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Boeing Starliner astronauts: what six months stuck in space may do to their perception of time

<p><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/ruth-ogden-1182467">Ruth Ogden</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/liverpool-john-moores-university-1319">Liverpool John Moores University</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/daniel-eduardo-vigo-1631723">Daniel Eduardo Vigo</a>, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/pontificia-universidad-catolica-de-argentina-5531">Pontificia Universidad Católica de Argentina</a></p> <p>Two astronauts marooned in space may sound like the plot of a Hollywood blockbuster, but for two <a href="https://www.nasa.gov/">Nasa</a> crew members, it is now a reality. Commander Barry Wilmore and pilot Sunita Williams are currently in limbo on the International Space Station (ISS).</p> <p>They arrived in the Boeing Starliner spacecraft – the first test of the spaceship with astronauts. Wilmore and Williams were supposed to stay on the ISS for around eight days and return on the same spacecraft. But there is now debate about the safety of Starliner after it experienced <a href="https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c6pp29gdwe6o">helium leaks and thruster problems</a> on its way to the ISS.</p> <p>In coming days, Nasa and Boeing may decide to clear Starliner to carry the astronauts back to Earth. This means their stay might not last too much longer. But if officials decide against Starliner, the astronauts face waiting an <a href="https://www.nasa.gov/news-release/update-nasa-boeing-to-stream-flight-test-mission-briefing-on-nasa/">additional six months in orbit</a> before returning. So how do astronauts cope with a potential six-month wait for a lift home?</p> <p><a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0022249685900203">Waiting for things is difficult</a> at the best of times. Under normal circumstances, it is <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/2043808718778982">frustrating, stressful and anxiety-provoking</a>. But in extreme situations, with high stakes, <a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1111/j.1365-2648.2011.05638.x?casa_token=jC_hT4wqbuIAAAAA%3AGTrJPmd496aDTdirdwYi7CvLK8Q1g_oR-Em2E3EpDP0AwRCs2ko13Jpqui15BlkPiAx7MMRqA0MC">waiting can be purgatory</a>.</p> <p>Part of the reason that waiting is difficult is that it distorts our sense of time. Think of last time you were waiting for a delayed train, test results or a text from a potential new partner. Did it fly by or drag? For most people, time spent waiting crawls at a glacial pace. As a result, delays and periods of anticipation often feel much longer than they actually are.</p> <p>Waiting slows our perception of time, because it changes the amount of time that we spend <a href="https://www.jstor.org/stable/23324610?casa_token=KmtJWWmtHwQAAAAA%3AN_CUdtNakK46j4ItZaH_f__QcIGOjMnasX1NeMTRFH5YPpcmYx1JpigTfTb1bPYi5Fcus-IhtzDX0Jsz3xpqZRMDUxg0RWYhSr87V-zXz_pqS0zM&amp;seq=2">thinking about time</a>. During normal daily life we often ignore time; our brains have a limited capacity. If time isn’t important, we simply don’t think about it, and this helps it to pass quickly.</p> <p>When we are waiting, our desire to know when the wait is over increases how much we think about time. This “clock watching” can make the minutes and hours feel like they are <a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/0278-2626(90)90026-K">passing at a snail’s pace</a>. Stress, discomfort and pain exacerbate this effect, meaning that waiting in difficult situations <a href="https://doi.org/10.1002/ejp.2211">can seem even longer</a>.</p> <p>Waiting also slows our perception of time because it what we do and how we feel. Normal life is busy and full of ever-changing activities and interactions. The sudden need to wait halts the flow of life, often leaving us with nothing else to do, thus increasing levels of boredom and frustration.</p> <p>In general, time filled with activity <a href="https://doi.org/10.1016/0278-2626(90)90026-K">passes more quickly</a>. We all got a taste of this during <a href="https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0235871">COVID lockdowns</a>. When we were stuck inside unable to see friends and engage in normal daily activities, the loss of routine and distractions caused time to drag for many.</p> <p>For the astronauts stuck on the ISS, anxiety about when they will return, limited opportunities for activities and fewer opportunities to contact friends and families combine to make their wait to return home feel significantly longer than six months – if it should come to that.</p> <p>However, as academics who research the effects of time on human psychology and biology, our ongoing work with crew members at research stations in Antarctica aims to shed light on whether waiting in extreme environments is different to waiting during normal daily life.</p> <h2>A year in Antarctica</h2> <p>While being stuck for six months on the ISS may sound like many people’s worst nightmare, it is not uncommon for scientists to spend long periods isolated and confined in extreme environments. Every year, organisations such as the Instituto Antártico Argentino (which uses the Belgrano II Antarctic station), the French Polar Institute and the Italian Antarctic Programme, in cooperation with the European Space Agency (which all use Antarctica’s Concordia station), send crews of people for up to 16 months to conduct research on the frozen continent.</p> <p>During the March to October <a href="https://www.bas.ac.uk/">polar winter</a>, teams spend six months in near darkness – and from May to August, in complete darkness – facing outside temperatures of up to -60C, wind speeds of 160 km/h (100 mph) and storms which prevent almost all outdoor activity. Limited internet coverage can also prevent constant communication with the outside world.</p> <p>For the last year, we have researched how life in Antarctica influences people’s experience of time. Each month, we asked crew members how time felt like it was passing in comparison to before their mission. Trapped on base, with limited contact with the outside world, you might expect time to drag. However, our results suggest the opposite may be true.</p> <p>Analysis of crew members’ experiences indicated that being constantly busy with complex tasks such as scientific research helped time to pass swiftly, according to 80% of crew responses. Only 3% of responses indicated that time actually dragged, and these reports occurred when nights were long and there was little to do.</p> <p>These experiences may provide hope for those stuck on the ISS. Like life on an Antarctic station, these Nasa astronauts have a busy and mentally demanding existence. These factors may help time to pass quickly.</p> <p>However, a key factor of their wait may be their ability to <a href="https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/2043808718778982">tolerate the uncertainty</a> of when they will return. Wilmore and Williams will spend their time in a space equivalent to the <a href="https://www.nasa.gov/international-space-station/space-station-facts-and-figures/">inside a Boeing 747</a> plane. But better information about “when” things will happen and “why” delays are being incurred can help people to tolerate waiting and reduce its impact on their wellbeing.<img style="border: none !important; box-shadow: none !important; margin: 0 !important; max-height: 1px !important; max-width: 1px !important; min-height: 1px !important; min-width: 1px !important; opacity: 0 !important; outline: none !important; padding: 0 !important;" src="https://counter.theconversation.com/content/236546/count.gif?distributor=republish-lightbox-basic" alt="The Conversation" width="1" height="1" /></p> <p><em><a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/ruth-ogden-1182467">Ruth Ogden</a>, Professor of the Psychology of Time, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/liverpool-john-moores-university-1319">Liverpool John Moores University</a> and <a href="https://theconversation.com/profiles/daniel-eduardo-vigo-1631723">Daniel Eduardo Vigo</a>, Senior Researcher in Chronobiology, <a href="https://theconversation.com/institutions/pontificia-universidad-catolica-de-argentina-5531">Pontificia Universidad Católica de Argentina</a></em></p> <p><em>Image credits: NASA</em></p> <p><em>This article is republished from <a href="https://theconversation.com">The Conversation</a> under a Creative Commons license. Read the <a href="https://theconversation.com/boeing-starliner-astronauts-what-six-months-stuck-in-space-may-do-to-their-perception-of-time-236546">original article</a>.</em></p>

