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Woman “bullied” on plane over budget seating trick

<p dir="ltr">A young woman has recalled a flight from hell when she was “bullied” by a couple who were trying to utilise a seating hack that went viral on TikTok. </p> <p dir="ltr">The solo traveller took to Reddit to recount the story and ask social media users if she was in the wrong for her action. </p> <p dir="ltr">The woman began by saying she usually pays more to select her plane seat ahead of time, but a medical emergency on another plane had her waiting on standby and left with no option other than to sit in a middle seat.</p> <p dir="ltr">When she was finally able to board, she was greeted by a couple who had purchased both the window and aisle seats in a bid to have more space, utilising a travel “trick” that has been popular on TikTok.</p> <p dir="ltr">The method, which has been dubbed the 'poor man's business class', usually leaves travellers with an empty middle seat and more space, and few travellers opt to pick a middle seat. </p> <p dir="ltr">“When I got to my row the man and woman were chatting and sharing a snack... it was obvious they were together. I mentioned to the man that I'm in the middle, and he got up to let me in,” the unsuspecting traveller wrote on Reddit.  </p> <p dir="ltr">“I asked them if they would prefer to sit together, I said I was totally okay with that. The woman reacted rudely to this and said ‘you're not supposed to be sitting here anyway’.”</p> <p dir="ltr">After noticing how the plane was full, she offered to show the pair her new ticket with the correct seat number on it.</p> <p dir="ltr">“She flicked her hand at my ticket and made a disgusted sound. I offered again if they wanted to sit together to which she didn't reply, her partner said it's okay and... made some small talk,” she continued. </p> <p dir="ltr">The man’s girlfriend then interrupted their conversation to ask,”'Did you use one of those third party websites to book your flight? It's so frustrating when people cheap out to inconvenience others.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The American woman explained that she had booked her flight directly and she had been placed on standby like everyone else and didn't choose the middle seat - she was assigned it.</p> <p dir="ltr">She then tried to keep the peace by refusing to engage with the furious woman.  </p> <p dir="ltr">“I was so done with her attitude, I put my headphones on and attempted to do my own thing,” she explained.</p> <p dir="ltr">But the “entitled” girlfriend wasn't letting it go, as the woman explained, “This woman kept reaching over me and tapping her partner and trying to talk to him in a way that was super intrusive.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I could tell even her partner was trying to engage her less so that she would hopefully stop, but she didn't.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I think they tried to pull that tactic where they don't sit together on purpose...hoping no one will sit between them. But on full flights it doesn't work. And even so - it's not the other person's fault.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The traveller's post was met with hundreds of comments slamming the girlfriend’s behaviour, as one person wrote, “It's like a toddler having a tantrum.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“She was disappointed and a total a**hole. Gross entitled people,” another added. </p> <p dir="ltr">Another person applauded the traveller’s level-headed behaviour, writing, “Wow! You are my hero for keeping it classy - I’m afraid I would not have been as kind as you.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Shutterstock </em></p>

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Long-married couples said not to know each other as well as newlyweds

<p>You would think decades of marriage together would give older couples plenty of time to get to know each other but an interesting new study suggests otherwise, finding that couples who have been together for decades are worse at predicting what their partner likes than newlyweds.</p> <p>The study, published in the Journal of Consumer Psychology, tested young couples, aged from 19 to 32, who had been together for an average of two years and older couples, aged from 62 to 78, who had been together for at least 40 years. Each of the 116 participants was presented with a series of descriptions (of foods, movies, house designs and so on) and asked to rate his or her preference and predict how their partner would rate the item. They were also asked to estimate how many of their predictions were correct.</p> <p>And well, overall, we’re not great at knowing what our significant other likes, even though we think we are. Young couples got 42 per cent of their predictions right and older couples only predicted 36 per cent of their partners’ preferences, when both couple groups overconfidently estimated they would get 62 per cent of answers right.</p> <p>“This is surprising because, compared to younger couples, older couples had much more time and opportunities to learn about each other's preferences over the course of their relationship,” the team of psychologist wrote.</p> <p>They suggested that younger couples may be more motivated to understand their partners during the early stages of a relationship.</p> <p>“Another reason could be that older couples pay less attention to each other, because they view their relationship as already firmly committed or because they think they already know their partner well,” said one of the researchers, Dr Benjamin Scheibehenne of the University of Basel.</p> <p><em>Image credit: Shutterstock</em></p>

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“You better f**king not leave”: Ben Affleck finally reveals what was said at the Grammys

<p>The Grammys are always going to cause a little bit of tension, with sayings like “it should’ve been me”  bound to be heard, but for big shot actor Ben Affleck, the 2023 ceremony could be described as a “take your husband to work day”, so he said.</p> <p>A "tense moment" between the star and wife J.Lo appearing to get into a tiff went viral on the internet, and he’s finally responded, according to the <em>New York Post</em>.</p> <p>Affleck, 50, recalled the incident as a standard “husband-and-wife-thing”, despite the spawning of several memes.</p> <p>“I saw [Grammy host Trevor Noah approach] and I was like, ‘Oh, God,’ they were framing us in this shot, but I didn’t know they were rolling,” Affleck told the Hollywood Reporter, “I leaned into her and I was like, ‘As soon they start rolling, I’m going to slide away from you and leave you sitting next to Trevor.’”</p> <p>“You better f**king not leave,” Lopez responded, according to her husband.</p> <p>Affleck continued to play the doting husband, but Lopez appeared to be out of sorts after she threatened him, saying,“‘All right, who is this act?’ Like, I don’t keep up. My wife does, obviously. And yeah, it is your wife’s work event.”</p> <p>Affleck shared, "I had a good time at the Grammys. My wife was going, and I thought, ‘Well, there’ll be good music. It might be fun.’”</p> <p>Lopez seems used to her husband’s apparent case of resting ‘bro’ face, joking about it soon after the event, writing on Twitter about Affleck’s “happy face” during a trailer for his latest movie <em>Air</em>.</p> <p>Meanwhile, the director and co-star of the new film, which is based on a true story of Nike’s creation of Michael Jordan’s infamous shoe line, has had his fair share of award shows, “I’ve gone to award shows and been drunk, a bunch. Nobody ever once said I’m drunk.” He told the <em>Hollywood Reporter</em>.</p> <p>“[But at the Grammys] they were like, ‘He’s drunk.’ And I thought that’s interesting. That raises a whole other thing about whether or not it’s wise to acknowledge addiction because there’s a lot of compassion, but there is still a tremendous stigma, which is often quite inhibiting.”</p> <p>Affleck has struggled with alcohol abuse in the past but has since recovered.</p> <p>He previously made waves when he appeared to blame his unhappy marriage to ex-wife Jennifer Garner, claiming, “I probably still would’ve been drinking” if he was still with her, he told SiriusXM’s T<em>he Howard Stern Show</em> in 2021.</p> <p>He is now happily married to 53-year-old superstar Lopez, whom he married in July 2022 after their on-and-off again relationship over the years.</p> <p>The couple co-parent five children together from previous marriages and are reportedly moving into a $96 million Pacific Palisades estate.</p> <p><em>Image credit: YouTube</em></p>

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Why do I remember embarrassing things I’ve said or done in the past and feel ashamed all over again?

