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5 ways to instantly update your look

<p>Hit  the “refresh” button on your look. A quick update can not only help you look younger (almost instantly) but help get you into a fresh mindset for a new you. </p> <ol> <li><strong>Go nude</strong> – While literally stripping down is optional, pairing back your make-up and ditching the dark shades you’ve been wearing for years can instantly lighten and brighten your face. Dark colours draw in the light and attract attention to imperfections like wrinkles and spots while lighter shades reflect the light out and help diffuse attention away from your least favourite parts. Try swapping dark lipstick for pink and peach toned colours, brown/charcoal eye shadow for shades of taupe and blackest black mascara for a more natural brown. </li> <li><strong>Master the art of attraction</strong> – We’ve all got bits of our bodies that we prefer. Spend a few minutes in front of the mirror assessing which bits you like best then work out ways to draw attention to them. If you love your hands, carefully selected nail polish and accessories will work a treat at drawing the eye their way. Got great legs? Try wearing skirts and shorts more often and treating yourself to a pedicure (and open toed shoes which lengthen the leg). </li> <li><strong>Mindful manicure</strong> – Still sporting long nails? Really long talons can be quite ageing (not to mention very high maintenance!). Try trimming back to a short “squoval” (square/oval) shape for a more up to date look. </li> <li><strong>Jean genius</strong> – Whether you’re a regular denim wearer or not, every woman should have a flattering pair of jeans in her wardrobe. But forget baggy, shapeless styles. A pair of slim or straight cut jeans in a dark indigo wash are both age appropriate and flattering. Added bonus? They’ll go with anything. </li> <li><strong>Beautiful brows</strong> – Beautifully groomed, generously proportioned brows are one of the most potent signs of youth. Thin, barely there arches however can be incredibly ageing. Try booking in for a consult with a beautician who specialises in eyebrows and lashes. Not only can they work magic with a pair of tweezers and a pot of brow tint but they can also help guide you in creating a naturally full and youthful brow.</li> </ol> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images </em></p>

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13 tiny changes that will make your home instantly happier