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Woman “bullied” on plane over budget seating trick

<p dir="ltr">A young woman has recalled a flight from hell when she was “bullied” by a couple who were trying to utilise a seating hack that went viral on TikTok. </p> <p dir="ltr">The solo traveller took to Reddit to recount the story and ask social media users if she was in the wrong for her action. </p> <p dir="ltr">The woman began by saying she usually pays more to select her plane seat ahead of time, but a medical emergency on another plane had her waiting on standby and left with no option other than to sit in a middle seat.</p> <p dir="ltr">When she was finally able to board, she was greeted by a couple who had purchased both the window and aisle seats in a bid to have more space, utilising a travel “trick” that has been popular on TikTok.</p> <p dir="ltr">The method, which has been dubbed the 'poor man's business class', usually leaves travellers with an empty middle seat and more space, and few travellers opt to pick a middle seat. </p> <p dir="ltr">“When I got to my row the man and woman were chatting and sharing a snack... it was obvious they were together. I mentioned to the man that I'm in the middle, and he got up to let me in,” the unsuspecting traveller wrote on Reddit.  </p> <p dir="ltr">“I asked them if they would prefer to sit together, I said I was totally okay with that. The woman reacted rudely to this and said ‘you're not supposed to be sitting here anyway’.”</p> <p dir="ltr">After noticing how the plane was full, she offered to show the pair her new ticket with the correct seat number on it.</p> <p dir="ltr">“She flicked her hand at my ticket and made a disgusted sound. I offered again if they wanted to sit together to which she didn't reply, her partner said it's okay and... made some small talk,” she continued. </p> <p dir="ltr">The man’s girlfriend then interrupted their conversation to ask,”'Did you use one of those third party websites to book your flight? It's so frustrating when people cheap out to inconvenience others.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The American woman explained that she had booked her flight directly and she had been placed on standby like everyone else and didn't choose the middle seat - she was assigned it.</p> <p dir="ltr">She then tried to keep the peace by refusing to engage with the furious woman.  </p> <p dir="ltr">“I was so done with her attitude, I put my headphones on and attempted to do my own thing,” she explained.</p> <p dir="ltr">But the “entitled” girlfriend wasn't letting it go, as the woman explained, “This woman kept reaching over me and tapping her partner and trying to talk to him in a way that was super intrusive.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I could tell even her partner was trying to engage her less so that she would hopefully stop, but she didn't.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“I think they tried to pull that tactic where they don't sit together on purpose...hoping no one will sit between them. But on full flights it doesn't work. And even so - it's not the other person's fault.”</p> <p dir="ltr">The traveller's post was met with hundreds of comments slamming the girlfriend’s behaviour, as one person wrote, “It's like a toddler having a tantrum.”</p> <p dir="ltr">“She was disappointed and a total a**hole. Gross entitled people,” another added. </p> <p dir="ltr">Another person applauded the traveller’s level-headed behaviour, writing, “Wow! You are my hero for keeping it classy - I’m afraid I would not have been as kind as you.”</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Shutterstock </em></p>

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“Worth the wait”: Jacinda Ardern ties the knot

<p dir="ltr">Jacinda Arden and her long-term partner Clarke Gayford have tied the knot, five years after getting engaged. </p> <p dir="ltr">The former New Zealand prime minister shared a series of loved-up photos from the big day, as she beamed from ear to ear as she embraced her new husband. </p> <p dir="ltr">Posting the photos to Instagram, she captioned the post, “13.01.24 Worth the wait”.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ardern, 43, and Gayford, 47, tied the knot at the Craggy Range vineyard in New Zealand’s Hawkes Bay region on Saturday, surrounded by their friends and family. </p> <p dir="ltr">The couple’s five-year-old daughter, Neve, accompanied her father down the aisle, wearing a dress made from her grandmother’s wedding dress.</p> <p dir="ltr">Jacinda wore a white halter neck gown by New Zealand designer Juliette Hogan, paired with a floor-length white veil and an all white bouquet. </p> <p dir="ltr">The wedding came after almost five years of engagement, with the former first couple originally planning to hold the ceremony in 2022 before the Covid pandemic forced the plans into disarray.</p> <p dir="ltr">“My wedding won’t be going ahead but I just join many other New Zealanders who have had an experience like that as a result of the pandemic,” she told reporters in January 2022, adding, “Such is life.”</p> <p dir="ltr">​​The couple began dating in 2014 after Gayford, a marine enthusiast and host of local fishing shows, contacted the then-Labour list MP about proposed legislation in 2013.</p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credits: Instagram - Felicity Jean Weddings</em></p>

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Why you shouldn’t wait to explore incredible Iceland

<p dir="ltr">Iceland, also called the Land of Fire and Ice, is the most peaceful country in the world. It ranks high in social stability, equality, democracy and more. One of the reasons it is so high on the Peace Index is because it is without a standing army - meaning no army, navy or air force.</p> <p dir="ltr">It's got a lot more to offer though as it's home to some of the most remarkable natural landmarks in the world. </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>1. Jökulsárlón Glacier Lagoon</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">A constantly changing natural wonder located on the edge of Vatnajökull National Park in southeast Iceland, Jökulsárlón Glacier Lagoon is famous for its icebergs that break away from the glacier and float in the lagoon before they drift out to sea.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sculptural mountains make for a majestic backdrop with seals swimming between the icebergs and reindeer roaming around the shores.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>2. Diamond Beach</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Just minutes from the lagoon you’ll find Diamond Beach. It features striking black sand and glistens with iceberg fragments drifting ashore. </p> <p dir="ltr">The beach won’t look the same every time you go as new icebergs form once the old ones disappear. A truly unique destination.</p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>3. Skógafoss Waterfall</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">With a width of 25 metres and a drop of 60 metres, Skógafoss Waterfall is one of the largest and most elegant waterfalls in Iceland. Its size leads to a lot of spray, often showcasing single or double rainbows on sunny days. </p> <p dir="ltr"> You can get up close to it by following the river below or taking the stairs next to it to get a stunning view from above. </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>4. Seljalandsfoss Waterfall</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Seljalandsfoss Waterfall is located by a main road, making it one of the most accessible waterfalls and very hard to miss. </p> <p dir="ltr">It drops 60 metres into a tranquil pool below and is one of the few places in the world where you can walk behind a waterfall. </p> <p dir="ltr"><strong>5. Reynisfjara Black Sand Beach</strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Reynisfjara Black Sand Beach is one of the most well-known black sand beaches in the world. It features fine textured soft black sand and a cave with huge geometric columns.  </p> <p dir="ltr">You can see the powerful waves of the Atlantic Ocean meet the shore and the towering basalt sea stacks jutting out from the ocean at 66 metres into the air.<span id="docs-internal-guid-65d3faf7-7fff-1267-2a1e-810c72dfce35"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image credit: Getty</em></p>