<p>We’ve all done it – you’re walking around going about your business and suddenly you’re thinking about that time in high school you said something really stupid you would never say now.</p> <p>Or that time a few years ago when you made a social gaffe.</p> <p>You cringe and just want to die of shame.</p> <p>Why do these negative memories seem to just pop into our heads? And why do we feel so embarrassed still, when the occasion is long past?</p> <p><strong>How do memories come into our awareness?</strong></p> <p>The current thinking is there are two ways in which we recall experiences from our past. One way is purposeful and voluntary. For example, if you try to remember what you did at work yesterday, or what you had for lunch last Saturday. This involves a deliberate and effortful process during which we search for the memory in our minds.</p> <p>The second way is <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0963721410370301" target="_blank" rel="noopener">unintended and spontaneous</a>. These are memories that just seem to “pop” into our minds and can even be unwanted or intrusive. So, where does this second type of memory come from?</p> <p>Part of the answer lays in how memories are connected to each other. The current understanding is our past experiences are represented in <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1364661318300652?casa_token=SSFCzEsOjMkAAAAA:dYMJ2aVZpSCs9JCD9-iXsTMMnkyqnNtlcOoxA3lLzs8sNRrA8SXqb5LYamz25ZcMrsYxLoftp3A" target="_blank" rel="noopener">connected networks of cells</a> that reside in our brain, called neurons.</p> <p>These neurons grow physical connections with each other through the overlapping information in these representations. For example, memories might share a type of context (different beaches you’ve been to, restaurants you’ve eaten at), occur at similar periods of life (childhood, high school years), or have emotional and thematic overlap (times we have loved or argued with others).</p> <figure class="align-center zoomable"><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=401&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=401&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=401&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493440/original/file-20221104-13-ha3lz8.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=503&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="A bakery window" /></a><figcaption><em><span class="caption">Memories can be triggered by internal stimuli (thoughts, feelings) or external stimuli (something we see, hear, smell).</span> <span class="attribution"><span class="source">Yeh Xintong/Unsplash</span>, <a class="license" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">CC BY</a></span></em></figcaption></figure> <p>An initial activation of a memory could be triggered by an external stimuli from the environment (sights, sounds, tastes, smells) or internal stimuli (thoughts, feelings, physical sensations). Once neurons containing these memories are activated, associated memories are then <a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.3758/s13423-020-01792-x" target="_blank" rel="noopener">more likely to be recalled into conscious awareness</a>.</p> <p>An example might be walking past a bakery, smelling fresh bread, and having a spontaneous thought of last weekend when you cooked a meal for a friend. This might then lead to a memory of when toast was burned and there was smoke in the house. Not all activation will lead to a conscious memory, and at times the associations between memories might not be entirely clear to us.</p> <p><strong>Why do memories make us feel?</strong></p> <p>When memories come to mind, we often experience <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1099-0720(199610)10:5%3C435::AID-ACP408%3E3.0.CO;2-L" target="_blank" rel="noopener">emotional responses to them</a>. In fact, involuntary memories tend to be <a href="https://royalsocietypublishing.org/doi/full/10.1098/rstb.2019.0693" target="_blank" rel="noopener">more negative than voluntary memories</a>. Negative memories also tend to have a <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1037/1089-2680.5.4.323" target="_blank" rel="noopener">stronger emotional tone</a> than positive memories.</p> <p>Humans are more motivated to avoid bad outcomes, bad situations, and bad definitions of ourselves than to seek out good ones. This is likely due to the pressing need for survival in the world: physically, mentally, and socially.</p> <p>So involuntary memories can make us feel acutely sad, anxious, and even ashamed of ourselves. For example, a memory involving embarrassment or shame might indicate to us we have done something others might find to be distasteful or negative, or in some way we have violated social norms.</p> <p>These emotions are important for us to feel, and we learn from our memories and these emotional responses to manage future situations differently.</p> <p><strong>Does this happen to some people more than others?</strong></p> <p>This is all well and good, and mostly we’re able to remember our past and experience the emotions without too much distress. But it may happen for some people more than others, and with stronger emotions attached.</p> <p>One clue as to why comes from research on <a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2023-06108-001" target="_blank" rel="noopener">mood-congruent memory</a>. This is the tendency to be more likely to recall memories which are consistent with our <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1002/(SICI)1099-0720(199610)10:5%3C435::AID-ACP408%3E3.0.CO;2-L" target="_blank" rel="noopener">current mood</a>.</p> <figure class="align-right zoomable"><a href="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=1000&amp;fit=clip"><img src="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=237&amp;fit=clip" sizes="(min-width: 1466px) 754px, (max-width: 599px) 100vw, (min-width: 600px) 600px, 237px" srcset="https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=900&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 600w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=900&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1200w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=600&amp;h=900&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 1800w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=45&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=1131&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=1 754w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=30&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=1131&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=2 1508w, https://images.theconversation.com/files/493442/original/file-20221104-13-e9jr5g.jpg?ixlib=rb-1.1.0&amp;q=15&amp;auto=format&amp;w=754&amp;h=1131&amp;fit=crop&amp;dpr=3 2262w" alt="Man at desk thinking" /></a><figcaption><em><span class="caption">Ruminating is often unhelpful.</span> <span class="attribution"><span class="source">pexels/olia danilevich</span>, <a class="license" href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">CC BY</a></span></em></figcaption></figure> <p>So, if you’re feeling sad, well, you’re more likely to recall memories related to disappointments, loss or shame. Feeling anxious or bad about yourself? You’re more likely to recall times when you felt scared or unsure.</p> <p>In some mental health disorders, such as <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272735817303914?casa_token=k0OOX1ybROYAAAAA:UXy5KQk-_8h37dwSCDJqkoFebDn3b5atTodeeF0eYGeHjgtimUUcznPX9_Sxmq-5QsYx5gcUFQ" target="_blank" rel="noopener">major depression</a>, people more often recall memories that evoke negative feelings, the negative feelings are relatively stronger, and these feelings of shame or sadness are perceived as facts about themselves. That is, feelings become facts.</p> <p>Another thing that is more likely in some mental health disorders is <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0005796720300243?casa_token=eaQkokETnM8AAAAA:WjFF1oStuF9VUm7KWdP1zwd7CluYm9M5YZKTotYEV8v0ijZDJ2eDSLdv_Di6kICGw7h59kmW4y4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">rumination</a>. When we ruminate, we repetitively think about negative past experiences and how we feel or felt about them.</p> <p>On the surface, the function of rumination is to try and “work out” what happened and learn something or problem-solve so these experiences do not happen again. While this is good idea in theory, when we ruminate we become stuck in the past and re-experience negative emotions <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0005796720300243?casa_token=eaQkokETnM8AAAAA:WjFF1oStuF9VUm7KWdP1zwd7CluYm9M5YZKTotYEV8v0ijZDJ2eDSLdv_Di6kICGw7h59kmW4y4" target="_blank" rel="noopener">without much benefit</a>.</p> <p>Not only that, but it means those memories in our neural networks become more strongly connected with other information, and are even more likely to then be <a href="https://www.pnas.org/doi/abs/10.1073/pnas.1800006115" target="_blank" rel="noopener">recalled involuntarily</a>.</p> <p><strong>Can we stop the negative feelings?</strong></p> <p>The good news is memories are very adaptable. When we recall a memory we can elaborate on it and change our thoughts, feelings, and appraisals of past experiences.</p> <p>In a process referred to as “<a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/buy/2018-24701-001" target="_blank" rel="noopener">reconsolidation</a>”, changes can be made so the next time that memory is recalled it is different to what it once was and has a changed emotional tone.</p> <p>For example, we might remember a time when we felt anxious about a test or a job interview that didn’t go so well and feel sad or ashamed. Reflecting, elaborating and reframing that memory might involve remembering some aspects of it that did go well, integrating it with the idea that you stepped up to a challenge even though it was hard, and reminding yourself it’s okay to feel anxious or disappointed about difficult things and it does not make us a failure or a bad person.</p> <p>Through this process of rewriting experiences in a way that is reasonable and self-compassionate, their prominence in our life and self-concept can be reduced, and <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.1080/13607863.2011.651434" target="_blank" rel="noopener">our well-being can improve</a>.</p> <p>As for rumination, <a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272735813001207?casa_token=arG_36s8na4AAAAA:Wrlcppj451P7mZlxg44UyooaM25GpoEwTFtx5gfHFc-k2M2cWCXXO75JYC9P7DnMKF7vw7SlcA" target="_blank" rel="noopener">one evidenced-based strategy</a> is to recognise when it is happening and try to shift attention onto something absorbing and sensorial (for example doing something with your hands or focusing on sights or sounds). This attention shifting can short circuit rumination and get you doing something more valued.</p> <p>Overall, remember that even though our brain will give us little reminders of our experiences, we don’t have to be stuck in the past.<img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/190535/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /></p> <p><em>Writen by David John Hallford. Republished with permission from <a href="https://theconversation.com/why-do-i-remember-embarrassing-things-ive-said-or-done-in-the-past-and-feel-ashamed-all-over-again-190535" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>.</em></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p>

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Readers Respond: What is the most unprofessional thing a doctor has said to you?

<p dir="ltr">When you go to your family doctor or specialist the last thing you’d expect is something unprofessional being said. </p> <p dir="ltr">But unfortunately, it appears to be more common than we think and it is unacceptable. </p> <p dir="ltr">We asked our readers to shed some light on some of the unprofessional comments they’ve received from doctors and they are nothing but shocking.</p> <p dir="ltr">Check them out below.</p> <p dir="ltr">Julie Lancashire - At 90 years my mum got her pacemaker replaced after 10 years and the doctor saying he didn't expect he'd be doing it again. She's now 93 and counting!</p> <p dir="ltr">Carole Meyer - I was patted on the head and told I didn’t need to know how many stitches I had after giving birth.</p> <p dir="ltr">Rosalea Mifsud - I asked our doctor of 35 years if my husband could have Legionnaires' disease as he was extremely ill after opening the potting mix. Instead of swabbing or testing urine, his reply was “I don’t know as I have never had a patient with it”. My husband was ill for 2 months, but never diagnosed. He had a blood test which showed he had a virus.</p> <p dir="ltr">Jean Ahmet - My husband had a large operation to remove cancer. When he went for a check up a year later the registrar said to him “see you next year if you are still around”.</p> <p dir="ltr">Terrie Giancola - My husband was told he was considered “not viable” for surgery for liver cancer by a surgeon at a large public hospital in Melbourne, “go home enjoy what time you have left you won’t feel any pain”. Twenty-two years later after successful surgery at a large private hospital we both still remember the callousness of that comment.</p> <p dir="ltr">Margaret Gauld - Asking me what I was thinking about during an internal examination.</p> <p dir="ltr">Elizabeth Mcdowell - Went through years of pain and one day called into the hospital. The doctor checking me said l was faking the pain and wasting his time. Two more years of excruciating pain I saw a specialist who took my gallbladder out. He said it was full of puss and was very infected. Been fine ever since. </p> <p dir="ltr">Liz Wood - I was told to get pregnant and that would fix all my problems. Only thing was I had been told two weeks before having an operation for a burst cyst on my ovaries. I was then told I would not be able to have children. I reported the doctor for his insensitive comments. He had not read my case history.</p> <p dir="ltr">Vicki Pritchard - If you weren’t so overweight it wouldn’t have hurt as much! I fell down the cement stairs. I was in PAIN.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sue Schultz - Your baby shouldn't have died…but you are not the only one that has lost a baby!!!! I was just shattered.</p> <p dir="ltr">Share any unprofessional comments you’ve received <a href="https://www.facebook.com/oversixtyNZ/posts/pfbid02XYbmr2cQdZKdHTMxgHBTbKEMq7HCpVMoKGn2RMPSNjdJ5Ph6LDQGwRtbWQ5EtGV3l" target="_blank" rel="noopener">here</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: Shutterstock</em></p>