<p><strong>Keep clutter minimal</strong></p><p>A stack of books. A pile of papers. Knick-knacks everywhere! If objects are crowding every surface of your home, you’re not alone. The first step to being truly happy in your space is to figure out what to keep, and what to let go. “A cluttered room is much more likely to produce, and contribute to, a cluttered mind,” says professional organiser Marie Kondo, author of the bestseller <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up</em>. “I believe that only in an uncluttered room, which enables an uncluttered mind, can you truly focus your attention and your energy on the matters in your life which are preventing you from reaching your truest happiness.”</p><p>According to design psychologist Sally Augustin, the powerful mental effects of clutter have roots in our evolution. “In our early days as a species, our lives depended on continually surveying the environment and seeing if anything was going to eat us,” she says. “Today we continue to survey our environment, and too many things make this subconscious reviewing more difficult, which is why the visual complexity of clutter is so stressful.” A study from Princeton University shows that too much disorganised stimuli simply overwhelms the brain.</p><p><strong>Display meaningful objects</strong></p><p>The process of letting go of ‘stuff’ doesn’t mean you should live in a stark environment, according to Dr Augustin that would feel alien to us. Kondo’s method uses the test of whether an object ‘sparks joy’ in your heart. “When you decide what to keep based on what sparks joy, you are establishing and reaffirming to yourself what is most important to you,” she says. It’s not about the latest home design styles, it’s how an object makes you feel.</p><p>Still love showing off that soccer trophy from third grade? Keep it! As far as how much to display, balance out the chaos in your life with a visually quieter environment. The amount that feels right may vary from person to person, but Dr Augustin suggests four or five pictures in a room and a couple of objects on a surface, depending on the size. Kondo says an added benefit of going through your possessions is learning how to get rid of mental baggage as well as the physical. “The skills you learn can be applied in your life well beyond deciding on which souvenir coffee mug to keep,” she says.</p><p><strong>Create a calming space</strong></p><p>Finding a ‘sanctuary’ in your home gives your mind a place to go to rest and restore, helping you feel more at peace. It doesn’t have to be a whole room, it could be a reading nook, a knitting or craft space, or even a ‘home spa’ in your bathroom. </p><p>In carving out your sacred space, Dr Augustin suggests bright but muted colours like sage, soft textures like flannel, warm light, and curved lines in patterns and objects instead of straight lines. Studies show we prefer curved lines because we see sharp transitions, such as right angles, as more of a threat.</p><p><strong>Bring nature inside</strong></p><p>Studies have shown nature to be calming to our psyche, so one way to feel happier in your space is to bring plants inside. “Bringing nature into your home definitely has powerful psychological effects,” says interior designer and design psychology coach <a href="http://www.happystartsathome.com/">Rebecca West</a>. “Peace lilies are one of my favourites because they’re easy-to-care-for and do well in low light conditions.” Dr Augustin also suggests avoiding spiky plants.</p><p>“We associate comfort with curvy shapes and not spiky ones, which make us more alert,” she says. Houseplants have the added benefit of helping to refresh the air in a room, making you healthier, according to research. “But if you aren’t blessed with a green thumb, then fresh flowers or even a print of a garden or a wall mural of trees can affect some of that same profound healing,” West says. “Even having natural wood furniture in your home partnered with green accessories or wall paint can bring that outdoor feeling inside.”</p><p><strong>Make your space more social</strong></p><p>Humans are pro-social beings, so your home should also be a place where you feel comfortable inviting friends over. Consider buying home items that lend themselves to socialising: a barbecue, a fire pit to gather around, or board games for game night. Plus, make sure your rooms are arranged for easy socialising. “If you want your living room to be ready for a book club, then it should be arranged to focus on conversation, not a giant TV,” West says. Dr Augustin suggests considering your guests’ varying personalities as well.</p><p>“Extroverts would prefer couches and introverts would prefer an individual chair, so you should have a range of options,” she says. “Arrange the furniture so people can make easy eye contact with each other, but also so they can gracefully break eye contact and look at something else, like a fish tank, a piece of art, or a window with a view.” These ‘positive distractions’ can help you and your guests adhere to humans’ preferred length of eye contact; about three seconds, according to <a href="http://rsos.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/3/7/160086">research</a>.</p><p><strong>Use light well</strong></p><p>Psychologists have long known that light has an effect on our emotions. So when choosing what kind of light to have in your home, think about what feelings you’re trying to elicit in the space. “Warm light with warm light bulbs is better for when you’re socialising and relaxing, where blue and cooler light is better when you’re trying to do a really analytic task,” Dr Augustin says. So cool light might be better for a home office, but use warm light in the living and dining rooms.</p><p>“When people are having dinner parties they bring in candles, which are a warmer light – something we figured out eons ago which aligns with <a href="http://www.ledinside.com/knowledge/2013/12/lighting_psychology_cognitive_and_emotional_responses_to_lighting">modern research</a>,” she says. During the day, open the curtains and keep the windows clean to let the sun in. “Natural light is great for our mood,” Dr Augustin says. “But if a space is really glarey because you have lots of shiny surfaces, some of the positive ramifications of daylight evaporate because glare is stressful.”</p><p><strong>Keep it clean</strong></p><p>Having a clean home can have physical as well as mental benefits – less stuff means fewer things for dust and dirt to accumulate on, and you’ll be more likely to keep it clean because it won’t be so overwhelming. “The less clutter there is in your home, the easier it is to do basic cleaning chores, which let’s be honest, spark joy in almost nobody!”</p><p>Kondo says. Instead, you can use the time you save to do other things you enjoy more. But sometimes, a good cleaning can actually help you feel less stressed and anxious. “If you find yourself feeling frantic and overwhelmed, taking a moment to tidy up the kitchen or your bed can really calm those nerves and bring more focus into your mind,” West says.</p><p><strong>Make the bedroom a retreat</strong></p><p>Our mood improves when we wake up ‘on the right side of the bed’ after a good night’s sleep, and not getting good sleep has been <a href="https://sleepfoundation.org/sleep-disorders-problems/depression-and-sleep">linked to depression</a>. One way to feel more relaxed is to banish any reminders of unpleasant tasks in the bedroom. “If you have your home office in your bedroom, it’s great if the room is laid out so that when you’re actually lying down to go to sleep you don’t see your desk and all the piles of papers,” Dr Augustin says. Ideally, the bedroom should be one space to keep tidy.</p><p>“If you can’t put your whole home in order, try to have at least one room, such as the master bedroom, that gives you peace and respite from it all,” West says. Blackout curtains can also ensure the room is dark enough for good sleep. “It’s better for our health when the conditions are darker for sleep,” Dr Augustin says. “You can pull them during the day to let the daylight in.”</p><p><strong>Find storage solutions that work</strong></p><p>Even if your living spaces are clean, if every time you open that cupboard you’re pegged with an avalanche of stuff, it will still make you feel bogged down. “Simple storage methods are the best because they are the easiest to maintain,” says Kondo, who prefers shoe boxes. “Some people devise their storage strategies like a ‘Jenga’ tower, and we all know what happens when one piece is removed!”</p><p>Plus, being able to see everything you have also keeps you from buying new stuff you actually don’t need. If everything is simple and easy to access, it becomes not only routine, but a healthy habit, Kondo says. “You will always find ‘that thing’ you are looking for much easier, and that extra 10 or 15 minutes you save can be used to do something you truly enjoy.”</p><p><strong>Choose mood-boosting colours</strong></p><p>Your wall colour can affect your mood, so it might be time for a new coat of paint. Colour psychology is an entire field dedicated to understanding the impact shades have on us. “It’s the saturation and brightness levels of hues that determine our emotional response,” Dr Augustin says. “We’re calmer and in a more positive mood in colours that are not too saturated but relatively bright like sage green, and we’re more energised around colours that are more saturated and less bright, like a Kelly green [an intense, pure green].”</p><p>Energising colours make you happier in a place you work, like a kitchen, laundry or exercise room, whereas muted colours are better for a relaxing space, like a family room. Certain colours are associated culturally as well, which can help us feel at home in the space. “Our culture links yellow with kitchens and blue with restfulness, a good option for bedrooms,” Dr Augustin says.</p><p><strong>Use the power of scent</strong></p><p><a href="https://academic.oup.com/chemse/article/30/suppl_1/i248/270387/Effects-of-Fragrance-on-Emotions-Moods-and">Studies have shown</a> smell has psychological effects, so use oils or candles to evoke good feelings in your home. “Researchers have learnt that lavender helps people fall asleep so that can be good for the bedroom, and lemon can be good to smell when you’re trying to do cognitive work like in your home office,” Dr Augustin says.</p><p>Floral scents also elicit positive emotions. But don’t lay it on too strong – scents will continue to have an effect even after your nose gets used to them. “Any smell in too great a concentration is off-putting and stress-generating,” she says.</p><p><strong>Fill your home with good memories</strong></p><p>Let everything in your house bring up positive memories of things and people you love. “Each time you look at that picture of you and your friends in Paris, or see the painting you did that turned out better than you ever expected, it helps you keep perspective and connect you with what is good and wonderful in your life,” West says.</p><p>On the other hand, purge the things that remind you of negative experiences and bring you down. “A stuffed animal from an ex-boyfriend, or a piece of furniture that you inherited but have never really liked, can keep you stuck in the past,” she says. “Life is too short to be surrounded by stuff you don’t like.”</p><p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p><p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/food-home-garden/home-tips/13-tiny-changes-that-will-make-your-home-instantly-happier?pages=1" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Reader's Digest</a>.</em></p>