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“Worth the wait”: Backstage with Rod Stewart

<p>Rod Stewart has finally returned to Australia, after years of Covid-19 restrictions meant he had to postpone his highly anticipated tour Down Under. </p> <p>Long time fan and friend of the musician Richard Wilkins was one of many who saw the entertainer at his very best during his show in Melbourne, with Wilkins telling Today that the show did not disappoint. </p> <p>"He was in sparkling form last night, putting on a fabulous show and I had the pleasure of catching up with the great man, both backstage and on stage in his inner sanctum," Wilkins said.</p> <p>Stewart have Wilkins an exclusive tour of the stage being set up, while he candidly shared one of the many reasons behind his success: the closeness of his band. </p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr" lang="en">EXCLUSIVE: We went backstage with Sir Rod Stewart ahead of his Melbourne show last night! 🌟<a href="https://twitter.com/hashtag/9Today?src=hash&amp;ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">#9Today</a> | WATCH LIVE 5.30am <a href="https://t.co/0RhkPD0k8J">pic.twitter.com/0RhkPD0k8J</a></p> <p>— The Today Show (@TheTodayShow) <a href="https://twitter.com/TheTodayShow/status/1635756324712480772?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 14, 2023</a></p></blockquote> <p>"They're a good bunch of guys, brothers and sisters - We party with each other, go out to dinner, drink together - No shagging though, they're all spoken for," Stewart said with a cheeky grin.</p> <p>Rod Stewart has regularly toured in Australia since the 1970s and has been itching to get back to the place that has always been encouraging of his music. </p> <p>"This is very special, we haven't been able to come down here since 2017 - we waited a long time for this," he said.</p> <p>"I wouldn't take their money without putting on a show. You know that, Richard, I'm an old showman."</p> <p>Rod Stewart's <a href="https://www.ticketmaster.com.au/rod-stewart-tickets/artist/736200" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Australian tour</a> will conclude with his performance at the A Day on the Green festival in Bowral, NSW, before he heads to New Zealand where he will share the stage with Cyndi Lauper. </p> <p><em>Image credits: Today</em></p>

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"Getting onto the wait list is a battle in itself": insiders on what it takes to get social housing

<p>Social housing has become extremely difficult to access; in 2021 around <a href="https://cityfutures.ada.unsw.edu.au/documents/685/Waithood_paper.pdf">160,000 households</a> were on the waiting list.</p> <p>To have any chance of getting a social housing spot in a reasonable time frame, applicants must be on the priority waiting list; people on the general waiting list <a href="https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/housing/help/applying-assistance/expected-waiting-times">may never get social housing</a>. </p> <p>However, to get on the priority list, applicants need to</p> <ul> <li>have complex needs</li> <li>not be in a position to rent privately and</li> <li>be in danger <a href="https://www.facs.nsw.gov.au/housing/help/applying-assistance/waiting-times">of becoming homeless</a></li> <li>show they have tried to find private rental accommodation.</li> </ul> <p>In short, they have to prove they are massively disadvantaged.</p> <p>To find out more, we interviewed 43 people involved in the social housing application process in NSW, Tasmania and Queensland. This included assessment workers, support workers and government staff.</p> <p>Our <a href="https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/14036096.2022.2085169">study</a>, published in the journal Housing, Theory and Society, found an applicant’s chances of getting on the priority waiting list are much greater if they have help from advocates who know what arguments to make and how. </p> <p>Success can depend on whether advocates can invest a significant amount of emotional effort to help the applicant and connect them to professionals who can track down supporting documentation.</p> <h2>‘An overwhelming process’</h2> <p>The application form for social housing is demanding.</p> <p>In NSW it requires answering 31 questions and – depending on the applicant’s situation – up to 18 supporting documents. </p> <p>Completing the form optimally requires a fair amount of literacy and “cultural capital” – things such as presenting and speaking “well” or being able to draw on the benefits of a good education.</p> <p>Claire (all names used are pseudonyms), a NSW community housing provider worker, said even understanding the application form is challenging, "I think sometimes it’s the interpretation of what is actually required. What are they asking in this question? And if you don’t have the context of why that question is being asked, sometimes it can be very difficult to know how much information to put [in]. Do I just skip it or […] what do I do with that [question], or what does that even mean?"</p> <p>Jess, an assessment team manager in Tasmania, said, "… [the] majority would need assistance and do get help from supports, family and advocates, as it is onerous. Also literacy, language interpretation would be an issue, especially for lower socio-economic cohorts."</p> <p>James, an assessment worker in NSW, said some applicants simply abandon the process, "It’s really an overwhelming process […] Sometimes people will say, “You know […] this is too much. Forget about it.”</p> <p>Marie, a Queensland homelessness worker, said, "It’s more common that they won’t know how to do the process, and so I’ll go through it with them. I assist them with identifying well-being barriers, complete the application with them, get it, and then when it’s approved, also do community housing applications with them if they wish."</p> <h2>The challenge of gathering ‘evidence’</h2> <p>Producing evidence of clients’ vulnerabilities is potentially challenging. </p> <p>Karim, a homelessness support worker in Queensland, said, "So, getting onto the wait list, that is a battle in itself, right? [Part of that is] getting people document ready […] So, say someone is on the streets, we know they are very, very unwell, but they don’t have documents to prove that. We have done the housing application, it’s gone to department of housing and they’re waiting for further information, because this person’s checked that they have chronic health issues. So [the department] want medical documents or confidential medical report from the GP. This person does not have a GP. What do we do? We try and link them in with the GP, take them there […]"</p> <p>Lots of people, their stuff’s stolen. They’re more worried about where the next meal is coming from instead of worrying about IDs. So getting ID documents, medical documents to go along with the housing application, to get it approved, is the first battle."</p> <p>Susan, a women’s refuge worker in Sydney, said, "Every question has […] evidence requirements […] and they have to gather all of that and you know obviously just gathering all of that is a challenge […] But that’s definitely something that we support them with; to get all the support letters and stuff in order."</p> <p>In Queensland and NSW, an applicant who needs social housing because they are fleeing domestic violence needs to provide substantiation.</p> <p>Susan told us, "The types of documents people would have to collect for this question are copies of AVOs (apprehended violence orders), police event numbers, doctor reports (GP or psychiatrist), support letters from social services. So, as you can imagine, these are quite onerous as many people don’t report to police or perhaps their doctor doesn’t record the injuries as resulting from violence. On top of that, if they’ve just experienced violence they might not feel like running around."</p> <h2>Emotional capital: care, empathy and compassion</h2> <p>Working with vulnerable people requires empathy and compassion. </p> <p>Avril, an assessment worker in Tasmania, said, "So much of it is about rapport. These people who are often really sick of systems, really sick of them and they don’t want to divulge their entire life to someone that they’ve just met once. They don’t want to sit still in a small room for an hour and a half."</p> <p>"What we’ve found is that by having Pat, she’s our specialist rough sleeper front door worker, [and] is based in services that they know and frequent. She’s known to them and they do tend to [open up] bit by bit."</p> <p>Jill, an ex-manager in a community housing provider in NSW, explained, "Also refugees or people who are trauma, torture survivors, DFV (domestic and family violence) survivors […] experience additional layers and complexities in applying."</p> <p>"Whilst the system aims to only ask a client to tell their story once and not multiple times, this is not always possible. So it adds further challenges to these applicants and brings up the trauma again, especially if not handled well by untrained staff."</p> <p>Applying for social housing is fraught, onerous and competitive; applicants have to “prove” their vulnerability is greater than others.</p> <p>Assistance from skilled advocates clearly helps get you on the priority wait list, which begs the question: what hope do others have?</p> <p><em>Image credits: Getty Images</em></p> <p><em>This article originally appeared on <a href="https://theconversation.com/getting-onto-the-wait-list-is-a-battle-in-itself-insiders-on-what-it-takes-to-get-social-housing-184838" target="_blank" rel="noopener">The Conversation</a>. </em></p>