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What the Queen said to Harry during their secret meeting

<p>While en route to the Invictus Games in The Netherlands, Prince Harry and Meghan Markle had a private meeting with Queen Elizabeth.</p> <p>On Thursday, the estranged couple met with Her Majesty at Windsor Castle in the surprise, and top secret, meeting, which is believed to have been the first time they have been together since March 2020. </p> <p>The meeting is understood to have helped ease the tension that has grown between the Sussexes and the royal family, which culminated during Harry and Meghan's tell-all to Oprah Winfrey.</p> <p>Prince Harry spoke about seeing his grandmother, saying it was "great to see her".</p> <p>Harry told the <a title="BBC" href="https://honey.nine.com.au/royals/dickie-arbiter-prince-harry-meghan-markle-visit-to-queen-means-a-lot-to-monarch-olive-branch/c85b3083-759b-43bd-810e-8a7d10abadaa" target="_blank" rel="noopener">BBC,</a> "She had plenty of messages for Team UK, which I've already passed on to most of them."</p> <p>"So, it was great to see her and I'm sure she would love to be here if she could."</p> <p>Just days after the private family meeting, Her Majesty officially invited Prince Harry and Meghan Markle to join the Queen in her Platinum Jubilee celebrations in June.</p> <p>But as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex are no longer senior working royals, they will not be allowed to take a formal role in events over the four-day celebratory weekend.</p> <p>It would mean the couple is likely to join other members of the royal family on the balcony of Buckingham Palace for Trooping the Colour, which is expected to be the highlight of the celebrations.</p> <p>Harry and Meghan will also not be able to take part in the carriage procession alongside other working royals, but could potentially join Queen Elizabeth, and extended members of her family, on the palace balcony on June 2nd.</p> <p>They may also attend a service of thanksgiving at St Paul's Cathedral the following day.</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p>

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He never said it: Prince William furore fizzles out

<p dir="ltr">Prince William <a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/royals/prince-william-ukraine-war-in-europe-comments-what-he-really-said/0bf2426e-9526-4895-a3e2-2506aacdf61e" target="_blank" rel="noopener">became</a> the centre of a short-lived wave of backlash on social media after reports emerged about comments he allegedly made about the war in Ukraine.</p> <p dir="ltr">It was claimed the royal said it was “normal to see war and bloodshed in Africa and Asia” while meeting with volunteers at the Ukrainian Cultural Centre.</p> <p dir="ltr">The comment was paraphrased by a reporter and sent out via the Press Association, taking on a life of its own on social media.</p> <p dir="ltr">Omid Scobie, a co-author of a biography on Prince Harry and Meghan, was among the most vocal critics, accusing William in a now-deleted tweet of being “ignorant” and helping to “normalise war and death in Africa and Asia”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Unsurprised to see backlash against Prince William’s ignorant remark (reported by @PA). Europe has seen some of the bloodiest conflict in the past two centuries - Balkans, Yugoslavia, Germany and Kosovo to name a few,” he wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“But sure, let’s normalise war and death in Africa and Asia.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Bernice King, the daughter of Martin Luther King Jr, also weighed in, saying William’s words were “horrific”, while others said it was further proof of racism in the royal family.</p> <p dir="ltr">However, footage from British broadcaster ITV revealed that William never referred to Asia or Africa.</p> <p dir="ltr">Instead, he actually said: “Everyone is so horrified by what they are seeing. It’s really horrifying.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The news every day, it’s just, it’s almost unfathomable. For our generation, it’s very alien to see this in Europe.</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-7b41a49a-7fff-7343-ce2a-e051bd89884b"></span></p> <p dir="ltr">“We’re all right behind you. We’re thinking about you. We feel so useless.”</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">During a visit to the Ukrainian Cultural Centre yesterday, Prince William said: “Everyone is horrified by what they are seeing. The news every day, it’s almost unfathomable. For our generation, it’s very alien to see this in Europe. We’re all right behind you.” Watch here👇🏻 <a href="https://t.co/kQFbcivgvK">pic.twitter.com/kQFbcivgvK</a></p> <p>— Lizzie Robinson (@LizzieITV) <a href="https://twitter.com/LizzieITV/status/1501897141282910220?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 10, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Scobie later explained why he deleted his tweet and shared the original information reporters were using.</p> <p dir="ltr">“This reporting - by an @NUJ rep - was used by multiple outlets, incl Daily Mail’s royal editor, and seemed reliable to comment on (hours after others had reacted),” he wrote.</p> <p dir="ltr">“When an @ITV video showed Palmer’s paraphrased Asia/Africa quote was wrong, I retracted my tweet and shared corrections.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><span id="docs-internal-guid-0a6f6c5f-7fff-8da5-dbbb-e87a70e6d080"></span></p> <p dir="ltr">He went on to explain that the “pool copy” produced by journalist Richard Palmer, who covered the Duke and Duchess’ royal visit, was used to share information to other outlets who weren’t present using the <a href="http://www.newsmediauk.org/industry-services/royal-rota" target="_blank" rel="noopener">royal rota system</a>.</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">Below is an extract from <a href="https://twitter.com/RoyalReporter?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@RoyalReporter</a>’s pool copy filed to UK papers and <a href="https://twitter.com/PA?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@PA</a> after he covered yesterday’s royal visit. Being the only journalist there, Palmer’s sole job was to share reporting to the outlets not present. There would be no royal beat without the pool system. <a href="https://t.co/uM9JjtGE2l">pic.twitter.com/uM9JjtGE2l</a></p> <p>— Omid Scobie (@scobie) <a href="https://twitter.com/scobie/status/1502018546070654978?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 10, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p dir="ltr"><span id="docs-internal-guid-34fdf110-7fff-d2cd-621d-bb623c5fa2c9">“Being the only journalist there, Palmer’s sole job was to share reporting to the outlets not present. There would be no royal beat without the pool system,” Scobie captioned an image of the copy written by Palmer that was shared with other journalists.</span></p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">An update. A <a href="https://twitter.com/PA?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">@PA</a> rep tells me the quote paraphrased in their writeup wasn't from one of their own reporters and a correction has been sent out to subscribers.<br />The royal rota reporter who filed the alleged remark to the UK press pool has tweeted an apology: <a href="https://t.co/i8GmHzd8mx">https://t.co/i8GmHzd8mx</a></p> <p>— Omid Scobie (@scobie) <a href="https://twitter.com/scobie/status/1501934051824844803?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 10, 2022</a></p></blockquote> <p dir="ltr">In a follow-up tweet, Scobie shared the apology issued by Palmer, the reporter who made the error.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The Duke of Cambridge on war in Europe. He doesn’t appear to have compared it to conflicts in Africa and Asia. In the chaos, a remark he made was misheard, starting a social media storm. Apologies for reporting that online,” Palmer tweeted.</p> <p dir="ltr">Meanwhile, ITV’s Chris Ship, who helped uncover what William really said, argued that the Duke of Cambridge would have only been 9 or 10 when the war in former Yugoslavia began and “for his generation, it could be considered accurate to describe this as ‘very alien’ in Europe”.</p> <p dir="ltr"><span id="docs-internal-guid-4b75cbfa-7fff-f0c6-f289-10c6a9ce9548"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: @dukeandduchessofcambridge (Instagram)</em></p>

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"We said just do it": Mum recalls moment her newborn son fought for his life