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Instantly organise your medicine cabinet in a few simple steps

<p><strong>Bathroom organisation hacks</strong></p> <p>Closets, drawers, kitchen cabinets: your home organisation project might focus on these big basics – but, especially considering the times we’re in, your medicine cabinet is a smaller nook-and-cranny that deserves to be meticulously on-point these days.</p> <p>With advice from an infectious disease doctor and a professional organiser, we’ve got your step-by-step medicine cabinet makeover. This organisation process will empower you with streamlined mornings, immune support, and Covid-preventive essentials – and for those unpleasant occasions that creep up, like the common sniffles or sleepless nights.</p> <p>Reset your bathroom game by following this plan that’s loaded with pro tips.</p> <p><strong>Clean and sanitise</strong></p> <p>A good wipedown with warm water and a rag will get off visible goo… but it’s important to follow it up by sanitising every surface, inside and out, advises Dr Margaret Khoury, an infectious disease specialist. Keep in mind that the warm, moist environment of the bathroom is germ heaven, and pathogens can even grow on soap and other hygiene products. Yeah, ew.</p> <p>Pick a product that kills viruses, bacteria and fungi, and follow the directions on the label. Antibacterial products don’t work against viruses, and even cleaners that claim to kill most germs can miss COVID-19. So when choosing cleaning products, like wipes or sprays, go with a<span> </span><a href="https://www.tga.gov.au/disinfectants-use-against-covid-19-artg-legal-supply-australia">TGA-registered disinfectant</a>.</p> <p>Be sure to take out everything (yes, every single thing – bottles, makeup containers and the shelves they sat on) and wipe all of it down. Don’t forget to clean the knob or handle! Think of every surface fingers touch, and go there with that cleaner.</p> <p><strong>Toss like a boss</strong></p> <p>An easy next step is to throw away any expired over-the-counter meds and dried-out makeup. (That beloved eye shadow compact you’ve used since university? Zero judgment – but it’s time to throw it out, stat.)</p> <p>Toss used-up, broken, or non-functional items. It’s OK to purge ruthlessly – you have limited space there, so only necessary items can stay. “If you don’t love it or use it, lose it,” says Rachel Rosenthal, a professional organiser.</p> <p><strong>Supplies to fight COVID-19</strong></p> <p>Got a supply of at-home rapid Covid test kits? Bonus points for being proactive! Don’t store them in your medicine cabinet, nor in your bathroom at all. The CDC recommends storing self-administered Covid tests in their unopened box in a cool, dry place. Improper storage or exposure to heat or moisture can make the test malfunction.</p> <p>Help prevent Covid-19 by stocking up on alcohol prep pads or a fresh bottle of rubbing alcohol and cotton pads. Then, keep the whole house healthier by using these regularly to clean high-touch surfaces like kitchen cabinet knobs, your microwave’s buttons, door knobs around the house, your phone and keyboard, keys and more.</p> <p><strong>Prioritise your shelves</strong></p> <p>Ready to sort out what goes where? Rosenthal says you should start by assigning each category its own shelf and try to keep all the items in that group together within that designated space. You may want to label each shelf with a piece of tape or a sticky note to help you and your family put things away properly going forward.</p> <p>Keep the items you use every day in easy reach on one of the lowermost shelves. If you’re not using an item at least once a week, move it to a longer-term storage space.</p> <p>Have kiddos? Rosenthal suggests: “If you have little ones, dedicate the bottom shelf to keep their items where they can easily reach them and grab what they need.”</p> <p><strong>Safety first</strong></p> <p>The medicine cabinet is a common place to put medications, sharp objects like razors and needles and toxic cleaners, so safety should be a top consideration in your organisation, says Dr Khoury. If you have children that use the medicine cabinet, this is the perfect time to take inventory and remove all unsafe items and put them well out of their reach. (Don’t forget: Kids will climb onto benchtops!)</p> <p>Put sharp objects in closed containers so you don’t accidentally hurt yourself. Toxic cleaners should be stored in tightly sealed unbreakable containers, so even if they fall, they won’t break open and spill.</p> <p><strong>Move your meds to a smarter spot</strong></p> <p>Oh, the irony: Turns out, the medicine cabinet is actually one of the worst places to store prescription and over-the-counter drugs, says Gina Harper, PharmD, BCPS. “Moisture, temperature, oxygen and light – all things found in bathrooms – can degrade medications faster than normal,” this pharmacist explains.</p> <p>Unless the packaging indicates otherwise, most medicine should be stored at cool room temperature, in a dry, dark place, and in the original package… so, not in your bathroom. This is true for many skin care products, vitamins and supplements as well.</p> <p>Note: If you really want to keep your meds in your bathroom, consider buying a small medicine fridge for your counter. This allows you to control the temperature, humidity and exposure to light and air.</p> <p><strong>Do not toss expired prescription drugs</strong></p> <p>Throwing prescribed medications in the garbage can help someone searching for narcotics get their hands on them. Flushing them down the toilet? Also not a wise option – this can pollute the water supply. Your best bet is to take them to your local community pharmacy participating in the Return Unwanted Medicines (RUM) scheme.</p> <p>If for any reason you have to throw medicine away, it’s suggested you should “ruin” the drugs by mixing them with coffee grounds or kitty litter in a sealed plastic bag.</p> <p><strong>Store big items first</strong></p> <p>Ideally, your cabinet has adjustable shelves to allow your tallest or bulkiest essentials to fit within easy reach, like toothbrushes, toothpaste tubes, or large ointment bottles. Then you can see just how much space you have to work with for the rest of your stuff.</p> <p>If something takes up too much room and it’s not an item you access daily, it might be better stored in a cupboard elsewhere.</p> <p><strong>Next, insert your lesser-used items</strong></p> <p>Prioritise by setting the things you use the most toward the front of your medicine cabinet, on the shelves that are the easiest to see and access, says Rosenthal.</p> <p>Place lesser-used items in the back or corners. If you’re not using an item at least once a week, move it to a longer-term storage space, like a cupboard or a box under your sink.</p> <p>Employ this system for the remainder of your items, discerning how prominently and accessibly each one should be placed based on how often you use it. Rosenthal says just remember: Your goal is to keep it safe, clean, and functional.</p> <p><strong>Don't lose loose items</strong></p> <p><span>Stray cotton buds or lip balm tubes adding to the clutter? Put them in a clear glass container. They’ll fit the vertical space better, and you’ll be able to see exactly what’s inside.</span></p> <p><strong>Try magnetic strips for metal trinkets</strong></p> <p><span>What do nail clippers, tweezers and hair clips have in common? They all stick to magnets! Put a magnetic strip on the back of the cabinet door or behind the shelves, and never think twice about where those small tools might be hiding.</span></p> <p><strong>Don't ignore the door</strong></p> <p><span>Your cabinet door is prime storage real estate that often goes untouched, but there are a number of ways you can customise it for your storage needs. Stick on hooks to hold small scissors or plastic pockets to hold makeup supplies, for example. There also are a number of DIY storage solutions that help you use hidden nooks around your shower, sink, and cabinets too.</span></p> <p><strong>Watch what rolls</strong></p> <p><span>Nothing sticks a landing squarely on the foot like a runaway rolling object the second the cabinet door opens. Invest in some mini shelves (also called vertical risers) to keep objects in place and maximise your storage space.</span></p> <p><strong>Label, label, label</strong></p> <p>Small bins are perfect for makeup and toiletries, but not all of them are see-through. Create your own colourful labels to stay organised in style. These easy tricks will also instantly organise other small areas of your home.</p> <p>One tip? Forget Instagram – make a real-life plan. “Getting organised does not mean that you have to invent a complex colour-coded system or invest in a million matching bins,” Rosenthal says. “The goal is to create a place for everything in a way that complements how your life operates.”</p> <p>For instance, if you normally toss your toothbrush in the bottom of the medicine cabinet, add a small open box there to keep it contained with the toothpaste and floss. You’re not going to magically transform your movements throughout the day – so plan for what you actually do, not what you wish you’d do (or what someone on social media claims to do), she says.</p> <p>Gotta love real talk.</p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Claire Nowak and Charlotte Hilton Anderson. This article first appeared in </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/food-home-garden/home-tips/instantly-organise-your-medicine-cabinet-in-a-few-simple-steps" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Reader’s Digest</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">here’s our best subscription offer.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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5 tiny changes that will make your home instantly happier