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Terminally ill nurse caught in desperate waiting game

<p dir="ltr">A nurse who has months to live as a result of her diagnosis of motor neuron disease (MND) is “virtually paralysed” and waiting for the NSW government to decide how she will die.</p> <p dir="ltr">Sara Wright had been a nurse for 33 years before she was diagnosed with amyotrophic lateral sclerosis (ALS) - a subtype of MND - two years ago, and is now dependent on a carer 24 hours a day.</p> <p dir="ltr">“The disease started as a weakness in my right foot, travelled up my right leg, then my left foot and leg,” the 54-year-old told <em><a href="https://7news.com.au/news/public-health/virtually-paralysed-nurse-waits-for-nsw-parliament-to-decide-how-she-will-die-c-6699939">7NEWS.com.au</a></em>.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Then it travelled up my torso affecting my upper body, firstly my abdominal muscles, and now it affects both of my arms and hands, my lungs and my swallowing and speaking muscles.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Ms Wright, who shared her story via dictation since speaking is difficult and painful, is waiting to see whether voluntary assisted dying laws (VAD) will be passed in the NSW Upper House next week.</p> <p dir="ltr">If they don’t pass, she says she will likely “have to deal with suffocating or choking to death”.</p> <p dir="ltr">“It’s a terminal illness and the average life expectancy is three to five years,” she explained.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Given I have already been living with the disease for three years, and the progression has been faster than I ever could have expected, I don’t know how long I will live.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I don’t think that I will live for more than another six to eight months, as my breathing capacity is reducing very fast and I do not wish to have a tracheostomy (an operation where a breathing hole is cut into the front of the neck and windpipe).”</p> <p dir="ltr">ALS/MND is more common among adults aged between 40 and 70 years, with 384 people diagnosed each day according to the <a href="https://www.als-mnd.org/what-is-alsmnd/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">International Alliance of ALS/MND Associations</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ms Wright’s career as a nurse made her all too aware of the “limitations of palliative care in the final stages of terminal illness”, so she initially planned to book into Dignitas, a non-profit organisation in Switzerland that offers a range of end-of-life services.</p> <p dir="ltr">But, the COVID-19 pandemic derailed her plan with the closure of international borders.</p> <p dir="ltr">She then considered moving interstate, where VAD is legal, but she worried about uprooting her 15-year-old daughter, Ester, from her home and friends, especially since most of their family is UK-based.</p> <p dir="ltr">“(Ester) is now 15 and she needs to have her community around her for support when I die,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“Obviously this is an incredibly difficult conversation to have with your own child.</p> <p dir="ltr">“We have not specifically spoken about what could happen to me if the laws aren’t passed … but I have tried to assure her that family in the UK will fly out to be with her as soon as they can if I die unexpectedly.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Ms Wright’s fate is tied to the voluntary assisted dying bill, which passed through the NSW Parliament’s lower house last year and is legal or will soon be legal in <a href="https://end-of-life.qut.edu.au/assisteddying" target="_blank" rel="noopener">every other state</a> except NSW.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I know that all my family, my parents, my brothers, my ex-husband are all in support of voluntary assisted dying and helping me relieve my suffering,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“But none of us want to break the law or risk anyone being imprisoned if they helped me.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Since the bill entered the upper house last March, it has been debated passionately and passed through a second reading stage last week.</p> <p dir="ltr">It has even divided the state’s core leadership, with Premier Dominic Perrottet opposing the bill in favour of improving palliative care and Health Minister Brad Hazzard supporting it - despite opposing euthanisia for 29 years.</p> <p dir="ltr">Ms Wright, a strong supporter of VAD laws, has been brought close to the death of others during her nursing career and said she was “pretty certain” that if members debating the bill had seen people die uncomfortable, drawn-out deaths like she had, they would support the bill.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I have seen far too many people, elderly people, in the middle of the night in a ward without anyone there to hold their hand because nobody knew that was going to be their time to die,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I think that most people don’t think enough about death because we are all frightened of it.</p> <p dir="ltr">“And this could be the reason that some people are refusing to consider VAD laws, because it’s a topic that is deeply uncomfortable and taboo.</p> <p dir="ltr">“If we as a society were more mindfully aware and thoughtful about death, as it is the only certain outcome of life, then perhaps people would develop more compassion.”</p> <p dir="ltr">Though the laws could still be passed at some point if it fails to pass in next week’s final vote, Ms Wright said it would affect her whole family if it was too late for her to take advantage of it.</p> <p dir="ltr">“This will not only cause suffering to me but also to all of my family,” she said.</p> <p dir="ltr">“I wonder how many people have really stopped to think about what they would like, if they were in a position where they were going to die of (an) unpleasant and drawn-out death.”</p> <p><span id="docs-internal-guid-efb8451b-7fff-fb48-8f9b-0af951ee000d"></span></p> <p dir="ltr"><em>Image: 7News</em></p>

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I’m over 50 and hesitant about the AstraZeneca COVID vaccine. Should I wait for Pfizer?