<p dir="ltr">After a seemingly straightforward birth, Brooke Ryan didn’t expect the almighty commotion that saw her son fighting for his life.</p> <p dir="ltr">Brooke gave birth to her third son, Kaiden, in 2016 and said there were initially “no problems or issues”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“They did notice some of his vitals were changing, his blood sugar was fluctuating, and his APGAR (newborn screening test) score was worse than it was at first so they said they needed to take him away to monitor him,” the 36-year-old told <em><a href="https://honey.nine.com.au/latest/cerebral-palsy-baby-brain-bleed-surgery-recovery/952f16da-b508-4361-b13e-2910d635d760" target="_blank" rel="noopener">9Honey</a></em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">It wasn’t until later that she and her husband Julian heard and saw the hospital sirens and lights go off, only to find out Kaiden had stopped breathing and that medical staff were attempting to resuscitate him.</p> <p dir="ltr">Kaiden was then treated for meningitis, a worse-case scenario, while staff investigated what caused the sudden change.</p> <p dir="ltr">The next day, he was transported to Randwick Children’s Hospital, and Brooke had to discharge herself from the hospital she’d given birth in to be with him, her husband, and her sister Ashley.</p> <p dir="ltr">“When we got there the surgeon told us Kaiden had suffered a massive bleed on the back of his brain and that they would need to operate to remove the blood or he wouldn’t survive,” Brooke said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“They also said in all likelihood he wouldn’t survive the operation because he was only hours old and he only had so much blood in him.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We said just do it.”</p> <p dir="ltr">With no apparent alternatives, Kaiden went into surgery, but his parents were only able to see him after it finished.</p> <p dir="ltr">“He was so swollen and he had all these tubes and machines and everything just all around him,” Brooke recalled. </p> <p dir="ltr">Kaiden survived the surgery and “got stronger and stronger every day”, but there was no mention of brain damage at any of his monthly checkups.</p> <p dir="ltr">“They told us a blood vessel in his brain had burst and ruptured but they didn’t know why,” Brooke said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“When we got to about eight weeks we were telling them he was wobbly and had a floppy neck. It wasn’t getting stronger. They kept telling us he’d had major brain surgery and they’d had to cut through the muscle in the back of the neck and it would take a long time for him to recover.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Eventually doctors picked that something was amiss and began to suspect Kaiden had Cerebral Palsy (CP).</p> <p dir="ltr">“When I thought of CP I thought of people in wheelchairs who can’t do anything for themselves,” Brooke said.</p> <p dir="ltr">The family soon connected with the Cerebral Palsy Alliance (CPA) when Kaiden was seven months old and he was able to start physiotherapy and occupational therapy.</p> <p dir="ltr">Kaiden wasn’t formally diagnosed with the condition until he was 18 months old.</p> <p dir="ltr">Now five-years-old, Kaiden only needs assistance physically, and he receives plenty from his parents, two older sisters, and the CPA.</p> <p dir="ltr">“(His sisters) are very protective of Kaiden, very, very, very motherly,” Brooke said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“But they are so compassionate, patient and understanding. They would give him anything. I keep saying we are so lucky to have him.”</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-2d8cf53f-7fff-ce9b-cd1c-5fbbabdbed31"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Images: 9Honey</em></p>

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What Darwin’s garden said about evolution

<p>Think of Darwin and most likely you think of his theories on the origin of animal species. It was his vignettes on apes, tortoises and finches that won the public over to his theory of evolution by natural selection.</p> <p>But behind the scenes, plants also played a major role. They helped unveil the subtle steps taken on the evolutionary path.</p> <div id="end-excerpt" data-offset="0"> <p>Darwin collected hundreds of botanical specimens during his five-year voyage on HMS Beagle. He marvelled at the elegant tree ferns in the tropical jungles of Brazil, the impenetrable thickets of thistle throughout southern South America and the “desolate and untidy” scrubby eucalypt forests of Australia. “A traveller should be a botanist,” he wrote in his diary, just days before the Beagle returned home to England in 1836.</p> <p>While many of Darwin’s dangerous ideas were born in exotic ports of call – most famously on the Galápagos Islands off the coast of Ecuador – they were put to the test over the next 40 years among the primroses and cowslips, orchids and beans, bees and earthworms in his back garden at Down House in Bromley, Kent. Every part of the seven-hectare estate served as Darwin’s living laboratory. As University College London geneticist Steve Jones told the BBC in 2009: “This isn’t just a vegetable garden. This is Bromley’s Galápagos.”</p> <p>Darwin published more than 20 books in his lifetime covering subjects as diverse as the geology of South America and of volcanic islands; the formation of coral reefs; taxonomic studies of barnacles; and on the role of earthworms in soil fertility. But he also published prolifically on plants, including books on the “contrivances” by which plants achieve cross-fertilisation, the habits of climbing plants, and the behaviours of insect‑eating plants. He also paid heed to the views of his botanical colleagues: “I scarcely ever like to trust any general remark in zoology, without I find that botanists concur,” he wrote to American botanist Asa Gray in 1856.</p> <p>Darwin was obsessed with providing an answer to a question that perplexed 19th-century scholars: Where did new species come from? The serious study of rocks, spurred by industrial England’s demand for coal, had shown that different rock layers contained different fossils. That meant species weren’t created in one fell swoop, as the Bible insisted, they were changing over time. But how?</p> <p>Darwin’s travels on the Beagle provided clues. In the Galápagos, species differed remarkably from island to island. On Pinta Island, for instance, giant tortoises had shells that rose in front like a saddle to let the tortoise crane its long neck upwards. Darwin surmised this was an adaptation to feed on the tall cacti growing on the island. By contrast, on Isabela Island with its low-growing shrubs, the tortoises had no such kink.</p> <p>Perhaps, Darwin speculated, such differences arose from slight variations within the population from which the tortoises descended. If individuals were swept onto different islands, the environments might favour different physical attributes, tipping the balance of who survived and reproduced on each island. Over time, new species would emerge. Perhaps this “descent with modification” was just a microcosm of what was happening on a far grander scale.</p> <p>The vast timescale available for these changes was becoming evident from geological studies, including observations by Darwin himself. Ashore in Concepción, Chile, during a massive earthquake in 1835, he noticed the sudden uplift of land by several metres. Travelling inland, he saw shell fragments embedded in the Andean mountainsides, evidence that earlier tremors had again and again stranded marine debris high above the coastline.</p> <p>These and other geological signs convinced Darwin that no single quake, however violent, could so dramatically alter the landscape. To build the Andes would take vast eons of time – enough time, perhaps, for the countless tiny, incremental changes needed to account for the diversity of all life on Earth.</p> <p>Darwin knew his ideas were dangerous. He spent more than 20 years building the case for evolution by natural selection before publishing his theory in his 1859 book, On the Origin of Species. It’s not a riveting read, but you can’t help but be impressed by the sheer mass of data. (I’m surprised Darwin’s opponents such as Bishop Samuel Wilberforce didn’t just say, “Enough already, I give in.”)</p> <p>At Down House, Darwin used plants to test his theories. One fertile area of experimentation was the kitchen garden, planted by his wife Emma. As Nick Biddle, curator of the garden at Down House told the BBC in 2009, “It was really Emma who looked after the garden; Darwin would potter about. One of his gardener’s described him as ‘mooning about the garden; I think it would be better if he had something to do’.”</p> <p>But Darwin was certainly doing something. When a May frost deposited itself on a row of beans, Darwin noted that a small percentage were able to survive. It’s just the kind of thing Darwin was looking for to demonstrate evolution at work – small variations could be critical. Another fertile thread of investigation began with an encounter with Maihueniopsis darwinii, a flowering cactus he collected in Patagonia. One of many plants that now carry Darwin’s name, it surprised him with its forwardness. When he inserted his finger into the flower, its pollen‑producing stamens closed on it, followed more slowly by the petals. This, he realised, was just one mechanism flowers had evolved to force their pollen upon visiting insects and thence to other flowers.</p> <p>This determination to cross-pollinate was an emerging theme Darwin would revisit at Down House with his orchids. Victorians were fascinated by these flamboyant plants. And so was Darwin.</p> <p>“I never was more interested in any subject in my life than this of orchids,” he wrote in a letter to Joseph Hooker, a close mentor and the director of the Kew Gardens in London. It was the frivolity of their vivid markings, voluptuous lips and dramatic horns that so entranced Victorians. But Darwin saw the rationale in every part. “Who has ever dreamed of finding a utilitarian purpose in the forms and colours of flowers?” quipped biologist Thomas Huxley, another of Darwin’s close allies.</p> <p>Darwin spent countless hours at Down House tracing the different strategies orchids had evolved for attracting insects to their nectar-secreting glands known as nectaries. The voluptuous lips – which resembled alluring female insects – were just the beginning. In some orchid species, the nectar pooled at the base of a narrow tube so that when an insect stuck its head inside searching for a meal, it would inevitably rub against the flower’s sticky pollen. Others had bucket-shaped flowers that trapped bees inside in such a way that they couldn’t climb out without crawling past the flower’s sticky pollen. Yet others had hair-trigger mechanisms that spewed pollen on to an insect’s back, and others that forcefully pushed pollen-carrying insects on to a flower’s receptive female parts.</p> <p>Orchids were a dramatic example of the extent plants were prepared to go to in order to cross‑breed. “It is hardly an exaggeration to say that Nature tells us, in the most emphatic manner, that she abhors perpetual self-fertilisation,” he wrote in his book which was initially titled, On the Various Contrivances by which British and Foreign Orchids are Fertilised by Insects.</p> <p>Cross-fertilisation mixed up the characteristics in each generation, ensuring each individual is slightly different. That natural variation, Darwin realised, was the raw material for evolution.</p> <p>In the best scientific tradition, Darwin used his theory of evolution by natural selection to make predictions. If correct they wouldn’t necessarily prove his theory, but if found wrong they could have fatally wounded it. One of my favourite plant evolution stories is how Darwin predicted the presence of an insect based on the structure of a flower. The Star of Bethlehem (Angraecum sesquipedale) was discovered in the 1860s in the lowland forests of eastern Madagascar. When Darwin saw this unusual orchid, he theorised that since the nectar was at the bottom of a very long (25-30 centimetre) nectar tube, a pollinator had to exist with a proboscis at least as long. In 1903, 21 years after Darwin had passed away, a hawk moth with a 30-centimetre proboscis was discovered, Xanthopan morganii praedicta – the subspecies name ‘praedicta’ being a nod to Darwin’s prediction.</p> <p>If you refer back to Darwin’s arguments about nectar, you can piece together the kind of  evolutionary arms race responsible for such an odd outcome. You might start with an orchid with a small nectar tube and a moth with a small proboscis. From the plant’s point of view, if the tube is just a bit longer than the proboscis, the insect will bump its head on the pollen packet as it squeezes in. So plants with longer tubes are likely to be pollinated more often. The insect wants to get as much of the nectar as it can. So moths with a proboscis slightly longer than the tube do better and produce more offspring. It ends up as a competition between the plant’s need to be pollinated and the insect’s need to feed.</p> <p>Over time pollen tubes and proboscises both grow longer and longer. At some point, a limit is reached when anything longer becomes energetically or structurally impossible. In this case 30 centimetres seems to be about it.</p> <p>For Darwin it wasn’t always about evolution, although one suspects every odd or unusual behaviour he noticed would have been carefully filed away into his mental war-chest to defend his theory. In later life he became interested in plant movement. His final book on plants, published in 1880, documented for the first time “plant hormones”, messenger chemicals that trigger growth and determine whether a bud becomes a shoot or a root.</p> <p>In The Power of Movement in Plants you can also read about gravity’s impact on germinating seeds and climbing plants, or a mini-treatise on circumnutation, the rotational movement of the growing tip of a plant. Today we study this with time-lapse photography. Darwin recorded it all himself with pen and paper.</p> <p>Darwin would be thrilled to hear the latest discoveries in pollination biology, ecology and my own field, systematics (tracing the family tree of plants). Darwin also understood, as is only becoming clear today, that plants have a kind of intelligence – they sense and respond to their environment, they send signals from one leaf to another, and they communicate with other members of their species.</p> <p>Indeed, as Darwin wrote in 1881, the year before he died, “it has always pleased me to exalt plants in the scale of organised beings”.</p> </div> <div class="newsletter-box"> <div id="wpcf7-f6-p9100-o1" class="wpcf7"> <p style="display: none !important;"> </p> <p><!-- Chimpmail extension by Renzo Johnson --></p> </div> </div> <!-- Start of tracking content syndication. 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Tim Entwisle is director of the Royal Botanic Gardens, Victoria, Australia.</em></p> <p><em>Image: Getty Images</em></p> </div>