<p><strong>Keep clutter minimal</strong></p> <p>A stack of books. A pile of papers. Knick-knacks everywhere! If objects are crowding every surface of your home, you’re not alone. The first step to being truly happy in your space is to figure out what to keep, and what to let go. “A cluttered room is much more likely to produce, and contribute to, a cluttered mind,” says professional organiser Marie Kondo, author of the bestseller <em>The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up</em>. “I believe that only in an uncluttered room, which enables an uncluttered mind, can you truly focus your attention and your energy on the matters in your life which are preventing you from reaching your truest happiness.”</p> <p>According to design psychologist Sally Augustin, the powerful mental effects of clutter have roots in our evolution. “In our early days as a species, our lives depended on continually surveying the environment and seeing if anything was going to eat us,” she says. “Today we continue to survey our environment, and too many things make this subconscious reviewing more difficult, which is why the visual complexity of clutter is so stressful.” A study from Princeton University shows that too much disorganised stimuli simply overwhelms the brain.</p> <p><strong>Display meaningful objects</strong></p> <p>The process of letting go of ‘stuff’ doesn’t mean you should live in a stark environment, according to Dr Augustin that would feel alien to us. Kondo’s method uses the test of whether an object ‘sparks joy’ in your heart. “When you decide what to keep based on what sparks joy, you are establishing and reaffirming to yourself what is most important to you,” she says. It’s not about the latest home design styles, it’s how an object makes you feel.</p> <p>Still love showing off that soccer trophy from third grade? Keep it! As far as how much to display, balance out the chaos in your life with a visually quieter environment. The amount that feels right may vary from person to person, but Dr Augustin suggests four or five pictures in a room and a couple of objects on a surface, depending on the size. Kondo says an added benefit of going through your possessions is learning how to get rid of mental baggage as well as the physical. “The skills you learn can be applied in your life well beyond deciding on which souvenir coffee mug to keep,” she says.</p> <p><strong>Create a calming space</strong></p> <p><span>Finding a ‘sanctuary’ in your home gives your mind a place to go to rest and restore, helping you feel more at peace. It doesn’t have to be a whole room, it could be a reading nook, a knitting or craft space, or even a ‘home spa’ in your bathroom. In carving out your sacred space, Dr Augustin suggests bright but muted colours like sage, soft textures like flannel, warm light, and curved lines in patterns and objects instead of straight lines. Studies show we prefer curved lines because we see sharp transitions, such as right angles, as more of a threat.</span></p> <p><strong>Bring nature inside</strong></p> <p><span>Studies have shown nature to be calming to our psyche, so one way to feel happier in your space is to bring plants inside. “Bringing nature into your home definitely has powerful psychological effects,” says interior designer and design psychology coach </span><a href="http://www.happystartsathome.com/">Rebecca West</a><span>. “Peace lilies are one of my favourites because they’re easy-to-care-for and do well in low light conditions.” Dr Augustin also suggests avoiding spiky plants. “We associate comfort with curvy shapes and not spiky ones, which make us more alert,” she says. Houseplants have the added benefit of helping to refresh the air in a room, making you healthier, according to research. “But if you aren’t blessed with a green thumb, then fresh flowers or even a print of a garden or a wall mural of trees can affect some of that same profound healing,” West says. “Even having natural wood furniture in your home partnered with green accessories or wall paint can bring that outdoor feeling inside.”</span></p> <p><strong>Make your space more social</strong></p> <p><span>Humans are pro-social beings, so your home should also be a place where you feel comfortable inviting friends over. Consider buying home items that lend themselves to socialising: a barbecue, a fire pit to gather around, or board games for game night. Plus, make sure your rooms are arranged for easy socialising. “If you want your living room to be ready for a book club, then it should be arranged to focus on conversation, not a giant TV,” West says. Dr Augustin suggests considering your guests’ varying personalities as well. “Extroverts would prefer couches and introverts would prefer an individual chair, so you should have a range of options,” she says. “Arrange the furniture so people can make easy eye contact with each other, but also so they can gracefully break eye contact and look at something else, like a fish tank, a piece of art, or a window with a view.” These ‘positive distractions’ can help you and your guests adhere to humans’ preferred length of eye contact; about three seconds, according to </span><a href="http://rsos.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/3/7/160086">research</a><span>.</span></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Written by Tina Donvito. This article first appeared in </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/food-home-garden/home-tips/13-tiny-changes-that-will-make-your-home-instantly-happier" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">Reader’s Digest</span></a><span style="font-weight: 400;">. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </span><a rel="noopener" href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRA87V" target="_blank"><span style="font-weight: 400;">here’s our best subscription offer.</span></a></em></p> <p><em><span style="font-weight: 400;">Image: Getty Images</span></em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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10 conversation starters that make you instantly interesting