<p>It’s been well documented that there’s a significant level of <a href="https://www.smh.com.au/politics/federal/older-australians-especially-older-women-most-concerned-about-covid-vaccines-20210519-p57tc4.html">vaccine hesitancy</a> in the Australian community at the moment. This appears to be a particular issue among adults over 50 concerning the AstraZeneca vaccine, for which this group is now eligible.</p> <p>Hesitancy over the AstraZeneca vaccine, likely to be stemming largely from the very small risk of blood clots, is leading <a href="https://www.abc.net.au/news/2021-05-21/experts-urge-over-50s-to-get-astrazeneca-covid19-vaccine/100154574">some people to ask</a>: can’t I just wait and get the Pfizer vaccine later?</p> <p>It didn’t help things when federal health minister Greg Hunt <a href="https://www.theguardian.com/australia-news/2021/may/20/do-not-wait-to-be-vaccinated-greg-hunt-says-after-earlier-comments-sparked-confusion">said yesterday</a> there will be enough supply of the mRNA vaccines (Pfizer and Moderna) later in the year for anyone concerned about the AstraZeneca shot. Hunt has since pedalled back on his remarks.</p> <p>Despite the mixed messaging, you shouldn’t wait for a Pfizer or Moderna vaccine later. There are a number of benefits to getting the AstraZeneca jab now.</p> <h2>Thinking about the blood clot risk</h2> <p>Thrombosis with thrombocytopenia syndrome (<a href="https://www.health.gov.au/initiatives-and-programs/covid-19-vaccines/learn-about-covid-19-vaccines/about-the-astrazeneca-covid-19-vaccine#thrombosis-with-thrombocytopenia-syndrome-tts">TTS</a>), an unusual blood clotting disorder, has been associated with the AstraZeneca vaccine.</p> <p>It’s important to emphasise it’s not unreasonable to have concerns about the risk of a potentially serious side effect from the AstraZeneca vaccine, or any other vaccine. The challenge is in understanding the magnitude of this risk, putting this risk into perspective, and then weighing up the risks versus the benefits before making a decision.</p> <p>The difficulty is your brain plays a variety of tricks on you when you try to make sense of risks like this. For example, we have a <a href="https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5773401/">tendency to perceive</a> the risks of very rare adverse outcomes (such as TTS) as being greater than they are.</p> <p>We also tend to be more concerned about negative consequences that may arise as a result of our actions than our inactions. That is, we’re generally <a href="https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpubh.2020.614113/full">more worried</a> about a potential adverse outcome from taking a vaccine than any adverse outcome that may result from not taking it. This of course isn’t logical, but is another one of the errors we make in processing risks.</p> <p>In terms of assessing the risk of TTS associated with the AstraZeneca vaccine for over 50s, we’ve always known the risk is very low.</p> <p>At the time of writing this article the Therapeutic Goods Administration’s <a href="https://www.tga.gov.au/periodic/covid-19-vaccine-weekly-safety-report-20-05-2021">COVID-19 weekly vaccine safety report</a> reported there had been 21 confirmed cases of TTS out of about 2.1 million doses of the AstraZeneca vaccine administered. This is equivalent to one case per 100,000 vaccinations.</p> <p>Importantly, as we’ve got better at detecting and treating this condition, the <a href="https://www.theage.com.au/national/nsw/thousands-of-astrazeneca-shots-pile-up-in-federal-run-clinics-as-gps-wait-20210520-p57tqp.html">likelihood of severe outcomes</a> from TTS have come down considerably. So the rare risk of serious illness from this syndrome looks to be even rarer than we first thought.</p> <p>To put TTS into perspective, it’s also useful to note we see around <a href="https://www1.racgp.org.au/newsgp/clinical/blood-clot-death-likely-linked-to-astrazeneca-covi">50 blood clots</a> unrelated to TTS every day in Australia.</p> <h2>Weighing the risks against the benefits</h2> <p>The benefits of getting the AstraZeneca vaccine are considerable for over 50s, from both an individual and a community perspective.</p> <p>When opting to get a vaccine, you’re protecting yourself against the future risk of infection and possible severe illness. For over 50s who contract COVID the risk of severe illness and death is <a href="https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/need-extra-precautions/older-adults.html">very real</a>. We’re also learning many people who get COVID-19 suffer with ongoing and sometimes debilitating symptoms, a phenomenon called “<a href="https://www.bhf.org.uk/informationsupport/heart-matters-magazine/news/coronavirus-and-your-health/long-covid">long COVID</a>”.</p> <p>Another factor which may be driving hesitancy around the AstraZeneca vaccine is the perception the Pfizer vaccine works better. But the most recent data suggest any difference in the performance of these vaccines may be smaller than we originally believed.</p> <p>Although phase 3 clinical trial data indicated the AstraZeneca vaccine had an efficacy of <a href="https://www.thelancet.com/journals/lancet/article/PIIS0140-6736(20)32661-1/fulltext">around 70%</a>, new real-world data <a href="https://www.theage.com.au/world/europe/two-astrazeneca-shots-could-be-85-90-per-cent-effective-uk-data-suggests-20210521-p57ttr.html">from the United Kingdom</a> tells us it could be as much as 85%-90% effective in protecting against symptomatic COVID-19.</p> <p>This is positive news and not far off the 95% figure for the Pfizer vaccine seen in <a href="https://www.pfizer.com/news/press-release/press-release-detail/pfizer-and-biontech-conclude-phase-3-study-covid-19-vaccine">clinical trials</a> and in <a href="https://www.independent.co.uk/news/health/pfizer-vaccine-coronavirus-israel-data-b1842617.html">the real world</a>.</p> <p>And apart from effectively protecting against severe illness and death from the original strain, the AstraZeneca vaccine appears to work <a href="https://theconversation.com/im-over-50-and-can-now-get-my-covid-vaccine-is-the-astrazeneca-vaccine-safe-does-it-work-what-else-do-i-need-to-know-159814">almost as well</a> in protecting against more severe outcomes for variants of concern, such as the UK variant. Early signs also suggest the vaccine is working quite well to reduce transmission of the virus.</p> <p>It’s also important to understand — and this applies to all age groups — that we’re getting vaccinated for the health of the community as a whole.</p> <p>Although a great deal of the success or failure of the vaccination program has been framed in terms of reaching herd immunity, we don’t need to reach a certain threshold for the community to reap benefits. Every vaccine delivered makes a difference as the greater the proportion of the population vaccinated, the more difficult it is for the virus to spread.</p> <p>As we’ve seen in <a href="https://www.bbc.com/news/world-asia-57153195">Taiwan</a> in recent weeks, being complacent about COVID is flirting with danger.</p> <p>Even though we don’t have community transmission of COVID in Australia now, and we may feel safe and secure in this climate, we need to remember things could change very quickly.</p> <p> </p> <h2>Get the jab</h2> <p>There’s really no logical reason for someone over 50 to wait for an alternative to the AstraZeneca vaccine, like Pfizer or Moderna. If you do choose to wait, there’s no guarantee when any alternative might be available, and in the interim you risk leaving yourself vulnerable.</p> <p>By stepping up to get your vaccine as soon as you can, you protect yourself against severe COVID and make a significant contribution to putting this pandemic behind us, including getting Australia closer to opening up international borders.</p> <hr /> <p><em>Correction: this article previously referred to data from the Department of Health on the prevalence of TTS. But this was international data; the TGA figures are the most up-to-date for the Australian context.</em><!-- Below is The Conversation's page counter tag. 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"They should have waited": Thomas Markle's response to Oprah interview