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Tennis royalty: What Ash Barty said to William and Kate

<p><span>Ash Barty is now officially tennis royalty after beating Karolina Pliskova and taking her first Wimbledon singles title.</span><br /><br /><span>Barty has become the second Australian woman to take the crown in 41 years, following behind </span><span>Evonne Goolagong Cawley.</span><br /><br /><span>Kate Middleton presented Barty with her trophy, and later spoke with the Aussie star alongside Prince William.</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842374/ash-barty-royal-4.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/62621ff12cb9407d889c28c163c2f643" /><br /><br /><span>Barty joined the British pair upstairs in the Wimbledon clubhouse and spent the rest of the afternoon mindlessly chatting with Middleton, who asked her if she’d spoken to her family the night before she stepped onto Centre Court.</span><br /><br /><span>“Yeah I called my niece and nephew and they were so excited,” Barty explained to Middleton.</span><br /><br /><span>“I know they’re up watching now.”</span><br /><br /><span>Middleton praised Barty for her success, mentioning how difficult it would have been to be restricted by the “intense” life of being stuck in a biosecure bubble.</span><br /><br /><span>The tennis star, alongside the rest of the players, we’re all severely limited with their movements in London and on tour in general.</span><br /><br /><span>When asked how it felt to play in front of fans and a packed out stadium, Barty admitted it was “the best feeling.”</span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842372/ash-barty-royal-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/965bb0aaffc4448db23f398f89a648bd" /></p> <p style="text-align: left;"><em>Australia's Ashleigh Barty holds The Venus Rosewater Dish after winning the Ladies Singles Final during The Championships 2021</em><br /><br /><span>“When we walked here, they (the fans) were just incredible.”</span><br /><br /><span>William said: “You didn’t look like you had any nerves today at all.”</span><br /><br /><span>“Oh no, I did (have nerves),” she responded, chuckling.</span><br /><br /><span>“I tried to just hit it out.</span><br /><br /><span>“I love playing here ... it brings out the very best in me.”</span><br /><br /><span>Middleton added: “I met a little fangirl downstairs, she was so sweet. So you’re inspiring the next generation.”</span><br /><br /><span>Barty also got to meet tennis legends Billie Jean King and Martina Navratilova before she rejoined her team in the corridor.</span><br /><br /><span>The star broke down in tears again when her boyfriend Garry Kissick wrapped his arms around her.</span></p> <p style="text-align: left;"><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7842375/ash-barty-royal-5.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/a2f1a10daa734b7f9c4ce3398cf865f5" /><br /><br /><span>Barty said her triumph was nothing short of a “miracle”, admitting to reporters post-match that her team had kept a secret from her about the extent of the injury she suffered before the French Open.</span><br /><br /><span>It was a hip complaint experts predicted would keep Barty out for two months but she rose to the occasion, despite pulling out from Roland Garros weeks earlier.</span><br /><br /><span>“Being able to play here at Wimbledon was nothing short of a miracle,” Barty said.</span><br /><br /><span>“They kept a lot of cards close to their chest. It just proved how much we were against the odds.</span><br /><br /><span>“To be playing pain-free through this event was incredible. Certainly now chatting to them it looked a lot less likely than I felt. It’s been an incredible month.”</span></p> <p style="text-align: left;"><em>Images: Getty</em></p>

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Lip reader reveals exactly what William said to Harry during statue unveiling

<p>The unveiling of a statue to commemorate what would have been Princess Diana's 60th birthday took place this week, with all eyes on the feuding royal brothers, Prince William and Prince Harry.</p> <p>Now, a professional lip reader has revealed the 'word of warning' the Duke of Cambridge said to his younger brother.</p> <p>Moments before the ceremony took place at Sunken Garden in Kensington Palace, lip reader Jeremy Freeman told the Daily Star, William gave a stern warning to Harry, telling him "I didn't want anything to go wrong. It's important we unveil it right."</p> <p>The pair commissioned the statue to honour their late mother four years ago, and appeared to stare fondly at it during the ceremony.</p> <p>Over 4,000 flowers were planted in the princess's favourite garden, taking 1,000 hours to complete.</p> <p>The brothers haven't been spotted together since the funeral of their great-grandfather, Prince Philip, in April.</p> <p>John Cassidy, another lip reader told The Sun, the brothers appeared to be quite jovial in their exchange, claiming the older prince marvelled at the touching tribute, saying "Great isn't it? Amazing little place."</p> <p>However, body language expert Judi James says the brothers united front appeared to be "overworked."</p> <p>"Emerging side-by-side their smiles did appear slightly over-worked at first but one very telling trait was how their body language was mirrored," she told The Sun.</p> <p>"This kind of mimicry suggests strong subliminal bonds, hinting that old ties still bind them despite their current rifts," she continued.</p> <p>During the ceremony, the brothers released a poignant statement, celebrating their mother's legacy.</p> <p>"Every day, we wish she were still with us, and our hope is that this statue will be seen forever as a symbol of her life and her legacy," they said.</p> <p>The statue will be open to the public to visit in line with Kensington Palace's opening hours.</p>

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Why Bridgerton’s hottest property said no to season two