<p><strong>1.Perfect conversation starters</strong></p> <p>Whether you’re working up the courage to talk to an attractive stranger of feeling awkward at a social or business event, the conversation topics will get you off to a winning start</p> <p><strong>2.Conversation Topic: Ask for a helping hand</strong></p> <p> “Helping questions are great conversation starters because when a person helps you it forms natural bonds. When you help another person to figure what an item is on the buffet or locate the bathroom, it lowers your defences. For example, if you’re at the supermarket, ask ‘Do you know how to tell if this fruit is ripe?’ It makes you look open to learning more and will help the conversation flow naturally.” – Dawn Maslar, MS, author of <em>Men Chase, Women Choose: The Neuroscience of Meeting, Dating, Losing Your Mind, and Finding True Love</em>.</p> <p><strong>3.Conversation Topic: Compliment something other than someone’s looks</strong></p> <p> “Instead of complimenting something generic like their eyes, highlight something that shows their personality, like their purse or a book. This is simple, elegant and great if you are interested in someone or anytime you want to boost their likeability toward you for business or social reasons.” – Paul DePompo, PsyD, ABPP, psychologist</p> <p><strong>4.Conversation Topic: Bring up a shared interest</strong></p> <p> “Many people think they have nothing in common with a stranger but if someone is at a supermarket, restaurant or bar they are there for a reason – one which is likely similar to yours. You’re both there so you both share a common interest. Ask questions to find out what that interest is. For instance, ask about what their experience at that venue has been like or why they chose it.” – Shannon Battle, licensed professional counsellor</p> <p><strong>5.Conversation Topic: Go simple… yet bold</strong></p> <p> “Give a genuine smile and say, ‘Hi.’ It sounds too simple but people are so used to other people staring at their phones that a simple smile and hello can be a very bold move. It shows the other person that you’ve noticed them and you’re interested in getting to know them better. And you’ll almost always get a hello back. (If you don’t, let it go. You don’t want to date a rude person anyway.)” – Suzanne Casamento, dating expert and the creator of Fantasy Dating</p> <p><strong>6.Conversation Topic: Ask for their honest opinion</strong></p> <p> “Asking ‘I’ve been really thinking deeply about something and wondering if I can share it, and get your feedback?’ shows your interest in the other person and solicits new and interesting information that is fun to discuss. Pretty much anyone will want to share their opinions with an interested party and they will think you are nice and fun to be with, as well.” – Melissa Orlov, therapist and author of <em>The Couple’s Guide to Thriving With ADHD</em>.</p> <p><strong>7.Conversation Topic: Tell a bonding joke</strong></p> <p> “Jokes work well because they are disarming and work on a biological level. If a woman laughs at a man’s joke, he feels assured that she has a level of comfort with him. For her, laughing releases oxytocin, the ‘bonding hormone.’ These two things together create an opening for more conversation.” – Dawn Maslar</p> <p><strong>8.Conversation Topic: Give an out-of-the-blue compliment</strong></p> <p> “I always tell my clients to try out a compliment. It breaks the ice and these days it’s completely unexpected! You can test out doing this by just giving people walking down the street a compliment and see their reaction, most times people will give you a smile and possibly engage in more conversation. After all, who doesn’t like to be complimented?” – Stef Safran, a matchmaking and dating expert in Chicago and owner of Stef and the City.</p> <p><strong>9.Conversation Topic: Get (pop) cultured</strong></p> <p> “Make a comment or joke about something big in pop culture that most people would be familiar with – something light, NOT political. If you need ideas look at what’s trending or are hot topics on Twitter or Facebook.” – Stef Safran.</p> <p><strong>10.Conversation Topic: Ask a fake favour</strong></p> <p> “People love to help so asking for a small favour is a great conversation starter. If you don’t have a favour to ask for, just make one up. Ask the person you find attractive to help you reach something on a high shelf or hold something while you look through your wallet. At the very least you’ll end up with a fun story to tell your friends.” – Suzanne Casamento</p> <p><em>Written </em>by <em>Charlotte Hilton Andersen.</em> This<em> article first appeared in </em><a href="https://www.readersdigest.com.au/true-stories-lifestyle/relationships/37-conversation-starters-that-make-you-instantly-interesting/"><em>Reader’s Digest</em></a><em>. For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, </em><a href="http://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRN93V"><em>here’s our best subscription offer.</em></a></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Let go of these 4 things to become instantly happier