<div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text redactor-styles redactor-in"> <p>Meghan Markle's estranged father Thomas Markle has spoken out about the controversial tell-all interview between Prince Harry, Meghan Markle and Oprah.</p> <p>Thomas spoke to <em>Good Morning Britain</em> about the interview, saying it was "way over the top".</p> <p>"I totally agree that they went way over the top with these stories with Oprah and should have waited considering the Queen's age and Philip's age they certainly should have waited or tried to wait," he said.</p> <p>He also said that he felt let down by his daughter and son-in-law as they didn't visit him in hospital.</p> <p>"I was in a hospital bed the last time we talked and I never heard from them again. They didn't care if I died, I never heard from them again … and they have not talked to me since," he said.</p> <p>"When my father was in the hospital, me and my three brothers showed up the very next day. That's what family does."</p> <p>Thomas mentioned that he doesn't think the royal family are racist, despite claims from Meghan and Harry that they are.</p> <p>"This whole thing about the colour and how dark the baby is, is bulls---. I married a very beautiful black woman and had a beautiful child and if she had turned out dark it wouldn't have been a problem, anything in between it wouldn't have been a problem, (she was) a beautiful baby."</p> <p>"The thing about what colour will her baby be or how dark will her baby be, I'm guessing and hoping it's just a dumb question from somebody. It could just be that simple, somebody's asked a stupid question rather than it being a total racist."</p> <blockquote class="twitter-tweet"> <p dir="ltr">Thomas Markle reacts to bombshell Oprah interview in GMB world exclusive<a href="https://t.co/DN185hhPmc">https://t.co/DN185hhPmc</a></p> — Good Morning Britain (@GMB) <a href="https://twitter.com/GMB/status/1369216040748650498?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw">March 9, 2021</a></blockquote> <p>When Thomas was asked about Meghan's revelations that she had contemplated suicide, he said he would have supported his daughter.</p> <p>"I've been pushed around and knocked down for one thing I did (releasing part of a personal letter from Meghan to the press), for one big mistake I made, and I've apologised for it as many times as I possibly can," he said.</p> <p>"However I love my daughter very much, had I known she was having psychological problems I would have been there for her."</p> <p>He said that "the biggest problem … is she's pretty much ghosted all of her family, on her mother's side and my side".</p> <p>"She really had no one to reach out to, she would have had us if she kept us."</p> <p>Thomas also revealed why he sells stories to the press.</p> <p>"Bottom line, I’ve never heard back from Meghan and Harry in any way shape or form.</p> <p>"What I do if I don’t hear from them, is I’ll do another story for the press."</p> <p>"I’ve yet to hear from them. I would love to hear from them. They’re not talking to me. When they decide to talk to me, I’ll stop talking to the press.”</p> <p>"I’ve been pushed around and knocked down for one big mistake I made." </p> </div> </div> </div>

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"We couldn't wait": Bindi Irwin and Chandler Powell reveal pregnancy

<p>Bindi Irwin and husband Chandler Powell excitedly announced on Instagram that they are expecting a "baby wildlife warrior due 2021."</p> <p>We couldn't wait to share the news."</p> <p>"Chandler and I are proud to announce that we’re expecting!" Irwin told her followers on Instagram on Tuesday night.</p> <p>"Though I’m still in my first trimester, we really want you to be part of our journey from the beginning of this new life chapter."</p> <blockquote style="background: #FFF; border: 0; border-radius: 3px; box-shadow: 0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width: 540px; min-width: 326px; padding: 0; width: calc(100% - 2px);" class="instagram-media" data-instgrm-captioned="" data-instgrm-permalink="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDvqncwhmXJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" data-instgrm-version="12"> <div style="padding: 16px;"> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: row; align-items: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 50%; flex-grow: 0; height: 40px; margin-right: 14px; width: 40px;"></div> <div style="display: flex; flex-direction: column; flex-grow: 1; justify-content: center;"> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; margin-bottom: 6px; width: 100px;"></div> <div style="background-color: #f4f4f4; border-radius: 4px; flex-grow: 0; height: 14px; width: 60px;"></div> </div> </div> <div style="padding: 19% 0;"></div> <div style="display: block; height: 50px; margin: 0 auto 12px; width: 50px;"></div> <div style="padding-top: 8px;"> <div style="color: #3897f0; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: 550; line-height: 18px;">View this post on Instagram</div> </div> <p style="margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;"><a style="color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/p/CDvqncwhmXJ/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank">Baby Wildlife Warrior due 2021. Chandler and I are proud to announce that we’re expecting! It’s an honour to share this special moment in our lives with you. Though I’m still in my first trimester, we really want you to be part of our journey from the beginning of this new life chapter. We couldn’t wait to share the news as this beautiful little being has become the most important part of our lives. Your support means the world to us. Please let me know your best advice and send good vibes &amp; prayers to our little sweetheart. Love &amp; light. ❤️</a></p> <p style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;">A post shared by <a style="color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;" rel="noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/bindisueirwin/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading" target="_blank"> Bindi Irwin</a> (@bindisueirwin) on Aug 11, 2020 at 2:56am PDT</p> </div> </blockquote> <div class="post_body_wrapper"> <div class="post_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>She couldn't contain her joy and asked for "good vibes".</p> <p>"Your support means the world to us. Please let me know your best advice and send good vibes &amp; prayers to our little sweetheart. Love &amp; light," she wrote.</p> <p>Her husband excitedly commented that "you're going to be the best mother," with a heart emoji.</p> <p>The photo was a hit with fans, racking up more than 1.2 million likes.</p> <p>The pair got married on March 25, just hours before Australia banned weddings attended by more than five people.</p> <p>In her vows, Irwin described her relationship with the 23-year-old - who proposed on her 21st birthday - as “genuine, unconditional love”.</p> <p>“A love like this is meant to be felt, in every part of our soul,” she said.</p> </div> </div> </div>

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​Royal lock-out: Embarrassing blunder leaves Queen waiting

<p><span>Queen Elizabeth has undergone an embarrassing security blunder after being locked outside the gates of her home.</span><br /><br /><span>The monarch and her security team were unable to enter the Windsor Castle premises in two Range Rovers on Thursday afternoon.</span><br /><br /><span>The rare blunder occurred while Her Majesty was sat wearing a headscarf sitting in the backseat, while she and her team were left waiting outside the Nelson’s Gate entrance.</span><br /><br /><span>Reports say a member of staff forget to let her inside.<br /></span></p> <p><img style="width: 500px; height: 281.25px;" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/7835020/queen.jpg" alt="" data-udi="umb://media/dbaf58b0dc7740caa4f521851cec08b6" /><br /><br /><span>Pictures taken of the royal mistake show a female bodyguard attempting to open the heavy wooden gate blocking their entrance.</span><br /><br /><span>The error was made apparent when the two vehicles performed a U-turn and drove through a remote-controlled gate in a second approach.</span><br /><br /><span>The Windsor Estate is the Queen's favourite residence and she usually arrives there on Thursday afternoons and leaves again on Tuesday.</span><br /><br /><span>One onlooker told the Daily Mail they had "never seen anything like it in 30 years".</span><br /><br /><span>"I'm not sure if someone was sleeping on the job or simply that they were not expecting her, but it's unheard of," the source said.</span><br /><br /><span>"And it's not often you get to see a queen locked out of her own castle."</span></p>

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"We're waiting for you": Madeleine McCann’s parents pay tribute on her 16th birthday