<p>Regé-Jean Page isn’t returning to<span> </span><em>Bridgerton</em><span> </span>because he disliked the plans producers had for his character, the Duke of Hastings.</p> <p dir="ltr">A Hollywood source told<span> </span><em>Page Six</em> that the actor won’t be returning to<span> </span><em>Bridgerton</em><span> </span>because of “creative differences with [executive producer] Shonda Rhimes and her team”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“He wasn’t happy with what was planned for his character for Season 2, which would have kept him a player but not the focal point of the show.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Page has also been “inundated with offers for other interesting and challenging leading roles”, the source continued.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CLZ34Rej-4c/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CLZ34Rej-4c/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Bridgerton (@bridgertonnetflix)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Despite these “creative differences”, Page is leaving the show on good terms.</p> <p dir="ltr">Originally signed on with a one-year deal to play male lead Simon Bassett, the Duke of Hastings, Page was drawn to the show because of the role’s “one-season arc” with a “beginning, middle, end”, he told<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://variety.com/2021/tv/news/rege-jean-page-bridgerton-season-2-1234942827/" target="_blank"><em>Variety</em></a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">The recent announcement of his departure from the popular Netflix drama - watched by 82 million households worldwide - left fans distraught ahead of the second season.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CLpX0A1DMbG/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CLpX0A1DMbG/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Bridgerton (@bridgertonnetflix)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">Show creator and script writer Chris Van Dusen hoped both the Duke (Page) and Daphne Bridgerton (Phoebe Dynevor) would return following their romance in the show’s debut season.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I would love to be able to see them again and also at the same time explore the other brothers and sisters of the family,” Van Dusen told<span> </span><em>The Hollywood Reporter</em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">The British actor was reportedly offered an opportunity to return in Season 2 “as a guest star in three to five episodes'' but turned it down, according to<span> </span><em>The Hollywood Reporter</em>. Although he had several reasons, this included “an awareness that Simon would not be a focal point in Season 2.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Instead, Page is focusing on his movie career and has been offered a flood of film offers. He is also set to star in the upcoming film<span> </span><em>Dungeons and Dragons</em><span> </span>alongside Chris Pine, Michelle Rodriguez, and Justice Smith.</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CNK71Dxjer8/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CNK71Dxjer8/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Regé-Jean Page (@regejean)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p dir="ltr">In his farewell to the show, posted along with a picture of himself on horseback as Simon, Page wrote, “The ride of a lifetime. It’s been an absolute pleasure and privilege to be your Duke. Joining this family - not just on screen, but off screen too.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“Our incredibly creative and generous cast, crew, outstanding fans - it’s been beyond anything I could have imagined. The love is real and will just keep growing.”</p> <p dir="ltr">As for<span> </span><em>Bridgerton</em>, the next season will see the return of Dynevor playing Daphne Bridgerton, though the focus will be on eldest brother Anthony Bridgerton, played by Jonathan Bailey, and his quest for marriage.</p>

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What Charles said after Harry’s birth that broke Diana’s heart

<p>“I hope it will be a girl this time,” Prince Charles said to a well-wisher in London, according to the<span> </span><em>Daily Mail</em>. The year? 2014. The occasion? Kate Middleton’s pregnancy. But for some close to the late Princess Diana, the comment brought back bitter memories of the moment the beloved “People’s Princess” knew her already-troubled marriage to Prince Charles was doomed.</p> <p>In the 23 years since Princess Diana’s tragic death, many secrets about her marriage to Prince Charles have surfaced. One of those secrets had been revealed by Diana to her biographer, Andrew Morton, who wrote of it in his 1992 book,<span> </span><em>Diana: Her True Story</em>, but it appears to have been largely glossed over by the public until the birth of Princess Charlotte in 2015. And it’s came to light again when Prince Harry and Meghan Markle started their family – and even more so following Prince Harry’s recent revelations about his father refusing to take his calls after his and Meghan’s decision to step back as senior royals.</p> <p>That secret is that when Diana was pregnant with Prince Harry, Prince Charles had been desperately hoping for a baby girl, and upon Prince Harry’s birth, Prince Charles’ very first comment cut Princess Diana to the core: “Oh God, it’s a boy,” he reportedly said.</p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7840459/diana-charles-harry-1.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/18a2ec5ba57a43c48d3cfca9fb358226" /></p> <p>Although Charles dismissed his comment as mere “joking,” new mummy Diana felt deeply hurt for a number of reasons. First, in the weeks leading up to Prince Harry’s birth, Diana and Charles had been working at their marriage, and had grown “very, very close,”<span> </span><em>The Mirror</em><span> </span>reports. Knowing that Charles had been hoping for a daughter when Diana learned she was carrying a baby boy, she kept it from Charles so as not to spoil their bonding and hoped that the birth of a healthy son would delight Charles and make him forget his preference. That is, of course, not what happened.</p> <p>Add to that Charles’ second comment: “And he’s even got red hair.” Another “joke” that went right to Diana’s heart. For one thing, Diana’s family tree was chock full of redheads, so the comment was insulting on a primal level. Additionally, Diana may have felt that Charles was needling Diana about the extramarital affair she had had with red-headed James Hewitt (the affair had ended two years earlier, so Hewitt couldn’t have been the father).</p> <p>Finally, Diana had just endured nine hours of natural birth, which followed a miscarriage before she became pregnant with Harry.</p> <p>Although Charles knew that Diana was sensitive about the topic, at Prince Harry’s christening, he brought it up again, this time to Diana’s own mother. “We were so disappointed – we thought it would be a girl,” he reportedly said to Frances Kydd, who bristled at the comment and reported it to Diana.</p> <p>And with that, “something inside me closed off,” Diana told Morton. As “suddenly as Harry was born it just went bang, our marriage, the whole thing went down the drain.” The couple didn’t officially divorce until 1996, 12 years later.</p> <p><em>Written by Lauren Cahn. This article first appeared in <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.readersdigest.co.nz/culture/the-comment-prince-charles-made-after-harrys-birth-that-broke-princess-dianas-heart" target="_blank">Reader’s Digest.</a> For more of what you love from the world’s best-loved magazine, here’s our <a rel="noopener" href="https://readersdigest.innovations.co.nz/c/readersdigestemailsubscribe?utm_source=over60&amp;utm_medium=articles&amp;utm_campaign=RDSUB&amp;keycode=WRN93V" target="_blank">best subscription offer.</a></em></p> <p><img style="width: 100px !important; height: 100px !important;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7820640/1.png" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/f30947086c8e47b89cb076eb5bb9b3e2" /></p>

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Nicole Kidman said husband Keith Urban saved her from the "great killer" of loneliness

<p>Nicole Kidman has praised her husband Keith Urban from keeping her from loneliness during the coronavirus pandemic.</p> <p>The<span> </span><em>Undoing</em><span> </span>actress praised him in a recent interview with<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://redirect.viglink.com/?format=go&amp;jsonp=vglnk_160617672419810&amp;key=e5200498106ac69367fbfbf8b5361be3&amp;libId=khv6vh6e0102kn81000DAbbr2cdm6ros2&amp;loc=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.etonline.com%2Fnicole-kidman-on-parenting-in-lockdown-and-how-keith-urban-saved-her-from-the-great-killer-of%3Futm_source%3Dfeedburner%26utm_medium%3Dfeed%26utm_campaign%3DFeed%253A%2BETTopStories%2B%2528Entertainment%2BTonight%253A%2BBreaking%2BNews%2529&amp;v=1&amp;out=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.glamourmagazine.co.uk%2Farticle%2Fnicole-kidman-glamour-cover-interview-2020https%3A%2F%2Fwww.glamourmagazine.co.uk%2Farticle%2Fnicole-kidman-glamour-cover-interview-2020&amp;title=Nicole%20Kidman%20on%20Parenting%20in%20Lockdown%20%26%20How%20Keith%20Urban%20Saved%20Her%20From%20the%20%E2%80%98Great%20Killer%E2%80%99%20of%20Loneliness%20%7C%20Entertainment%20Tonight&amp;txt=Glamour" target="_blank"><em>Glamour</em></a>.</p> <p>"I have a very good relationship. It is a very soothing, comforting place for me to go, and he's a very strong, warm, kind man," she said.</p> <p>"I'm very fortunate to have that in my life because it's a really strong place to be able to go and curl up."</p> <p>The pair have been married since 2006 and share daughters Rose, 12 and Faith Margaret, 9.</p> <p>"And, this is a lonely world, right?" she said. "That's an extraordinary thing to have found, particularly later in my life. But it saved me, as well, which is a beautiful thing to have."</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CHdzh1KHS1c/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="13"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;"><a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CHdzh1KHS1c/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">A post shared by Nicole Kidman (@nicolekidman)</a></p> </div> </blockquote> <p>Kidman referred to loneliness as a global "epidemic" and that she doesn't take her husband's unconditional love for granted.</p> <p>"They say loneliness is the great killer," she said. "It causes so much pain and I've been lonely, and it is very, very, very hard. You see it in older people. You see it in young people. You see it now in this world. We can't even hug anymore. Loneliness is an epidemic. So, I am very fortunate to come home to him. My heart goes out to the people who don't have a person to go to now."</p> <p>She said her family keeps her grounded.</p> <p>"I said once, 'I prefer children to adults.' I like adults more now — not more than kids, though," she said. "I love being around children and we've got five kids living with me now because Keith had to go [to Nashville] to release his album. So, my sister moved in to help me while I'm filming, and we have three of her younger kids — she has six — living with us."</p> <p>"Our kids — because we travel, and we won't be apart — are used to having to learn online," she said. "But the social distance has been very difficult for them. They are working through the emotions. For a 12-year-old, it's about not being able to access friends easily. That's a whole thing which every parent will be going through."</p>