<p>Happiness. It’s something we all want and something many spend their entire lives looking for. But it’s possible you’ve held the key to a fulfilled life this whole time and not even realised it. Why? Because of the little things that get in the way.</p> <p>If you want to escape negativity for good and kick that pursuit of happiness up a notch, the secret lies in ditching these four habits.</p> <p><strong>1. Comparing yourself to others</strong></p> <p>Constantly comparing your life, your appearance and your abilities to others is a fruitless and damaging endeavour. Why? Firstly, we tend to underestimate our own worth – which is what leads us to these negative comparisons in the first place. Secondly, we tend to overestimate others, meaning we’re simply comparing ourselves to a distorted and inaccurate view of that person. Finally you have to ask, do comparisons get us anywhere? I think we all know the answer.</p> <p><strong>2. Making excuses</strong></p> <p>What’s stopping you from chasing that dream of yours? Whether it’s a hobby or activity you’d like to try, an urge to re-enter the workforce or a desire to get fit and healthy – what’s preventing you? When it comes down to it, the main barrier is fear – or, more specifically, fear of failure. Always remind yourself that it’s never too late, never too hard and you’re never too old to get out there and chase those goals.</p> <p><strong>3. Feeling guilty</strong></p> <p>We all experience guilt at some point in our lives, both warranted and unwarranted. But what’s the point? You can never undo what’s been done. You can’t unsay what’s been said. All you can do is accept what’s happened, learn to forgive yourself and move on. After all, the only thing guilt does is prove that you’re living in the past. It’s a destructive and unhealthy habit that’s no use to anyone.</p> <p><strong>4. Holding grudges</strong></p> <p>Everyone’s been betrayed or blindsided before – even if it’s just something small – but is it so serious that you’re willing to risk your own happiness to hold a grudge? Not only are they bad for your mind, but a <a href="https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/images/uploads/VanOyenWitvliet-GrantingForgiveness.pdf" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">2000 study</span></strong></a> found they’re also bad for your body, leading to significantly higher heart rate and blood pressure. And, at the crux of it, life is just too short for grudges.</p> <p>How many of these negative habits are you guilty of? Are you willing to try and let them go? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below.</p>

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8 simple social habits that make you instantly likable

<p>Meeting new people can be a nerve-wracking experience, and even though you should always be yourself, there are some simple social habits to follow that will make you instantly likable. Use these simple behaviours to boost your likeability.</p> <p><strong>1. Make eye contact</strong></p> <p>An oldie, but a goodie – never underestimate the power of eye contact. This stems from the idea that confidence is what makes people attractive and making eye contact is a sign of confidence. Even if you’re faking it, it will still have a powerful effect.</p> <p><strong>2. Put away your phone</strong></p> <p>Smartphones have plenty of positives, but they also have a few big negatives. Primarily, people now spend much of their time glued to them – even when they are with other people. Put your phone away and pay attention to the people you are with.</p> <p><strong>3. Greet people by name</strong></p> <p>Firstly, it shows you were paying attention or have a good memory. Second, it generally makes people feel good to be addressed by name. The key is not to overuse it. Don’t namedrop in every sentence or you’ll come across like a dodgy salesman.</p> <p><strong>4. Listen</strong></p> <p>Listen, listen, listen. It’s so important that we think it bears repeating. People appreciate when you genuinely listen to them, engage with what they are saying and don’t try to speak over the top of them. As the saying goes, you have two ears and one mouth – and that’s the ratio you should use them with.</p> <p><strong>5. Ask questions</strong></p> <p>Good listening doesn’t mean you never have to say a word. Ask questions that show you’ve been paying attention. People will be happy to expand on the conversation and, hopefully, should begin to ask you questions in return.</p> <p><strong>6. Learn to accept compliments</strong></p> <p>It can almost be a reflex to deflect a compliment as soon as it’s given. It’s a fine line to walk because you don’t want to sound egotistical by agreeing. Instead, learn to accept the compliment in the spirit it was given and say thank you.</p> <p><strong>7. Don’t complain unnecessarily</strong></p> <p>There’s no problem making a complaint if there is a genuine problem, but no one wants to hear you go on and on about something (or everything). It makes you seem like a negative person and someone who will suck the energy out of any conversation. Learn to laugh it off.</p> <p><strong>8. Smile</strong></p> <p>The simplest one of all.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/this-simple-phrase-will-stop-gossip-once-and-for-all/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>This simple phrase will stop gossip once and for all</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/making-the-transition-from-friends-to-something-more/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Making the transition from friends to something more</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/relationships/2017/02/nice-people-more-likely-to-betray-you/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Nice people are more likely to betray you</strong></em></span></a></p>

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7 songs that will instantly boost your mood