<div> <div class="replay"> <div class="reply_body body linkify"> <div class="reply_body"> <div class="body_text "> <p>Madeleine McCann’s parents have marked her 16th birthday with a touching message.</p> <p>Earlier this month marked 12 years since Madeleine disappeared from the family’s resort apartment room in Praia da Luz, Portugal on May 3, 2007, just days before her fourth birthday.</p> <p>On Madeleine’s birthday, which falls on May 12, parents Kate and Gerry McCann marked the date with a message to their daughter on a Facebook page.</p> <p>“Happy 16th Birthday, Madeleine!” they wrote alongside a photograph of Madeleine. “We love you and we’re waiting for you and we’re never going to give up. #ForAsLongAsItTakes”</p> <iframe src="https://www.facebook.com/plugins/post.php?href=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2FOfficial.Find.Madeleine.Campaign%2Fposts%2F10157177274719931&amp;width=500" width="500" height="645" style="border: none; overflow: hidden;" scrolling="no" frameborder="0" allowtransparency="true" allow="encrypted-media"></iframe> <p>In an 2017 interview with <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-39757287" target="_blank">BBC</a>’s Fiona Bruce, the parents said they still celebrated Madeleine’s birthday with presents. </p> <p>“I obviously have to think about what age she is and something that, whenever we find her, will still be appropriate,” said Kate.</p> <p>“But I couldn’t not, you know; she’s still our daughter, she’ll always be our daughter.”</p> <p>In her 2011 book <em>Madeleine: Our Daughter’s Disappearance and the Continuing Search for Her</em>, Kate also wrote about how her family would leave presents in Madeleine’s bedroom.</p> <p>“As we’ve continued to do since, we had a tea party at home with balloons, cake, cards and presents,” she wrote, as reported by <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.express.co.uk/news/uk/1124423/madeleine-mccann-disappearance-netflix-documentary-birthday-kate-mccann-gerry-mccann-spt" target="_blank"><em>Express</em></a>.</p> <p>“The presents go into Madeleine’s room to await her return. Her pink bedroom remains exactly as it was when she left it but it’s a lot busier now.”</p> <p>On the 12th anniversary of Madeleine’s disappearance, Kate and Gerry shared a statement expressing their gratefulness for the support they received from around the world. </p> <p>“There is comfort and reassurance though in knowing that the investigation continues and many people around the world remain vigilant,” they wrote.</p> <p>“Thank you to everyone who continues to support us and for your ongoing hope and belief.”</p> </div> </div> </div> </div> </div>

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"You will literally wait for hours!": Frustrated woman vents about husband's odd bathroom habit

<p>A woman has been left wondering whether she was in the right to complain about her husband’s odd bathroom habit.</p> <p>The wife and mother has been left frustrated by her partner, who would take over the house’s bathroom for anywhere from 45 minutes to two hours at a time.</p> <p>Writing on <a rel="noopener" href="https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/bbvgh2/aita_for_getting_pissy_about_my_husbands_bathroom/" target="_blank">Reddit</a>, the woman said the long bathroom breaks often kept her and her young son from using the loo when needed. </p> <p>“Fortunately, my son has a private little corner of our backyard where he can go relieve himself in emergencies, but it can be torture for myself or any other women stuck waiting to tinkle,” she shared.</p> <p>Explaining that the situation had been going on for years, she said the wait would be longer if her husband decided to take a shower after relieving himself. </p> <p>“You will literally wait for hours! I have finally got him to where he will unlock the door before he jumps in the shower so we can at least get in to relieve ourselves.”</p> <p>She suspected that her partner has not been using the bathroom for anything related to bodily functions. </p> <p>“I have to go in after him and a lot of time it doesn’t even smell! Zero evidence that he was ‘using the facilities’,” she vented.</p> <p>“I really don’t want to know what he does with his bathroom time, I just want him to be more respectful of the fact that other people have needs too!”</p> <p>Many people jumped in to reassure the woman that her concerns are valid. </p> <p>“That sounds excessive and rude. Is he reading? Needs a quiet place?” one commented. “Something is up!”</p> <p>Another wrote, “He’s being really inconsiderate ... and honestly it kinda sounds like he’s just chilling in there to avoid his childcare responsibilities.”</p> <p>The woman was also encouraged to address the issue with her husband. </p> <p>“I think you really ought to ask the reason,” one advised. “It’s possible he has a condition he’s embarrassed about that you could help him with. Or it’s possible he needs alone time and tries to get it this way. In any case, I don’t see this getting better without you insisting on getting the reason.”</p> <p>Another user chimed in, saying, “The fact that your son has learned to pee in the yard because daddy monopolizes the bathroom is shocking. That isn’t normal … What you are dealing with is really terrible and this isn’t going to be easy to fix. Counselling would be a good idea.”</p> <p>What do you think of the bathroom dilemma? Share your thoughts in the comments.</p>

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Thoughts we’ve all had while waiting in line for the loo

<p><em><strong>Jacqueline Steyn, 72, finds comfort in expressing herself in stories and poetry. It was not until she reached her seniors year, where age and lived experience gave her the confidence and courage, that she began to showcase her writing.</strong></em> </p> <p align="center"><span style="text-decoration: underline;">The Lady in Waiting</span></p> <p align="center">Have you ever gone to a public loo?</p> <p align="center">And had to stand at the end of a queue</p> <p align="center">Have you counted heads to pass the time?</p> <p align="center">Only to find you’re eighth in line</p> <p align="center">Counted four cubicles, one’s out of order</p> <p align="center">Have you dreaded the sound of running water?</p> <p align="center">Have you seen a woman come out in a blush?</p> <p align="center">When embarrassed she said, “The cistern won’t flush.”</p> <p align="center">Only two working loo’s now and you’re still in line</p> <p align="center">You cross your legs and curse the wine</p> <p align="center">Have you practised pelvic floor exercises?</p> <p align="center">And hoped and prayed there are no surprises</p> <p align="center">Please let there be no unexpected leak</p> <p align="center">After having babies the bladder is weak</p> <p align="center">Ever so slowly the queue’s getting shorter</p> <p align="center">That dreaded sound of running water</p> <p align="center">In rushes a pregnant woman with a toddler in tow</p> <p align="center">“It’s urgent please I really must go!”</p> <p align="center">She let out a scream before she spoke</p> <p align="center">Behind the door her waters broke</p> <p align="center">Next enters the cleaner with her mop and her broom</p> <p align="center">She orders you out whilst she cleans the room</p> <p align="center">Have you ever rushed to the Gentlemen’s loo?</p> <p align="center">If you were as desperate what would you do?</p> <p><em><strong>If you have a story to share please get in touch at <a href="mailto:melody@oversity.com.au">melody@oversity.com.au</a></strong></em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.com.au/health/mind/2016/09/jacqueline-steyn-poem-on-getting-older/">A 72-year-old’s moving poem on getting older</a></strong></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.com.au/health/caring/2016/06/poem-highlights-the-beauty-of-ageing/">Poem highlights the beauty of ageing</a></strong></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.com.au/health/caring/2016/03/wifes-touching-poem-for-sick-husband/">A wife’s touching poem for sick husband</a></strong></em></span></p>