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We asked kids who their favourite teacher is, and why. Here’s what they said

<p>Most of us can remember a favourite teacher. Some of us can also remember a teacher we didn’t get on with or with whom we always seemed to get in trouble.</p> <p>Relationships between students and teachers at school are important. They predict students’ motivation, performance, and expectations of future relationships.</p> <p>We interviewed 96 students from a range of schools in Years 3 to 9. We wanted to find out who students remember as their favourite and least favourite teachers. We also wanted to find out what made those relationships positive or negative.</p> <p>In our study, published in the journal School Psychology Review, all students described similar factors that made them like their teachers — care, kindness and humour.</p> <p> </p> <p><strong>What we wanted to find</strong></p> <p>Past research shows students with disruptive behaviour are more likely to experience negative relationships with their teachers than their less disruptive peers. Teachers often rate relationships with such students to be low in closeness and high in conflict.</p> <p>But these relationships aren’t always negative. Even self-described troublemakers and class clowns often remember a specific teacher who stood up for them, who took them under their wing, or who changed their perceptions of school for the better.</p> <p>The first group we interviewed consisted of 54 students who had a history of disruptive behaviour, such as acting out in class or being frequently suspended. Around half were in a special behaviour school for disruptive behaviour, and the remainder attended a mainstream school.</p> <p>The second group consisted of 42 students with no history of disruptive behaviour. They were often high achieving (such as school prefects or A-students), and all attended a mainstream school.</p> <p>We were particularly interested in the “magic ingredients” that would support positive student-teacher relationships, even for disruptive students. We also wanted to determine if there were “contaminating ingredients” that could sour these relationships, even for exemplary students.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p><strong>Who is your favourite teacher?</strong></p> <p>We first asked students if they could remember any teachers they’d had a really good relationship with. If the student replied yes, we then asked what made the relationship good.</p> <p>The reasons students liked teachers were almost identical across groups. Even highly disruptive students bonded with teachers who were caring, kind and funny.</p> <p>One 13-year-old with disruptive behaviour (in a special school) said of their favourite teacher:</p> <p><em>"Every time I’d go there without food … Miss H always used to buy me lunch, let me go on excursions. … I was never allowed to go on an excursion [before] because of my ADHD."</em></p> <p>A 15-year-old with disruptive behaviour (also in a special school) said of their favourite teacher:</p> <p><em>"Mr M, he’s just hilarious. He’s the funniest man on earth. He’s always saying this weird stuff […] walking around with this big puffy jacket, like some kind of Russian guard […] pretending his pencil is a cigar […] we just laugh."</em></p> <p>These answers show how important it is for teachers to separate student disciplinary matters from relationship matters.</p> <p>Around 16% of students highlighted teacher helpfulness, while 10% highlighted effective teaching, as a key advantage of their favourite teachers.</p> <p>One 12-year-old without disruptive behaviour said about their favourite teacher:</p> <p><em>"She gave me and some of the other smart kids harder work. [I liked that] because it challenges me."</em></p> <p> </p> <p><strong>What causes conflicts?</strong></p> <p>We next asked students if they could remember any teachers they really didn’t get on with or clashed with. If a student replied yes, we asked what sort of things would bring that on.</p> <p>While not all students could remember a teacher they clashed with, a large proportion of each group could.</p> <p>Students in both groups overwhelmingly agreed on the key factors contributing to negative relationships.</p> <p>Across groups, 86% highlighted instances where they had perceived the teacher being unnecessarily hostile towards them, or where they felt they were treated unfairly.</p> <p>One 13-year-old with disruptive behaviour (in a mainstream school) said:</p> <p><em>"I usually have my earphones in and I just sit there and just listen to music […] she just like opened the door, seen me listening to music […] She comes up, grabs the earphones, she just rips them out of my ear [pretend shouting] ‘Listen to the teacher!'"</em></p> <p>A 16-year-old with disruptive behaviour (in a special school) said:</p> <p><em>"She just used to pin stuff on me. If I done the littlest thing wrong and someone done somethin’ major wrong, she would […] go for me first […] She just hated me, and I hated her."</em></p> <p>Another 10-year-old with no disruptive behaviour said:</p> <p><em>"She was always yelling […] Because she gave us a real hard book, and we were only in Year 1, and we couldn’t really read it that good […]"</em></p> <p>Frequently, students’ descriptions of unfair treatment included pre-emptive punishments and reprimands:</p> <p>One 15-year-old with disruptive behaviour (in a special school) said:</p> <p><em>"Well, I remember one time that, like, I went inside the classroom and she just, like, came up to me and she was like, you had better not talk this lesson and I wasn’t even talking at all."</em></p> <p>Another 15-year-old with disruptive behaviour (in a mainstream school) said:</p> <p><em>"Well, she always picked me out, as well, for misbehaving, so I got in a lot of trouble for that, but […] like, a lot of people were just doing a lot worse than I was doing, but she was like, no, no, you’ve been bad before."</em></p> <p>A 12-year-old with no disruptive behavior (in a mainstream school) said:</p> <p><em>"Every time I did something in the playground that was good, someone told her I’d done something bad and [Miss C] always believed them."</em></p> <p><strong> </strong><strong> </strong></p> <p><strong>What teachers can take from this</strong></p> <p>Based on our research, below are some things teachers and parents can do to promote positive relationships with teachers for the young people in their care.</p> <ol> <li>Remember empathy and humour go a long way to building positive relationships with students. Caring about students as individuals genuinely does break down barriers. Most teachers already report caring deeply for their students. It may simply be a matter of making one’s acts of kindness and care more visible<br /><br /></li> <li>Consider how warnings are given. Students benefit when they are allowed to start the day with a clean slate, and when reprimands are held back until an offence has actually been committed<br /><br /></li> <li>Separate classroom management from relationship building. Students who are most disruptive are also often the ones who could use a positive relationship the most<br /><br /></li> <li>Parents can help by encouraging students to reflect on their relationships with teachers. Sometimes situations are ambiguous, and understanding a teacher’s perspective may help in interpreting situations that would otherwise feel unreasonable to a young person. Students and teachers both win when they work on the same team.</li> </ol> <p> </p> <p class="p1"><em>Written by Misha Ketchell. This article first appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/we-asked-kids-who-their-favourite-teacher-is-and-why-heres-what-they-said-145093">The Conversation</a>.</em></p> <p> </p>

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“She said OUI!”: James Middleton confirms engagement to Alizee Thevenet in sweet snap

<p>James Middleton has gotten engaged to long-time girlfriend French investment banker Alizee Thevenet and shared the news in a sweet snap on his Instagram.</p> <p>He made the post on Sunday after rumours were swarming the couple.</p> <p>Middleton captioned the sweet photo with “She said OUI”.</p> <p>“Our secret is out but we couldn’t be happier to share the news.”</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3R1d7EAzsM/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/B3R1d7EAzsM/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">❤️She said OUI ❤️ . Our secret is out but we couldn’t be happier to share the news 🥂🍾 #jalizee 🇬🇧🇫🇷</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/jmidy/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> James Middleton</a> (@jmidy) on Oct 6, 2019 at 6:37am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <p>In the photo, the couple are on a hill in England’s Lake District, which just so happens to be the same region where Pippa Middleton’s now-husband James Matthews proposed to her in 2016.</p> <p>The happy news from the couple was initially revealed by<span> </span><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7539569/EDEN-CONFIDENTIAL-James-Middleton-marry-French-girlfriend.html" target="_blank">Daily Mail</a> reporter Richard Eden on Saturday after he spoke with the couple’s friends.</p> <p>“I can reveal that James is to wed his French girlfriend, Alizee Thevenet,” Richard wrote, adding that the bride-to-be has been spotted wearing a “beautiful sapphire sparkler”.</p> <p>The couple met in the sweetest way, after a friend revealed that Thevenet had no idea who Middleton was. They struck up a conversation about Middleton’s cocker spaniel named Ella.</p> <p>“After Alizee went back to her table, James asked the waiter to give her a note saying: ‘I never normally do this, but would you like to go for a drink with me?’ He also picked up their tab. A few weeks later, they went out for a drink together.”</p> <p>Congratulations to the happy couple on their engagement!</p>

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The sweetest things Prince Harry and Meghan have said about Baby Archie