<p>We all have bad days from time to time, and while it can be tempting to just ride it out, wouldn’t it be better just to turn everything around? Instantly give your mood a boost with these uplifting songs.</p> <p><strong>“Don’t Worry, Be Happy” by Bobby McFerrin</strong></p> <p>Released in 1988, this was the first acapella song in history to reach number one in the US, and it’s not hard to see why. With cheery lyrics and an upbeat melody, just hearing that whistling intro will have you feeling better in no time.</p> <p><strong>“Mr. Blue Sky” by Electric Light Orchestra</strong></p> <p>“It's a beautiful new day,” proclaims this ‘70s favourite, and the story behind it is enough to make you feel good. Jeff Lynne, who wrote the song, said he had been struggling to find motivation to write anything when all of a sudden, after two weeks of darkness and bad weather, the sun rose up behind the Swiss Alps and gave him the kick he needed.</p> <p><strong>“Dancing with Myself” by Billy Idol</strong></p> <p>The punk icon released his hit song in 1982, and it carries the perfect message for when you’re feeling lonely or down in the dumps – when you can’t rely on others, rely on yourself. “Well there's nothing to lose, And there's nothing to prove, I'll be dancing with myself.”</p> <p><strong>“Walking On Sunshine” by Katrina and the Waves</strong></p> <p>Another ‘80s hit, this is one of those songs that lifts you up immediately. One listen will make you feel right back on top of your game, like you’re really “Walking On Sunshine.”</p> <p><strong>“December 1963 (Oh, What a Night)” by the Four Seasons</strong></p> <p>This disco classic will take you right back to your heyday. Sometimes when you’re feeling low, it can be helpful to look back on your life and everything you’ve accomplished. This song will make you feel nostalgic and instantly put you in the mood for a dance.</p> <p><strong>“Happy” by Pharrell Williams</strong></p> <p>The newest song on our list, “Happy” is so infectiously cheerful that you can’t help but “clap along”. It was 2014’s most successful song, and for good reason – it brought people together and made them reflect on all the things in their lives that made them happy.</p> <p><strong>“Don’t Stop Me Now” by Queen</strong></p> <p>One of our favourite Queen songs, “Don’t Stop Me Now” is the perfect mood booster. In fact, it’s been <a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/09/23/science-unveils-queen-dont-stop-me-now-as-the-most-feel-good-song-of-all-time_n_8181940.html" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">scientifically proven</span></strong></a> as the most feel-good song of all time. You can’t argue with science!</p> <p>What song or artist do you turn to when you need a mood boost? Tell us in the comments below!</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/entertainment/music/2016/07/6-classic-country-songs-to-revisit/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>6 classic country songs to revisit</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/entertainment/music/2016/06/unforgettable-songs-of-the-60s/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em>Unforgettable songs of the '60s</em></strong></span></a></p> <p><a href="/entertainment/music/2016/05/1970s-songs-that-defined-a-decade/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>1970s: songs that defined a decade</strong></em></span></a></p>

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How to turn a bad day around instantly

<p>If you find yourself feeling stressed from the moment you get up, try some of our tips below to turn things around.</p> <p><strong>Upon waking</strong>, don’t immediately reach for your phone to check emails or social media. Spend a moment or two in bed thinking about three things you are looking forward to that day. It might be that first morning coffee, a lunch date with a friend, or a new recipe that you plan on trying out that night.</p> <p><strong>When you leave the house</strong>, try not to rush out the door in a fluster. Take a few deep breaths and be mindful of what you are doing. For instance ‘I’m going to enjoy the sunshine as I walk to the bus stop’ or ‘I am looking forward to seeing my son this morning.’</p> <p><strong>At lunchtime</strong>, instead of just sitting down to mindlessly eat a sandwich, spend a moment thinking about how your day is panning out. Are you getting through your tasks calmly or are you flitting around from job to job? Now is the time to turn things around, so give yourself a mental high five for what has gone well and think about what you will do next.</p> <p><strong>As you arrive home</strong>, try not to go straight into task mode. Spend some time asking others about their day and making a plan for the evening’s activities. Decide on who will do what to prepare the evening meal (remember it doesn’t have to all be down to one person) and try to enjoy all being in the same space at the same time.</p> <p><strong>When you’re getting ready to sleep</strong>, try not to dwell on negative parts of the day or worry about tomorrow’s to-do list. Spend a few moments reflecting on parts of your day that made you feel good before you settle down to sleep.</p> <p>Do you have any tips for instilling a sense of calm and peace into your day? We would love to hear from you in the comments.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/06/overcoming-pain-using-the-power-of-the-mind/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Overcoming pain using the power of the mind</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/06/trick-to-make-you-a-morning-person/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The 4 tricks guaranteed to make you a morning person</span></em></strong></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/06/extraordinarily-simple-ways-to-be-happy/"><strong><em><span style="text-decoration: underline;">5 extraordinarily simple ways to be happy</span></em></strong></a></p>

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The moving image that’s instantly calming people down

<p>We've all had moments where everything gets a bit too much.</p> <p>But instead of kneading that stress ball or breathing into a paper bag, one image seems to be helping people bring their anxiety under control.</p> <p>Eyeballing this gif for just a few minutes puts viewers into calming trance, according to social media users who have been sharing the image in their droves.</p> <p><img src="http://static.stuff.co.nz/files/gif"/></p> <p>Take a few deep breaths as the line expands into a triangle, square, pentagon and so on until it reverses back on itself.</p> <p>The rhythm of movement and repetition is thought to help relax the part of your brain which deals with stress, i100 reports.</p> <p>Tell us: Did this geometric moving image make you feel calmer? Share your verdict in the comments below.</p> <p><em>First appeared on <a href="http://www.stuff.co.nz/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Stuff.co.nz.</span></strong></a></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/05/knowing-who-you-are-is-key-to-overcoming-challenges/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>The secret to overcoming life’s challenges</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/05/5-household-chores-that-reduce-stress/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>5 household chores that reduce stress</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/health/mind/2016/04/how-to-become-the-happiest-person-you-know/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>How to become the happiest person you know</strong></em></span></a></p>

