifest into your reality.</p> <p><strong>10. Control your emotions.</strong> Your emotions can be your best friend or your worst enemy. Emotions are the essence of our existence, but when they’re taken to the extreme, they can downright block our lives. We can easily become stuck in our feelings, mentally and even physically. When we’re depressed, we have trouble going about our daily routines or we overeat to try and steady our feelings. In order to heal from betrayal and keep it from reoccurring in the future, you have to keep your emotions in check. If you obsess over something that happened in the past, you become stuck in that moment in time. But if you can think logically and understand the need to move forward, you can indeed master your emotions.</p> <p><strong>11. Take a leap of faith.</strong> Make a decision based on pure faith. Don’t over-analyze or think too much. Follow the voice of your intuition; this can be leaving a job you feel isn’t right for you, moving to a new home if your gut keeps telling you to relocate, or even separating from your partner if you just know the relationship is wrong. You will see that acting on faith rather than fear fosters better decisions.</p> <p><strong>12. Trust two people unconditionally.</strong> While you should always be rational in your level of trust towards others, pick two people to trust without limits. They can be family members, your spouse, friends — any two people you know would never harm you in any way. Putting your hopes in your loved ones teaches you that yes, there still exist goodhearted folks you can confide in.</p> <p><strong>13. Reaffirm your faith each day.</strong> Every morning when you wake up, speak an affirmation to yourself in a loud voice. Affirm your strong faith in others, in yourself, and in your future. Waking up with a faithful phrase each day will wipe away lingering doubts in your mind.</p> <p>A painstaking experience, betrayal is felt by all in time. But whether we remain trapped in the emotions of betrayal or we break through its barriers becomes our choice. Implement my 13 actions above to wipe away the negative effects of a former infidelity and restore your faith in both others and yourself.</p> <p><em>To find more information about Dr Carmen Harra, visit her <a href="http://www.carmenharra.com/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">website here.</span></strong></a></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/relationships/2016/05/common-reasons-why-people-stay-in-a-bad-marriage/"><strong><em><span>Common reasons why people stay in a bad marriage</span></em></strong></a></p> <p><a href="/lifestyle/relationships/2016/05/gary-chapmans-five-love-languages/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">5 ways giving love is the key to relationship success</span></em></strong></a></p> <p> </p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2016/04/6-reasons-to-give-someone-a-second-chance/"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">6 reasons to give someone a second chance</span></strong></em></a></p> <p> </p>

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