<p>It’s only been a few weeks since Archie Harrison was born, and his doting parents have not stopped showering him with praise ever since. The little royal was born on May 6, 2019 with Prince Harry and Duchess Meghan sharing the exciting news within the walls of Windsor Castle a few days after his birth. Since then, here is everything the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have said about their first-born so far:</p> <p><strong>On witnessing Archie’s birth</strong></p> <p><strong>Harry:</strong><span> </span>"It’s been the most amazing experience I could ever have possibly imagined. How any woman does what they do is beyond comprehension, but we’re both absolutely thrilled and so grateful for all the love and support from everybody out there. It’s been amazing."</p> <p><strong>Harry:</strong> "I haven’t been in many births. This is definitely my first birth. But it was amazing. Absolutely incredible. I’m so incredibly proud of my wife. As every father and parent would ever say, your baby is absolutely amazing. But this little thing is absolutely to die for. So I’m just over the moon."</p> <p><strong>On parenthood</strong></p> <p><strong>Meghan</strong>: "It’s magic. It’s pretty amazing. And here I have the two best guys in the world, so I’m really happy."</p> <p><strong>Harry:</strong> "Parenting is amazing. It’s only been what, two and a half days, three days? But we’re just so thrilled to have our own little bundle of joy to spend some precious times with him as he slowly starts to grow up."</p> <p><strong>On little Archie’s personality</strong></p> <p><strong>Meghan: </strong>"He has the sweetest temperament. He’s really calm, and—he’s been, just been a dream, so it’s been a special couple days."</p> <p><strong>When visiting the Netherlands for the Invictus Games, Harry told competitor Dennis van der Stroon that Archie is “very quiet”:</strong><span> </span>“Above all he said he was just amazed by the miracles in the world, and how his child has made a lot of people happy," van der Stroon said. "He told me he’s really happy that his son is so far very quiet..."</p> <p><strong>On their love for their son</strong></p> <p><strong>During an official visit to the Oxford Children’s Hospital, Prince Harry told Amy Scullard, a mother whose son is currently battling cancer, that he “can’t imagine” life without Archie:<span> </span></strong>"He said he’s getting used to the baby and how Archie has fitted into family life," Scullard said. "He said he just feels part of the family and he can’t imagine life without his son."</p>

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She said "yes"! Jacinda Ardern's surprise engagement to partner Clarke Gayford

<p>The Prime Minister of New Zealand, Jacinda Ardern, and her long-time partner became engaged over Easter, her team have confirmed.</p> <p>According to Ardern’s press secretary, the PM and Clarke Gayford made the decision to spend the rest of their lives together over the Easter break.</p> <p>The mother-of-one had been spotted wearing the ring on her middle finger, according to <em><a rel="noopener" href="https://www.ntnews.com.au/news/world/new-zealand-prime-minister-jacinda-ardern-engaged/news-story/0fcbcf19f0e3600a2514de1671a0d250?nk=9f5aaf7e96e61f3876a76a00ed913a1c-1556858101" target="_blank">NT News</a>.</em></p> <p>The couple have a 10-month-old daughter together.</p> <p>Sitting down with the BBC earlier in the year, Ardern said that she wasn’t sure if she would put her partner through the “pain and torture” of having to kneel down on one knee to pop the question when asked if she would reverse the roles being a feminist.</p> <p>The 38-year-old met her fiancé in 2012 at an awards event.</p> <p>Only two months after Ardern was elected as Prime Minister, she was made to address the constant speculation on whether or not she and Gayford were engaged.</p> <p>“I thought I would upfront address the speculation in the gallery this afternoon over my Facebook Live and the issue of where my ring was placed during that Facebook live,” said Ardern. </p> <p>“I’m happy to confirm that I have eczema on my left hand, which causes me to rotate where I wear my beautiful onyx ring. So, no I am not engaged.</p> <p>“I do, however, suffer from a small skin condition, which is not very romantic. Glad to have cleared that up.”</p> <p>Ardern chose to wear her engagement ring on her middle finger on Monday when visiting a memorial at the Pike River Mine in Greymouth, New Zealand. The decision was made so not to take attention away from those that had been affected by the tragedy, which trapped and killed 29 men after an explosion in 2010.</p>

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Prince Harry just said no to a big family – 5 kids is “too many”

<p>The good news is that Prince Harry and his new wife Meghan are planning a family. But don’t expect there to be lots of mini Harry’s and Meghan’s running around.</p> <p>During the royal couple’s first official overseas tour in Ireland this week, a woman joked to the Duke and Duchess of Sussex that they should get started on a family soon, but the prince brushed off the suggestion the couple should follow in the well-wisher’s footsteps and have five children.</p> <p>Royal fan Elaine Adam-Stewart, 43, told Harry: “My husband also has red hair and he gave me five children – when are you and Meghan going to get going?” <em><a href="https://people.com/royals/prince-harry-no-to-big-family/">People</a></em> reported.</p> <p>Luckily the good-humoured prince saw the funny side, with Elaine telling <em>People</em>, “He laughed and said, ‘Five children? Too many.’”</p> <p>Earlier in the day, Harry and Meghan shared some lovely candid moments with a couple of <a href="https://people.com/royals/meghan-markle-hair-toddler-ireland/">toddlers at Croke Park</a>, with one of the cheeky children unable to stop touching the duchess’s hair – 3-year-old Walter Kieran immediately went to grab Meghan’s beautiful wavy, long locks. Attentive husband Harry joined in on the fun by giving the mischievous toddler a mock scolding, wagging his finger at him.</p> <p> <img width="500" height="375" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7819786/1-harry-and-meghan_500x375.jpg" alt="1 Harry And Meghan"/></p> <p><img width="500" height="359" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7819787/3-harry-meghan_500x359.jpg" alt="3 Harry Meghan"/></p> <p>Harry also had his own obsessed little fan to contend with, when 4-year-old Dylan Mahon tugged at the royals’ red beard (pictured top), with the prince playfully grimacing and Meghan attempting to stifle a laugh. The royal told the young boy, “You might have a beard soon – you never know!”</p> <p>When asked about baby plans during Harry and Meghan’s BBC interview in November, just after the pair announced their engagement, the prince exclaimed, “Of course. You know, one step at a time. Hopefully we’ll start a family in the near future.”</p> <p>During another interview last year, Prince Harry admitted he was looking forward to fatherhood, telling <em>The Telegrap</em>h, “I would love to have kids.” While in a 2016 interview with <em>Best Health</em> magazine, Meghan revealed her bucket list items and shared, “I want to travel more, and I can’t wait to start a family, but in due time.”</p>

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10 famous misquotes (and what was REALLY said)

<p>Last month, we tested you on your ability to detect <a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/entertainment/music/2018/03/famous-quotes-by-musicians-real-or-fake/" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">real quotes by musicians from fake ones</span></strong></a>. But as it turns out, there’s a lot more false quotes out there than we ever imagined – in fact, even some of the most iconic statements ever uttered have been misattributed.</p> <p>So let’s clear up some of the most common misquotes from pop culture and history.</p> <p><strong>1. “Be the change you wish to see in the world.”</strong></p> <p>This quote, attributed to Gandi, is powerful and succinct, but it’s not quite what the Indian activist said. According to the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2011/08/30/opinion/falser-words-were-never-spoken.html" target="_blank"><em><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">New York Times</span></strong></em></a>, he actually said the following: “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him ... We need not wait to see what others do.”</p> <p><strong>2. “The ends justify the means.”</strong></p> <p>Machiavelli’s most famous quote is quite different to the original line, which was actually “One must consider the final result.”</p> <p><strong>3. “Do you feel lucky, punk?”</strong></p> <p>It’s one of Clint Eastwood’s most iconic lines, but the real quote is worded slightly differently – “You’ve got to ask yourself one question: ‘Do I feel lucky?’ Well, do you, punk?”</p> <p><strong>4. “Mirror, mirror on the wall…”</strong></p> <p>Wrong! The evil queen in Snow White actually says, “Magic mirror on the wall”.</p> <p><strong>5. “I don’t think we’re in Kansas anymore.”</strong></p> <p>Again, this famous line from <em>The Wizard of Oz</em> has been repeated so often that several words are left out. It’s actually, “Toto, I have a feeling we’re not in Kansas anymore.”</p> <p><strong>6. “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.”</strong></p> <p>This misquote comes from English writer William Congreve’s 1697 play <em>The Mourning Bride</em>. The real quote is, “Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned/Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.”</p> <p><strong>7. “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”</strong></p> <p>It’s a favourite for women around the world, but there is no evidence suggesting these words were ever said by Marilyn Monroe. In fact, no one really knows where this quote came from.</p> <p><strong>8. “Well-behaved women rarely make history.”</strong></p> <p>Another oft-repeated quote supposedly by Marilyn (or Eleanor Roosevelt, depending on what you read), this quote was actually the <a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2007/09/30/books/review/harrison.html" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">brainchild of Laurel Thatcher Ulrich</span></strong></a>, a University of New Hampshire student who went on to become a Harvard professor.</p> <p><strong>9. “Blood, sweat and tears.”</strong></p> <p>This common phrase was adapted from a speech by Winston Churchill, although his version was a little less catchy: “I have nothing to offer but blood, toil, tears, and sweat.”</p> <p><strong>10. “Let them eat cake!”</strong></p> <p>You probably know this by now, but Marie Antoinette never uttered this iconic statement. It actually came from French philosopher Jean-Jacques Rousseau, who wrote, “I recalled the make-shift of a great princess who was told that the peasants had no bread and who replied: ‘Let them eat brioche.’” But he wasn’t talking about Marie Antoinette, who was born 10 years after the quote.</p>

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