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4 easy ways to worry less instantly

<p>When you’re at the height of your afternoon panic attack, the last thing on this earth that is helpful is someone telling you “not to worry”.</p> <p>So, rather than trying to stop it, why not try to redirect it and use it to your advantage?</p> <p>Learn how to identify a problem that you are worrying about, and replace it with strategic thinking. Worry is when your thoughts are stuck on the issue, thinking is when you find a solution. Here are four ways you can re-direct your worrying today.</p> <p><strong>1. Write everything down</strong></p> <p>Our minds tend to run away with us when we get stressed. This leads to irrational thinking that we can often make sense of if we just take the time to write it all down. Draw up a page with three columns; in the first column, write down all the things you are worrying about. In the second column, write down the worst things that can result from those worries. In the third, write down possible solutions. Circle the best one.</p> <p><strong>2. Keep it in perspective</strong></p> <p>Most of the things we worry about are the things in life we have no control of. So ask yourself, is worrying about this issue going to change its outcome? Once you examine the threat and accept that it's unlikely or out of your hands, you'll worry about it less.</p> <p><strong>3. Do what you can today</strong></p> <p>Are you a procrastination pro? Tasks will always seem bigger if you think of them as a whole, and put them off until they become overwhelming. So instead, compartmentalise your tasks. For example, if you’re moving house, tackle one kitchen cabinet at a time.</p> <p><strong>4. Create a distraction</strong></p> <p>Make an effort to engage yourself in an activity that either brings you joy, or requires a lot of your attention. Some great examples include going for a run or engaging in a conversation about something else.</p> <p>What do you do to take your mind off your worries? Let us know in the comments below if you have a handy trick that others will love.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2016/05/yawning-reveals-a-lot-about-your-level-of-empathy/"><em>Yawning reveals a lot about your level of empathy</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2016/05/is-this-the-cause-of-most-peoples-unhappiness/"><em>Is this the cause of most people's unhappiness?</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/health/mind/2016/05/knowing-who-you-are-is-key-to-overcoming-challenges/">The secret to overcoming life’s challenges</a></em></strong></span></p>

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15 easy DIYs that will instantly lift your home

<p>You don’t need to go through a long, arduous home renovation to give your home a new lease on life. These easy-peasy DIY ideas are tiny changes that make a big impact, instantly lifting the look of your home.</p> <p>1. Camouflage dull light fixtures with a lampshade</p> <p><img width="500" height="553" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10963/1_500x553.jpg" alt="1 (109)"/></p> <p><em>Source: apartmenttherapy.com</em></p> <p>2. No mirrors in the bedroom? Hang framed mirrors to closet doors (and paint the frames to match the closet)</p> <p><img width="480" height="720" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10965/2.jpg" alt="2 (114)"/></p> <p><em>Source: kevinandamanda.com</em></p> <p>3. Hide TV cords and cables in a shower curtain rod</p> <p><img width="495" height="743" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10968/3.jpg" alt="3 (109)"/></p> <p><em>Source: freshcrush.com</em></p> <p>4. Use curtains to hide shelving</p> <p><img width="500" height="750" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10971/4_500x750.jpg" alt="4 (103)"/></p> <p><em>Source: athoughtfulplaceblog.com</em></p> <p>5. Use brass hardware as curtain tie-backs for a refined look</p> <p><img width="500" height="577" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10974/5.jpg" alt="5 (95)"/></p> <p><em>Source: budgetwisehome.com</em></p> <p>6. Add moulding and shelving to the top of kitchen cabinets to create extra storage</p> <p><img width="499" height="245" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10977/6_499x245.jpg" alt="6 (93)"/></p> <p><em>Source: familyhandyman.com</em></p> <p>7. Know exactly how to place a rug to create space</p> <p><img width="500" height="615" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10980/7_500x615.jpg" alt="7 (85)"/></p> <p><em>Source: burlapandlaceblog.com</em></p> <p>8. Cover an air vent with a rubber doormat</p> <p><img width="500" height="500" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10983/8.jpg" alt="8 (80)"/></p> <p><em>Source: curbalertblog.com</em></p> <p>9. Or give it a coat of spray paint to make it look new again</p> <p><img width="480" height="640" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10985/9.jpg" alt="9 (65)"/></p> <p><em>Source: artsychicksrule.com</em></p> <p>10. Pretty up light switches with a craft-store frame</p> <p><img width="500" height="623" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10986/10_500x623.jpg" alt="10 (50)"/></p> <p><em>Source: memyselfndiy.com</em></p> <p>11. Makeover a plain cabinet with moulding and spray paint</p> <p><img width="500" height="375" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10987/11_500x375.jpg" alt="11 (24)"/></p> <p><em>Source: howfantasticblog.com</em></p> <p>12. Get that expensive plush feeling on a cheap rug by placing carpet padding underneath it</p> <p><img width="500" height="375" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10988/12_500x375.jpg" alt="12 (18)"/></p> <p><em>Source: everafterblueprint.com</em></p> <p>13. Use brackets to decorate a window</p> <p><img width="300" height="323" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10989/13.jpg" alt="13 (8)"/></p> <p><em>Source: thesteampunkhome.blogspot.com</em></p> <p>14. Make a moveable window shade with fabric and magnets</p> <p><img width="498" height="725" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10990/14_498x725.jpg" alt="14 (5)"/></p> <p><em>Source: charmingzebra.com</em></p> <p>15. Change your kitchen backsplash by using peel and stick “tiles”</p> <p><img width="400" height="400" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/10991/15.jpg" alt="15 (2)"/></p> <p><em>Source: thesmarttiles.com</em></p>

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