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Married couple wait 9 years to open wedding present

<p>When they married nine years ago, Brandon and Kathy Gunn received a rather unusual gift from Kathy’s great-aunt Alison – a large white box labelled, “Do not open until your first disagreement.”</p> <p>For many couples, this would have only been a few months, weeks, or perhaps even days. For Brandon and Kathy, however, it was nine years. “Now, there had obviously been plenty of disagreements, arguments and slammed doors throughout our nine years,” Kathy wrote on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/lovewhatreallymatters/posts/1223464041009325:0" target="_blank"><strong><span style="text-decoration: underline;">Facebook</span></strong></a>. “There were even a couple of instances where we both considered giving up… but we never opened the box.</p> <p>“I honestly think that we both avoided turning to the box, because it would have symbolized our failure. To us, it would have meant that we didn’t have what it takes to make our marriage work – and we’re both too stubborn and determined for that. So, it forced us to reassess situations.”</p> <p>The pair held off opening the box for almost a decade, but decided to open it when brainstorming gift ideas for a friend’s upcoming wedding. And what did they find?</p> <p><img width="500" height="500" src="https://oversixtydev.blob.core.windows.net/media/27185/14124959_1223464041009325_6739882619771924403_o_500x500.jpg" alt="wedding gift" style="display: block; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"/></p> <p>The box contained two wine glasses and two envelopes. In the envelope for Kathy was some money and a note telling her to order a pizza and get a bath ready. In Brandon’s envelope there was some more money and a note instructing him to “get flowers and a bottle of wine.”</p> <p>“For nine years (and three moves) that box sat high on a shelf in various closets gathering dust, yet it somehow taught us about tolerance, understanding, compromise and patience,” Kathy explained. “Our marriage strengthened as we became best friends, partners, and teammates.</p> <p>“Today, we decided to open that box, because I finally had a realization. I realized that the tools for creating and maintaining a strong, healthy marriage were never within that box – they were within us.”</p> <p>What a unique idea. Tell us in the comments below, what wedding gift did you receive that meant the most to you?</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><a href="/news/news/2016/09/couple-still-in-love-after-85-years-together/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Couple who fell in love at the age of nine still together 85 years later</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/news/news/2016/09/sisters-organise-wedding-shoot-with-father/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Single sisters organise wedding photoshoot for father with Alzheimer’s</strong></em></span></a></p> <p><a href="/news/news/2016/08/couple-eats-61-year-old-wedding-cake/"><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><strong>Couple celebrates 61st anniversary by eating original wedding cake</strong></em></span></a></p>

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Flight attendant adopts stray dog who waited for her for 6 months

<p>A German flight attendant has adopted a stray dog after it waited outside her hotel room for six months.</p> <p>Olivia Sievers first met Rubio in Buenos Aires during one of her frequent trips to Argentina. The good samaritan gave the lonely, homeless pup some attention and food, and left to check in to her hotel. </p> <p>For Rubio, it was love at first sight. Every time that Sievers was in Buenos Aires, Rubio would somehow know and turn up to the doors of her hotel lobby.</p> <p>“I tried to change my way as I didn’t want him to follow me to the hotel but it was not possible, he always followed me so I tried [to wait] one hour but he always watched me and followed me,” Sievers told <em>Noticiero Trece.</em></p> <p>Feeling guilty, the flight attendant even found a home for the stray pup, but he escaped it and returned to the hotel to wait for her. </p> <p>By this time, Rubio had worn Olivia down and she knew she had to take him home with her.</p> <p>Rubio is no stray anymore, and is enjoying his new life in Germany with two other dogs and his human soul mate.</p> <p>Scroll through the gallery above to see the heart-warming images.</p> <p>Do you have any incredible stories about a stray animal you adopted? Let us know the comments below.</p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2016/08/is-it-safe-to-travel-to-france/"><em>Is it safe to travel to France?</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2016/08/5-sounds-you-hear-on-the-plane-explained/"><em>5 strange sounds you hear during a flight explained</em></a></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/travel/travel-tips/2016/08/secret-way-to-raise-the-armrest-on-your-aisle-seat/"><em>There is a secret way to raise the armrest on your aisle seat</em></a></strong></span></p>

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This pooch just can’t wait to bring the paper in

<p>The long, cold walk from your front step to the morning paper sitting at the end of your driveway can be quite a difficult one, particularly in the colder months.</p> <p>But it’s one the owners of this Labrador never have to make.</p> <p>In the video above we meet Molly, an adorable dog who gets up at the crack of dawn every day to perform her favourite task, which is fetching the morning paper.</p> <p>While this in and off itself might not be especially remarkable, it’s the enthusiasm with which Molly performs her task that sets her apart. She’s brimming with excitement and energy, literally running around in circles as her owner slowly opens the front door.</p> <p>And she’s quite clever, in the way she fetches the paper and dutifully brings it back to her owner (who gratefully doesn’t have to step out into the cold).</p> <p>Now Molly is one dog that really lives up to the label “man’s best friend”. Do you have a dog that performs funny tricks like this? Let us know in the comments below. </p> <p><em>Video credit: YouTube / KC CK</em></p> <p><strong>Related links:</strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/health/body/2016/04/dog-dental-assistant-helps-calm-patients/"><strong>Dog dental assistant helps calm patients</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2016/02/golden-retriever-cleans-house/"><strong>Eager golden retriever cleans the house</strong></a></em></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><em><a href="/news/news/2016/02/golden-retriever-plays-fetch-with-kitten/"><strong>Golden retriever masters cat toy to play with kitten</strong></a></em></span></p>

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Prince William reveals George “can’t wait” for Christmas

<p>It looks like Prince George is like any other toddler counting down the days to Christmas – and a visit from Santa.</p> <p>Prince William told <em>The Daily Mail</em> that George has “suddenly worked out what Christmas is all about”.</p> <p>"George will be bouncing around like a rabbit," the Duke of Cambridge admitted in an interview, adding, “If I get any sleep on Christmas Eve it'll be good!"</p> <p>The father-of-two expects the lead-up to Christmas will “be quite challenging” but he’s looking forward to it. Prince William also revealed his family’s plan for the festive season.</p> <p>"We'll go to church as a family on Christmas Day, as we always do. Then we'll watch George try to tackle his presents as he tries to unwrap them. It's a very different experience at Christmas, having a family of your own."</p> <p>But William still has one more request to complete his fairytale Christmas with his family.</p> <p>"It'd be nice if we got a white Christmas because we haven't had one in many years.”</p> <p><strong>Related links: </strong></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2015/11/funny-things-grandkids-say-part-4/">The funniest things grandkids kids say</a></em></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2015/11/sacrifices-grandparents-make-study/">The many things grandparents sacrifice for their family</a></em></strong></span></p> <p><span style="text-decoration: underline;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.oversixty.co.nz/lifestyle/family-pets/2015/11/interspecies-animal-friendships/">15 unlikely friendships that will melt your heart</a></em></strong></span></p>

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